Should I contact him? Confused!

[TwiLight172]

I'm 21, he's 23. I was in a 3 year relationship. Everything was great with the exception of our last few months. He was growing in a different direction always wanting to be with his friends- He wanted to be single again. About a month ago after getting drunk with his buddies he cheated on me. Two weeks ago he broke up with me and confessed that he had to because he had cheated on me. He said he didn't want to be in a relationship with anyone, and doesn't want to see other people but he wants to be alone and focus on his school. I was devastated and tried to get back with him but eventually i ended up breaking up with him because I could see how confused he was and I was the only one keeping our relationship together. He emailed me saying that he loved me (Which I know is true) but right now he felt that he needed time apart. Almost two weeks later (and having NO contact at all) he emails me and tells me basically the same thing- That it's SO HARD not to call me, that he misses me, feels alone, and will never love anyone as much as he loves me, and that I shouldn't think he's trying to erase me from his life BUT that he still needs to be single. What was the point in contacting me? Does he want me to contact him? What do I say if I should contact him? People tell me not to email him back and others say to do it. Who is right? I love him and I DO want to give it a second try but I dont want to risk our chances of being together. Will the "No contact" rule work? Please help.

[kuhl282000]

Hello

 

The no contact rule is to make your ex miss you and give you time to heal. I broke up with someone and had no contact for around 2 months. She did contact me on several occasions. It works sometimes and i guess some people move on in other cases. If i had to guess i would say do to the things you posted and the length of the relationship, that he would contact you. Maybe he needs to be single. Cheating is a very serious violation of any relationship. It happened to me. I tried to go back a second time and give it a chance. But the trust was gone, and I just could not seem to mustard it up again. Follow your heart, just protect it a bit this time. We all make mistakes and do stupid things in the name of love. I know I sure did. The word love takes into play a range of deep emotions.

I always wondered why we hurt the ones we love the most sometimes.

 

Good luck

Kuhl