dont know where things are!!!!!

[underdog1985]

hi guys,first post so hope this helps solve the problem

 

i have been in a few relationships and never found any long term happiness with previous suitors,but took it as it was even though i was seriously hurt twice.

 

i picked up and moved on sucessfully,of which made me happy within myself and sure of what i want,need and cherish in life.

 

i met my current girlfriend and had a good job beforehand also.

 

shes sociable and enjoys going out,and we have so much in common,we fell in love and made plans to spend our lives together.we were engaged at new years eve.

 

 

she is very distant right now and has backed off from me alone,despite me not having done anything.she now is only answering to txts i send and has cancelled our plans to move in together,engagement party,and any holidays we mite have booked.she is also going out constantly,and says she has personal problems she cant tell me about.

 

being hurt before,i would normally freak out,but i am giving her space and time,but how do i know where im meant to be,and whats to happen?she is a wonderful girl,and i feel that it may well be nothing but taking things slow,but i have to say,everything looks wrong at the moment,i dont want to over-react,but if we are in this together,it seems like im being left without consideration as to where the future we both wanted is up in flames?

[ghost69]

how long together? how old are you guys?

[De Mon Fa De]

Welcome

 

she is very distant right now and has backed off from me alone,despite me not having done anything.she now is only answering to txts i send and has cancelled our plans to move in together,engagement party,and any holidays we mite have booked.she is also going out constantly,and says she has personal problems she cant tell me about.

 

It sounds to me like one of her friends sat her down and had a long chat with her about commitment and marriage and divorce and youth. And it sounds like it trumped you.

 

That, or she met another guy.

 

In any case you don't want to be with anyone who cancels such large and important decisions without even telling you what's going on.

 

I think you should be happy you found out how she really was before you put that ring on her finger and said "I do".