I thought I was over it, but now its getting worse!

[Bdk86]

My ex and I broke up about two and a half months ago after a rough LDR (different colleges) and its been hurting since then but progressively getting better. About a week after our breakup, my ex was already in a new relationship and giving me text message and email updates about how their new relationship was going. It bothered, but not as much as I expected it to so I ignored them. She eventually would get angry and tell me how horrible I was to her throughout our entire relationship and how pathetic I was during it as Iwell. It tore me apart but I continued to ignore the messages, and eventually I began recovery quite rapidly.

 

This occurred toward the end of the school semester, and now I have transferred back to the school where we met and the school where she studies. Not only did I have to worry about this, but we also have a class together! I have been getting extreme anxiety about this situation and am thinking about this girl non-stop. I really don't want her back, but I don't know why I'm feeling so anxious about this. Its really started to affect other aspects of my life and I don't know hope to cope with it so I can not be so worried all the time.

 

She says she loves this new guy and its been a short while into the relationship. For some reason, that actually made me feel better when I heard the news; probably because it shows how desperate she is to get over her feelings (??).

 

Well, if anyone has any advice, it would be GREATLY appreciated. Thanks!

[Robert013]

2 1/2 months is not that long of a time. Personally I could not fall in love with someone in 2 1/2 months. I think she is confused about what love is. As far as the insults and blaming you it is just her trying to make herself feel better and justify her split. She could also be just trying to make you feel worse on purpose. This is rude, selfish, and most of all childish.

 

I always thought that if someone has to tell themselves or other people over and over why they are with someone then they are still not convinced they should be. When you are in a true relationship you do not have to gloat about it to others or tell yourself why you are there you already know.

 

Just try to relax before the class with her. Try meditating before the class, or go for a walk/run to get rid of the stress. Stay away from her if it is affecting you this much. If you have to block her number then do it.

 

She is making you feel worse on purpose, but that is just my opinion.

[davejsy]

anxiety in this type of situation is perfectly normal, even if you thought you were over her there is still going to be some residual feelings buried deep inside. You sound better off out of it, how on earth can anyone think there recently dumped ex wants to know about their dating activities!!

[HulloThere]

Bdk,

 

I can see why you would have anxiety in that situation, however I don't think it will be so bad when you actually go into class.

[Bdk86]

Thanks for the advice everyone. Actually, I had the class today and it went way worse than the last class. I didn't look at her but I can hear her laughing and talking and whatever.

 

I really thought I was on the cusp of getting over her, but now every thing is starting to remind me of her again. I can't get her out of my head. Before I knew the breakup was for the best because we weren't getting along that well over our LDR and now I kind of want her back. I know this can't be good, and I don't want to feel that way. I'm trying to be as strong as possible but I can only hold up enough weight.