HereAndNow Posted January 15, 2009 Share Posted January 15, 2009 I was with one partner for a long time, so catching an STD was never an issue. Now that I'm back in the dating scene, I'm afraid of becoming intimate with someone whose past sexual history I have no knowledge of. It's not that I'm worried the person will lie to me but sometimes people don't realize they have STD. When you are ready for physical intimacy with someone, do you ask that person to get tested and show him/her your results? It feels so unromantic, but I don't want to be caught up in the heat of the moment and end up compromising my health. Any thoughts? Link to comment
ghost69 Posted January 15, 2009 Share Posted January 15, 2009 i don't. guess i'm a bad apple Link to comment
Ac143 Posted January 15, 2009 Share Posted January 15, 2009 I was with one partner for a long time, so catching an STD was never an issue. Now that I'm back in the dating scene, I'm afraid of becoming intimate with someone whose past sexual history I have no knowledge of. It's not that I'm worried the person will lie to me but sometimes people don't realize they have STD. When you are ready for physical intimacy with someone, do you ask that person to get tested and show him/her your results? It feels so unromantic, but I don't want to be caught up in the heat of the moment and end up compromising my health. Any thoughts? And you're a very smart person to want to ask. I have to be honest I didn't ask my now SO - until after the fact. Luckily for me he was clean & we been together for 3yrs now so no worries BUT yes ask & ask, who cares if it kills the mood right? I mean it might "kill" you if you dont know...better safe then sorry & always condoms! Link to comment
De Mon Fa De Posted January 15, 2009 Share Posted January 15, 2009 I was with one partner for a long time, so catching an STD was never an issue. Now that I'm back in the dating scene, I'm afraid of becoming intimate with someone whose past sexual history I have no knowledge of. It's not that I'm worried the person will lie to me but sometimes people don't realize they have STD. When you are ready for physical intimacy with someone, do you ask that person to get tested and show him/her your results? It feels so unromantic, but I don't want to be caught up in the heat of the moment and end up compromising my health. Any thoughts? You better get them tested. My first wife was raped before I met her. She developed polyps on her cervix. No one told her that "HPV" meant GENITAL WARTS. That's what she says, anyway. So long story short, I got genital warts while married, and NO ONE believed she gave it to me until some nurse explained to her what HPV meant, and it will never go away, even after the divorce. It's SO MUCH FUN explaining that to ladies in those tender moments before we make love the first time. Link to comment
De Mon Fa De Posted January 15, 2009 Share Posted January 15, 2009 warts aren't curable? Are they? I got em in the mid-90s and they said because it was a viral infection they could flare up anytime, but I've never had to go back so I dunno if that situation has changed. I was also treated by the military; they could have been flat wrong. Link to comment
Ac143 Posted January 15, 2009 Share Posted January 15, 2009 Gentials warts are not curable - they are treatable for less breakouts but I never heard of a cure?? Link to comment
Scorpion Fury Posted January 15, 2009 Share Posted January 15, 2009 The strain of HPV that causes cervical cancer is not the same strain that causes warts. And warts aren't curable but a lot of times your body will rid itself of the virus and they don't come back Link to comment
Scorpion Fury Posted January 15, 2009 Share Posted January 15, 2009 Or maybe the virus is still there but you just don't usually have more flare ups, I have read both. Link to comment
waveseer Posted January 15, 2009 Share Posted January 15, 2009 You are smart to be concerned about STD's and anyone who won't get tested with you probably doesn't look after themselves as well as they could and we all know what that could mean. Link to comment
HereAndNow Posted January 15, 2009 Author Share Posted January 15, 2009 Yeah, I'll be so much more relaxed and enjoy sex better if we get tested first. So, that means no one-night stand for me, lol. Link to comment
doyathink Posted January 16, 2009 Share Posted January 16, 2009 Yeah, I'll be so much more relaxed and enjoy sex better if we get tested first. So, that means no one-night stand for me, lol. But the guy could have HPV (the kind that doesn't cause warts) but they cant test men. So, this means...he could come out A-ok on his test results, and you come up with cervical cancer from HPV. Link to comment
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