Dance class

[August200]

Well, to get right to the point, I need some advice on how to get a girl. I've just started a dance class this semester, and so far it's been great. Now, I've only talked to her a little bit, but there's this girl that I would like ask out. The problem is that I don't know how. I'm not really good at this.

 

Can anybody give me some advice on how to proceed? The class only meets twice a week, so I can't really take it slow. The next time, I was thinking of asking her to practice before class, since the instructor usually puts on music and encourages us to do that. Should the next move be to get her number or ask her out right away? Or something else? Thanks in advance.

[De Mon Fa De]

Can anybody give me some advice on how to proceed? The class only meets twice a week, so I can't really take it slow. The next time, I was thinking of asking her to practice before class, since the instructor usually puts on music and encourages us to do that. Should the next move be to get her number or ask her out right away? Or something else? Thanks in advance.

 

I'm old and bitter, and there's no way to really know how she'll respond to anything, but you've got to establish a common interest somehow; then you can find out whether she'll share it with you.

 

I would just casually ask her, as you're walking towards the door after class, if she'd like to grab some (whatever you young kids are into these days,with your rock and roll and hoola hoops and tv. Get off my lawn! Where was I?).

 

Oh yeah, that's how I'd be. Just like "hey I found this great coffee/beer/pool place, ya wanna come grab one with me?"

 

You already know she's into dance, so that's half the battle right there. Find something dance related and invite her to it... a performance perhaps?

 

If nothing else, you'll get an indication of how she feels about you. If she touches you in any way, even if it's to just brush against your arm and say she can't make it, that's a good sign. If she crosses her arms and won't really make eye contact, it isn't.

[Clarity]

Key question: have you talked to her before in the class? Established some sort of rapport?

[De Mon Fa De]

Key question: have you talked to her before in the class? Established some sort of rapport?

 

Good point, you need to be on a first name basis before you go inviting her anywhere. Find a way to work with or near her in class if possible?

[Edak]

Look man, we can't coach you through this.

 

I need you to do something for me, super simple. Talk to her, Befriend her. And know you shouldn't focus too much on one girl when the world is full of them, explore your options!

 

Really if you start spouting off practiced lines you're only setting yourself up for a downfall when you can't keep delivering. Tried and true: 90% of the time being yourself works everytime.

 

Good luck with future female endeavours my friend

[August200]

Thanks for the reply guys. And to answer your questions...

1. I know that there are plenty of girls. I'm not obsessed with her or something.

2. I have talked to her, but only a little bit. It's only been 2 classes so far. I think she knows who I am at the very least.

3. And just to clarify, it's an introductory class, so we switch partners several times during the class, but yeah I have danced with her a bit.

[Clarity]

Thanks for the reply guys. And to answer your questions...

1. I know that there are plenty of girls. I'm not obsessed with her or something.

2. I have talked to her, but only a little bit. It's only been 2 classes so far. I think she knows who I am at the very least.

3. And just to clarify, it's an introductory class, so we switch partners several times during the class, but yeah I have danced with her a bit.

 

Asking for her number in the class, while others are there, might be a bit difficult. Something less committal like just before the end of class (in which you've hopefully talked with her and joked around a bit more) saying "Hey, I'm going to go get a coffee after this - you should come!". That way, if she's not interested, she'll make an excuse or decline, if she is interested, she'll either come, or say that she can't make it, but she'd love to get together some other time.

[ghost69]

since it's a class, get to know her better. you know she will be around for 16 weeks or so. but don't wait until the last class to ask her out.

[August200]

So, I guess I'll be updating this thread from time to time when new developments occur.

 

I just had another class. And surprising even myself, I gathered up the courage to approach her and start a convo. I researched a bit on the Mystery Method, for those who want to know, and pretty much tried to use his techniques. But, I didn't get much time before class started, so I was cut pretty short (I mean we only had like 1 or 2 minutes). Then, I asked her to dance at the beginning, when everybody practices, although she seemed a little bit reluctant (maybe because she was out of practice - i'm not sure). After class, I didn't really get a chance to do anything.

 

Any suggestions or comments would be appreciated greatly.

[August200]

Anybody? Is it too early to ask her to get a coffee or something?

[ghost69]

you have nil interaction pretty much, i wouldn't ask her.

 

stop with the mystery method. lame.

[August200]

I'll see what happens tomorrow. I'm hoping she comes to class early so we can talk some more.

 

Thanks for replying desertwolf, although I don't see what's wrong with the Mystery method. Certain aspects of it I definitely find relevant and useful. Definitely a1 - a3 at least. It gave me the confidence to approach her.

[glegend]

I'm thinking on taking a greek dance class to meet a greek girl. I used to go to greek dancing and kinda stopped like 5 years ago mostly becasue it got cancelled. I really would like to get a refresher and learn a few more dances because I've forgotten most of the dance steps and and I figure it would be a good opportunity to meet people and more importantly a girl.

[August200]

Nothing much happened today. She arrived sort of late, so I decided to go ahead and approach another girl. I'm pretty sure she saw me doing this, so I hope this gives me higher value somehow. I did end up saying hi to her during class though.

 

Btw Glegand, I encourage you to take the dance class. It's one of the best ways to meet people.