Im 16 but he's 20

[Sweetblueeyedgurl]

i really love my boyfriend but my parents thinks it's wrong becuase he is so much older then me. I love him and we have been together for about a half a year now but still my parents disaprove of my relationship. what do i do to make them approve of us?

[inu yasha]

Hi,

 

I don't think that there's anything you can really do to get your parents to come round to liking him. I don't see anything wrong with the age gap because a friend in my college (a girl) she's 14 and her bf is 19 and her parents don't seem to mind. Your parents are just concered for your safety with him being older than you. It is understandable many people go through exactly the same situation and it can either go both ways. Is there something that your bf can do so show your parents that he really cares for you and sort of prove to them that he's the one you wan't to be with. By the sounds of it you've probably had quite a few arguments with your parents about this. Try and get your parent's to see what you see in him, unless their really stubborn and don't want to listen and you feel like giving up.

 

That's all i can really suggest doing, hope it's helped in some way.

 

All the best

 

Inu Yasha

[Gunther]

hey there, i wouldnt think your parents would care what age he is they would still dislike him. just try to show em' he is a good guy.

[musicguy]

I find nothing wrong with age gaps in relationships. Invite your bf to dinner at your house and have him meet your parents and show them that you are in good hands. Unfortunately, my ex-fiancee's parents weren't so nice to me and called the police on me for no reason. (and her and I were in a long-distance relationship) Her parents just thought I was too old for thier daughter, we still dated anyway.

[summerdreams]

i was in the same situation not too long ago. When i first met my bf i was 16 and he was 20 and my parents highly disaproved. Their main concern is that because he's older they assume that he is more experienced and only wants sex...which scares a lot of parents. Just sit down with them and have a long talk about what mainly bothers them about him, then just tell them what they want to hear. Be very mature about the situation too so that they think you are mature enough to handle this situation. TAKE their advice instead of fighting with them. Hey, it worked for me ...good luck.

[blonderthanyour]

my parents thinks it's wrong becuase he is so much older then me.

 

i kinda have the same dillema...im having troubles with the age differentce thing too. Bigger gap than you though...hes 19, in 14...

 

im still tryin to find out what to do, but maybe you and him and your parents should hav a "meeting" and talk about it maybe...?

 

well good luck!

[Sweetblueeyedgurl]

see the thing is they have met him but yet they are so stubbern that they just dont wanna change their minds. I talk so highly about him and i still think they dont care! i just dont know what to do anymore