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Getting soft right when I'm about to put it in...what's the matter with me?


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I had sex with my girl the other night and I was able to get it up the first time fine. As soon as I stuck it in, I could feel myself start to cum. I was able to hold it in for about a minute or two before I became limp. We laid there for awhile and she tried getting me hard but to no avail, so I went on top of her and started rubbing it up against her clit. It made me hard again and I got up. As soon as I went back down and ready to put it back in, it started going limp. We tried this a couple times and it kept happening. I wasn't cumming either.

 

What's happening? She keeps blaming herself saying I'm just not attracted to her, but I know that's not the case.

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I think if it were something serious you'd have problems from the get go and not just as you go to put it in her. The fact that you are hard until you go to enter her and then you go soft makes me really believe it's nerves and something that you can and should work on.

 

Have you had any problems in the past with staying hard during intercourse? If you have had sexual intercourse previously that is.

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I think if it were something serious you'd have problems from the get go and not just as you go to put it in her. The fact that you are hard until you go to enter her and then you go soft makes me really believe it's nerves and something that you can and should work on.

 

Have you had any problems in the past with staying hard during intercourse? If you have had sexual intercourse previously that is.

 

I had sex once before, and the only problem I had was cumming within the first 30 seconds. I still have this problem. As soon as I enter for the first time I already feel myself getting ready to cum.

 

Maybe this is crazy, but the last time we had intercourse (the other day) we did it twice. Then the third time is when I went limp. Is it possible that I just came so much the first two times that my penis will get hard and then can't stay up? I could just be thinking stupid here, I don't know...I just want a solution because this really makes sex no fun.

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I went through a little phase of this with the first woman I was ever with (I was 19).

 

If your GF is ok with giving oral sex, see if she would be down to go down on you for a little and then jump right on it

 

My first GF would do this for me everytime as a way to try to fix my "problem" and I would stay hard each time.

 

Just a suggestion. Worked like a charm for us.

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I had sex once before, and the only problem I had was cumming within the first 30 seconds. I still have this problem. As soon as I enter for the first time I already feel myself getting ready to cum.

 

Maybe this is crazy, but the last time we had intercourse (the other day) we did it twice. Then the third time is when I went limp. Is it possible that I just came so much the first two times that my penis will get hard and then can't stay up? I could just be thinking stupid here, I don't know...I just want a solution because this really makes sex no fun.

 

It sounds like you suffer from premature ejaculation. I did some research for you, and here are ways to last longer...

 

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#7 briefly talks about premature ejaculation. Seems like Prozac is a good option to improve your stamina in bed, and can also be a good counter against PE.

 

 

As for not getting hard. I had that happen the second time I had sex with my girlfriend, and my friend had it happen to him the first time he had sex with his girlfriend. I think it's just nerves. Once I got closer with my Ex we were having sex 4-5 times a day, and I could last for a good amount of time.

 

I think this will happen for you when you get more comfortable with sex. I'm sure of it actually.

 

Just check out that site. I think I may try some of those routines also. Although, girls have told me in the past 15 minutes is the golden time, and thats about how long I last now. Not including the fingering and oral sex (which I have yet to try, but really want to go down on a girl haha!).

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What you had experienced is normal. Unclear what your age is but I am assuming you are still relatively young?

 

There are two separate things that you are combining into a single problem.

 

The premature ejaculation (PE). You cum within 30 sec of intercourse. This can be worked on and you can learn to last longer. There are many methods and training techniques you can use to help overcome PE. You may want to address this area independently especially because of the 2nd issue.

 

Getting / Maintaining an erection after initial orgasm. As you get older your body will not be able to replenish itself as it may have previously. What this means is that you be unable to quickly get back up or even maintain an erection as you begin to age. Other environmental factors may also contribute to this decline of ability (i.e. stress).

 

So if you dont address the PE now as you age you will notice that you are unable to quickly recover after your initial orgasm. So by learning to overcome the PE you will be able to have longer lasting sex and the ability to recover will be less an issue.

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I have had a that issue before. The problem is that once it happens your anxiety really begins to get the better of you. For me it was entirely psychological, but, because I didn't want to drag it out, I went to my Dr. and got a prescription for Cialis. You don't even need to take the whole tablet, and believe me you will not have that problem. I suspect that once you get in the swing of things you will be able to gradually take yourself of the Cialis and have plenty of sex!

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