A TRUE female orgasm

[jstaman]

Now by the title I mean this. My last girlfriend was EXTREMELY sexual. We got along well had a great relationship and the sex AMAZING.

 

I found with her I could stimulate her G-Spot while going down on her and she would orgasm Soooo hard she would ejaculate or squirt all on my face.

 

That was sooo much of a turn on I cant even describe it.

1. Because I had made her cum that damn hard

2. Because I am guessing not all women can do this (My current GF cant or wont let herself)

3. Well you would just have to see the look on her face while she laid there almost convulsing in pleasure afterwards.

 

What I am wanting to know is can all women do this but some just wont allow themselves to let go enough, or is it just a physical impossibility for some women.

 

I have tried with my Current GF I have even tried diff approaches (cause women are not all the same) and she says that it feels good up to a point then it feels in her words "weird" and I think that is where she stops. I have almost begged her to let herself go when she reaches this weird point. she says it feels like pressure and the sensation when she has to pee, I have went so far as to get a tarp and tell her to "Let Er Rip" when that feeling hits.

 

Is there anything else I can try. I would really like to see her orgasm as hard as my ex did, the look on her face was incredible looking at me after she squirted.

 

Any tips helpful hint sure fire ways are appreciated.

 

Thanks in advance.

[Lecturer]

Sounds like she really just needs to relax...

 

Make sure she pees before hand so she is less afraid she'll pee. Also, make sure she is comfortable to pee in front of you... has she done that before just in happenstance?

 

Perhaps get her drunk so she feels less inhibited... although I usually don't advise drunkenness, and I know my wife actually is turned OFF when drunk.

[Blanco Nino]

Pretty sure not all women do this. I've never had a GF do it. A buddy of mine dated a girl that did it so much that they just started using the bathtub to avoid all the cleanup. Sounds like a hassle to me.

[forever1130]

Has she ever been able to do it by herself through masterbating? Maybe she just feels uncomfortable letting herself go and doing it on front of you.

[greywolf]

First of all, I think you need to stop putting so much pressure on your SO.

Can she orgasm with her g-spot? I believe that's the first step.

[Perfect Dark]

I can only do it myself, I've never had one from an S/O yet.

[jstaman]

I dont pressure her into it, I mention it to her and yes she can climax from her G-Spot. I'm not demanding it of her I would just really like her to be able to let go and let it happen.

[l0velife]

I want to know how to do this too!! My SO makes me cum mulitiple times everytime we have sex and I orgasm pretty hard but I have never squirted and I am pretty relaxed because we have been together for so long that I don't really worry about anything anymore lol.

 

I have the "pee sensation" when he continues after I orgasm, like if he goes down on me right after I cum it is so so sensitive that it feels like I can't handle it.

[jstaman]

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This is where it all started, not this page exactly but one with similar instructions then I just paid attention to her and her reactions and made changes to make her cum harder.

 

When I would do it right on my ex it felt like the top wall of her vagina was being forced down REAL hard almost squeezing my fingers inside her and then she would squirt, how much depended on how much she was turned on. anything from a little dribble to a small jet of fluid. Was amazing.

 

Yo can find little videos and stuff online as well showing you the basics but like I said not all women are the same and it may take some time before you hit this.

 

Good luck

[Balbina]

I experience what you mentioned with your ex, with my boyfriend.

 

apparently, some women are physiologically unable to have a g-spot orgasm or "squirt". I think she needs to seriously relax...you can't have mind blowing sex until you lose yourself in it. Why don't you try warming her up with some relaxing things - bubble bath, rub down, foreplay...get her to cum a couple of times manually and it should do the trick.

[Sparkie]

I have went so far as to get a tarp and tell her to "Let Er Rip" when that feeling hits.

 

Ha ha. Maybe cover her in monkey grease and build some sort of jig to strap her into aswell

 

I don't know much about how girls work, but mental pressure to perform may be a hinderence to her being able to do this. Or she just may not be able to do this.

