TheBallKid11 Posted January 16, 2009 Share Posted January 16, 2009 for more information you can go to my previous threads "Broke up on new years what happened" and "Low blow message from Ex" a few days ago.. Long story short... we broke up on New Years.. she broke it off for another guy who she met the day before after we were going out 7 months.. She sent some text messages a couple days after attempting to "keep me on the string" and waiting for her while she explores with this other guy. The texts didnt go as she expected, so she got mean and nasty. A couple days later (a week ago from today) I get a private message from the guys facebook (never met or even know who the guy is) saying " haha gess who I just " I ignored the message and a few minutes ago she texts me asking "Did you ever find my stuff?" Ive been back at school for a week and checked all over and dont have her stuff.. We also returned the stuff we had on the day we broke up.. I think she knows her stuff isnt here (shes not careless with them) and think shes just trying to make contact.. Do I even bother to respond to tell her that I dont have her stuff or do I just continute to go NC like I have been the entire time? Link to comment
Blanco Nino Posted January 16, 2009 Share Posted January 16, 2009 Sounds awful...sorry bro. If you are 100% sure you don't have any of her stuff then don't answer her. If you say "what stuff?" she might try to come over and scrounge around. If you find it's small stuff of hers like toothpaste or something just dump it in the trash. Link to comment
Scorpion Fury Posted January 16, 2009 Share Posted January 16, 2009 Say, "I haven't come accross anything of yours. If I ever do, I'll let you know." and leave it at that Link to comment
Ac143 Posted January 16, 2009 Share Posted January 16, 2009 Say, "I haven't come accross anything of yours. If I ever do, I'll let you know." and leave it at that Yes! What Scorpion said Link to comment
TheBallKid11 Posted January 16, 2009 Author Share Posted January 16, 2009 So you think I should even respond to her... You sure this isnt her way of having an "excuse" to contact me and trying to keep me on a string or keep contact? Link to comment
knightNshiningarmor Posted January 16, 2009 Share Posted January 16, 2009 damn thats * * * * ed...imo id prolly be like sorry im too busy enjoying my life to look for your stuff but if anything turns up ill be sure to let you know its out on the street corner. Link to comment
knightNshiningarmor Posted January 16, 2009 Share Posted January 16, 2009 its her way of seeing you in pain...sometimes people even the dumper want and expect to see pain because it reassures them that the last 7 months werent a waste and that you cared about her...i bet she expected you to fight and beg for her return and it sounds like you didnt...bravo if so...so now she is playing these games to get a raise out of you to validate her own self worth...imo dont give into it or let her know what shes missing....either option is satisfactory in my personal opinion but to each their own. Link to comment
TheBallKid11 Posted January 16, 2009 Author Share Posted January 16, 2009 Well she asked for like 2 specific things... like her belt and a pair of sweatpants... like she "thinks" she may have left them there, which is what she she said like a week and a half ago... I told her if I found them I would mail them when she originally asked.. I think responding will open up the floodgates for her to say more nasty stuff or try and start a convo. Link to comment
Scorpion Fury Posted January 16, 2009 Share Posted January 16, 2009 Well she asked for like 2 specific things... like her belt and a pair of sweatpants... like she "thinks" she may have left them there, which is what she she said like a week and a half ago... I told her if I found them I would mail them when she originally asked.. I think responding will open up the floodgates for her to say more nasty stuff or try and start a convo. Then either don't respond, or just say "no" and if she keeps responding, ignore her after that Link to comment
TheBallKid11 Posted January 16, 2009 Author Share Posted January 16, 2009 I tried to fix it the day of and after we broke up... After it became clear that she wanted to throw everything away to explore a guy she met the day before who texted her.. It wasnt hard to stay away.. You can see the texts we sent in "broke up in new years what happened" on page like 4 or 5 maybe earlier... and I know she must of had something to do with the message that was sent on his facebook.. (she was probably upset when I blocked her on instant messanger and removed her from a friend on facebook so they probably sent that message together trying to get a rise out of me... Dont get me wrong, I was pissed beyond belief, but I didnt give in and respond and I am sure that might be eating at her Link to comment
hockeyboy Posted January 16, 2009 Share Posted January 16, 2009 Well she asked for like 2 specific things... like her belt and a pair of sweatpants... like she "thinks" she may have left them there, which is what she she said like a week and a half ago... I told her if I found them I would mail them when she originally asked.. I think responding will open up the floodgates for her to say more nasty stuff or try and start a convo. You already responded to her. Just ignore her and if it continues, block her. Link to comment
george237 Posted January 16, 2009 Share Posted January 16, 2009 Your a better man than I because if I got that message that guy wouldn't be too happy. Say "there is nothing here that I have found but if I do discover something you can pick it up at the dumpster located on ______________" Link to comment
TheBallKid11 Posted January 16, 2009 Author Share Posted January 16, 2009 haha yeah I wasnt too happy either, but I know her intent was to get a rise out of me and I wasnt going to give her that satisfaction Link to comment
george237 Posted January 16, 2009 Share Posted January 16, 2009 haha yeah I wasnt too happy either, but I know her intent was to get a rise out of me and I wasnt going to give her that satisfaction I wouldn't even mail them, why waste the money. Tell her they will be infront of your appartment/house/dorm at a certain time. If she is not there at that time and somebody takes them then its on her. Link to comment
hockeyboy Posted January 16, 2009 Share Posted January 16, 2009 I remember years ago my ex (of several years) kept bothering me about her stuff. she had a small dresser of things (mostly clothes) at my place. She wouldn't come and get it though..but kept bothering me about it. Eventually I just drove the whole thing over and left it sitting in her driveway with all of her things. She was mad..but at least she finally stopped. Anyways, you say you don't have her things and you say you've told her this. She doesn't need to hear it again, she's just looking for a reaction. Keep doing what your doing. Link to comment
TheBallKid11 Posted January 16, 2009 Author Share Posted January 16, 2009 Well I never told her I didnt have them.. but we returned everything the day we broke up and when she asked about the things I told her if I found them I would mail them.. Which was about a week and a half ago... She didnt get the reaction when she sent that message about sex a week ago, I think she may be looking for a reaction now Link to comment
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