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Met a guy on the net. What now?


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Ok yous are going to think I'm crazy here. I've just broke up with a guy who I thought was really special but he didn't treat me in the best way. So anyway, it's only been a couple of weeks but he had broke up with me before that too. I am trying to get on with it and forget about him. Was only with him for about 5 months so is it too soon to move on in the sense of meeting someone new. Now I've met this new guy on a socialising site. Seemed okay so we have been sending each other e-mails. He started referring to me as his stalker trying to be funny so 2nd one he did it, I replied that I wasn't quite happy about it and that he didn't have to reply to me. I put 'the anti-stalker does not reply to the stalker' lol. I also explained that I would just like to meet a nice guy as I always meet the wrong ones etc. Oh , I wasn't stalking him by the way, lol. Just replying as normal. Wasn't sending him e-mail after e-mail or anything like that.

 

So his reply to that was that he was really sorry and he didn't mean to upset me in anyway. He was just trying to be funny. He said that he would have looked like a weirdo if he had said that he thought I was gorgeous with beautiful eyes and seemed like a good laugh. Then he goes onto say that he really is sorry and would like to take me out and get to know me a bit better. Left me his moby number and said I could text him if I want so how do I go about this? Do I text him? What do I text and when do I text? (got the e-mail today) I'll probably need help along the lines of taking this slow so there will be more posts on this matter more than likely as I've never taken it slow and that's my problem. End up breaking my own heart in a strange sort of way.

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Yep, no x's yet. And relax. When you feel as though you don't know what to do, stop over-analysing and running yourself down. Especially don't go reading over emails again because, with only words, no tone of voice or body language to go on - it's easy to project all our insecurities onto them.

 

Keep telling yourself that you are utterly lovable and wonderful; your next job is to find out whether this guy is the sort of person you'd want to be involved with. Don't worry too much about what he thinks about you - what's important here is what you think about him. Take your time to decide, look at what he's telling you about himself, both in words and actions, and observe - whilst being as open and honest as you can. If you're taking your time to do all this, the 'taking it slow' will look after itself, I promise!

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Ok thanks, I will take that on board. Yeah, I'll need to find out a bit of background then think about everything. The thing is I just always try to see the best in people and make up excuses for their faults. Not good! so this is going to be a big challenge for me and a new way of dating, lol. At least I have all you guys to help me along now, lol.

 

xcx

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Ok thanks, I will take that on board. Yeah, I'll need to find out a bit of background then think about everything. The thing is I just always try to see the best in people and make up excuses for their faults. Not good! so this is going to be a big challenge for me and a new way of dating, lol. At least I have all you guys to help me along now, lol.

 

xcx

 

we will be here if you need us! I will be looking for updates

 

Its hard to start dating again and then learning new ways of dating...ugh

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