Need help approaching a girl at her workplace

[Blank]

Okay, so I used to be a shy guy. Over the last couple of years I have been able to get over that issue in most aspects, I even do amateur stand up comedy acts at open mic nights. The problem is if I still get shy when it comes to girls. I can hang out with girls and I have friends that are girls, so that's not a problem but anything more than friends is where I start to get nervous.

 

The other day I ran into a girl from my old high school. I had always thought she was cute and that she had an interesting personality. Even though we shared a class once, had mutual friends, and ever shared common interest we never really hung out enough to become friends. I think a lot of that had to do with me having a girlfriend at the time and being nervous about hanging out with someone I had a potential crush on.

 

So I hadn't really seen her in years and i ran into her at the book store where she works the other day. I am single now and would really like to get to know her better. The problem is the book store is really the only way I know of to get in touch with her and I don't really know how I should approach a person at their place of work. I don't even know if that is appropriate.

 

Can anyone here give me some advice? I would really appreciate it.

[agatha]

write your number on a piece of paper, or your e-mail, or both, and keep it handy. then try to go to the bookstore sometime when it's not too busy, and get yourself something. while paying, say how you'd like to catch up, and all. If you get a positive reaction, she'll probably write her number or contact down for you, so the prepared note will be useless. If she seems not so open, hand her yours, and say something like 'if you change your mind...'

 

and leave it at that X D

 

I really don't think it's that much of a problem (happened to me a couple of times), as long as you don't stalk her or take too much of her time.

[george237]

Start small talk then say " Hey _______ I know you probably get hit on all the time here in the non-fiction section but I was wondering if I could get your number and we could grab a cup of coffee to catch up"

[Phaser]

Have you actually talked to her before?

IMO would be pretty freaky for some guy she's seen but having not talk to her before randomly asking her out.

[george237]

Have you actually talked to her before?

IMO would be pretty freaky for some guy she's seen but having not talk to her before randomly asking her out.

 

Your a guy, you wouldn't be happy if some lady came up and asked for yours. Most women are the same way. If he doesn't ask he will never know.

[agatha]

I think that if preliminaries are required, just (re)introducing himself to her briefly would be more than enough... after all, it's her workplace, and he can't take too much of her time ; )

[dr_styles]

So does she know who you are? If not, there's the "hey I know you ... are you blah blah blah from blah blah blah"

[Blank]

Okay, to clear things up we have spoke to each other before. I even talked to her when I ran into her at the book store. She remembered me and even remembered things about me that I didn't expect her too.

 

So I guess the best way is to just be straight forward about it.

[Changeling]

Okay, to clear things up we have spoke to each other before. I even talked to her when I ran into her at the book store. She remembered me and even remembered things about me that I didn't expect her too.

 

So I guess the best way is to just be straight forward about it.

 

Sounds like the right tack from where I sit. Worst thing that can happen is you get shot down and have to find a different place to buy books.