Does she likes me ?

[GoodBye]

Sorry , a bit long :

 

There is a girl in my university that i like very much, but i dont know does she likes me too or not.We met us 6 months ago and became very good friends.In the beginning she often calls, txt msg me, seeked help from me, we often talked alone about herself ( that's why i think she feels comfortable and safe with me), she had touched me on the shoulder numerous times and everythink was looking pretty well, nut after New Year she became more cold with me, she doesnt call me, often doesnt say " Hi " when we meet eachother, doesnt smile (usually she smiles everytime she talks with some friend), before she looked happy when she saw me but know it doesnt seem so. I asked her best girlfriend to ask her what she thinks about me, but she refused to do that and said to me that she havent said somethink bad for me, only good things,when my (and her) friends visit her she asked about me, and that she really worries her about me and when I found myself a job ( a have had a bit of financial problems) she was really happy.I know she likes me as a friend but I dont know if she likes me, liked me or can like me in the future for something more then that.Is this a lost case for me ?

 

Forgot to mention : I'm almost 20 and she is 20 1/2.

[inu yasha]

Hi Goodbye,

 

Welcome to eNotalone.com.

 

I know exactly what your going through i went through the same with a close girl friend who after the new year has become alot cold. She doesn't reply to my txts, i did have feelings for her but she allready got a bf. At first i thought it was her bf that had told her to stay clear from me even though i was one of her best friends. After that i thought had i done something to upset her and i asked her and she said "No" and some days at college i don't really talk that much with her because i don't have that comfortable feeling i once had with her where i could share all my problems and emotions. I don't really know if it is some stage that girls go through but it puzzles me and she's still like this even today. Some days she's herself and other it's like don't come near me or do i know you? sort of day and i don't know really how to take it, it's as if she has a multiple personality.

 

It's obviously a confusing time for girls or something, because i'm trying to work round it and trying to make her happy but "You win some you lose some". I have thought about giving up with her but i never do, funny i guess i really do love her (as a friend) to lose her over something like this.

 

I hope it everything work out ok, keep me updated i'd like to know what happens

 

Inu Yasha

[Beautiful_Disaster]

Right.. Well I think your best bet would be to just come straight out and ask her what she thinks of you.. And if she could ever "Like you in that way".. I mean come on.. Whats the worst she could say?!.. No, Thats it.. And thats not really THAT bad is it? And at least then you'll know.. And you won't spend the rest of your life wondering if she liked you or not. And she could say yes! She could say she finds you extremly attractive and she wants to "Get with you" and then it could be the start of something special.. So yeah, Just ask her!!!

[Silversun]

I may be wrong but what you guys just said fits exactly in with the girl I know. I'm going to do exactly what beautiful_disaster said and ask her what she thinks of and whether she could see something between us.

 

That Way I won't have to worry so much.

 

Thanks for you words of wisdom people, much appreciated.

[shawna]

I agree. You have to express how youe feel. Girls hate games just as much as guys do. She might be going through a hard time right now and isn't sure how to express herself. She could be having these "mood swings" because she did at one point like you and isn't so sure anymore. Or found out you liked her and isn't sure how to act around you now. Best thing is to express how you feel. It will take a lot of pressure off of you and relief. Hope this helps

[Silversun]

I think I'm starting to understand girls now. I'm a right in saying that some women who you think are trying the 'no contact' thing and not talking to you are actually just as worried as you are?

 

I think that the girls want the record to be set straight just as much as boys do.

[shawna]

Of course they do. Guys think that girls are so confusing and no one can understand them. But girls feel the same way. It is impossible to fully understand the opposite sex. That is why communication is so important. Trust me girls worry just as much as guys do if not more.....

[GoodBye]

I agree with all you poeple said, yes she really behaves as if she has a multiple personality.I've asked her out if there was a problem, and she said "No", but i'm not very sure that she could say that i'm disturbing her or she dont want to see me, because I've done many things for her in the past, that I think no one will do ( she did the same for me), and she knows that I do care about her and dont want to hurt me or to lose me as a friend.But on the other side I think that she may have used me in the past and created in me the feeling that we are friends and now when she doesnt need me she just runs away from me, but I dont really think that

this can be true,she couldnt do so much things for me if she were using me, but i have this in mind.I really think that i should ask her directly what she really things about me, but i dont know will she tell me the truth or will lie me, thats why I wanted to do that through her best girlfriend.

[Silversun]

The only problem I see with asking her through her girlfriend is that you may not get a straight answer. It's like passing the buck and in many ways shows that your not confident.

 

I'd say talk with her one-on-one,find out what she really thinks of you and ask her if she sees potential for a relationship between the two of you.

 

Good luck!

[GoodBye]

yes im going to ask her " one on one " , the reason why i wanted to do this through her girlfriend was that i was thinking that for some reason she wouldnt tell me all the truth, but I realised that this is sometihing like a jerk act.I think she had probably already noticed that I have some feelings to her and I'm very curious what she will say.