he dumped me a week ago...still confused/very hurt

[igotdumped]

It happened exactly a week ago. I feel so much better than I did a week ago but I'm still sad/hurt and cry all the time. I'm just confused about his reasoning. We had been dating for 10 months. We lived together for 1.5 months and then I had to move away, so we had a long distance relationship for about 5 months. I loved him very much and he said " I love you" first and he said he would never hurt me intentionally. He moved here (2 hours away from me) about 3 weeks ago and a week ago, he told me that he's too young/immature to be in such a serious relationship. He hadn't been making much effort to see me since he moved back but I thought everything was going great. He just said he's busy all the time and I believe that. And I'm 99.9% sure that he didn't cheat on me.

 

We were the perfect couple. We never fought, never had major problems, we were very compatible and he agreed with that. We had so much fun together. I wasn't pushy or controlling. All I wanted from him was to spend time with him.

 

One week ago, he just said that I deserve much more and he can't be a good bf for me. He also said that when are together, he has the best time in the world, but when we have to leave eachother, it's like a part of him leaves. I haven't talked to him in a week and I'm not going to contact him anytime soon. I just want to know, if he loved me so much and cared for me, then why did he have to leave? was he just confused and wanted to play the field and be single again? or was it because that he did not love me anymore? I'm so heartbroken. I want him back with all my heart. I want to call him, I want to hold him. but I know I can't and it wouldn't work out... Also, do you believe that if it was meant to be, then we'll get back together in the future, not necessarily the near future?

[igotdumped]

We're both 22 and this was the first serious relationship for both of us. He said he doesn't want to get married anytime soon and thereforee thought if we put anything more into this relationship, then we'll just get hurt more in the future.

[hiphop3]

you know it could just be what he said: he's not ready.

for me, i find it difficult at times to be in a relationship so young and not know where it's going. a relationship is an investment but what are you investing in if you see it ending at some point? it's tricky.

and not being ready can translate into being too immature.

he may still love you, but some times love isn't enough. the timing could just be wrong for him. maybe you two could meet again down the road but i don't recommend you get hung up on waiting for that day.