 

Maybe just be grateful you have a good sex life with someone you care for and who cares for you, and she can orgasm when you have sex. And then who knows what might happen...

[waveseer]

My suggestion is more communication. Share your fantasies with her so she will feel comfortable sharing more of her's with you. Talk more about sex in more detail before, after, and during. Once she's completely comfortable, everything will fall into place.

[JeckyllNHyde]

I dont pressure her into it, I mention it to her and yes she can climax from her G-Spot. I'm not demanding it of her I would just really like her to be able to let go and let it happen.

 

You're not intentionally putting pressure on her but it does come accross that way. Like someone is expecting you to do something when you never have been able to.

I know (or I think I do know what it's like for your gf) since I'm like her. I've had orgasms but without squirting. Never had it gush out and squirt onto his face, maybe a bit of trickeling? When it comes to G-spot stimulation, let's just say it doesn't do as much fror me as clitoral.

And my bf will keep telling me "let go.. just let go". And it makes the sensation kind of go away. (Not always, but alot of times it does).

 

You need to maybe just let her do her thing without "watching" for the big splash. Just let her enjoy what she is able to achieve at this point. Before or after sex, when you're not in the act tell her (if you haven't already) that if she let's her self go she may achieve a squirtng orgasm, and it would be a great turnon if SOMEDAY she achieved it. This way it doesn't make her feel like she needs to do it as soon as possible already. Hope it makes sense.

 

Btw how long have you been dating? Maybe over time she'll get more comfy to let her self go more and more.

[greywolf]

I dont pressure her into it, I mention it to her and yes she can climax from her G-Spot. I'm not demanding it of her I would just really like her to be able to let go and let it happen.

 

hmmmm how would you feel if your gf had an ex that had intense orgasms from anal penetration? Are you going to let go and let it happen?

[tsarevnaelena]

Dude, careful with the comparisons. Not all women can squirt, not even if you put a hose up there. Your gf may not be able to, and people here who say you are pressuring her are right. She climaxes the way she climaxes, just as you do. If you want someone to squirt and look at you all lovestruck after doing it, either put an ad out for that type of person or go back to your ex.

 

And I really hope you haven't done anything silly like TELL your current that your ex was this way and you loved it.

[maritalbliss]

And I really hope you haven't done anything silly like TELL your current that your ex was this way and you loved it.

 

 

 

I hate to say it but I bet you already did tell her that your ex did this.....

I would just suggest to you NEVER make any comparisons.... especially with your sex life.... its just so not fair to your current love.

 

Either way, if my husband had had an extremely sexual girlfriend before me and told me all that stuff I would feel so much pressure........ and I married him as a VIRGIN .... He has told me everything about his love life before me, but I'm lucky in the fact that he's never had someone that I perceived to be "better" than me at that........

[JeckyllNHyde]

And I really hope you haven't done anything silly like TELL your current that your ex was this way and you loved it.

 

 

 

I hate to say it but I bet you already did tell her that your ex did this.....

I would just suggest to you NEVER make any comparisons.... especially with your sex life.... its just so not fair to your current love.

 

Either way, if my husband had had an extremely sexual girlfriend before me and told me all that stuff I would feel so much pressure........ and I married him as a VIRGIN .... He has told me everything about his love life before me, but I'm lucky in the fact that he's never had someone that I perceived to be "better" than me at that........

 

not to take it off topic but i really agree.

one of my ex bfs was open with me and told me about his love life before me. sex life included (minus too many details) but the few details he didn't spare made me so self conscious. i was NEVER able to open up sexually with him.

 

with my current bf though, i feel completely free sexually. something i never ever experienced before. i know nothing about his exes and their sex life

[PrincessBOT]

I can only do it myself, I've never had one from an S/O yet.

 

 

Same for me.

[jstaman]

Wow man, you guys make me sound like some Orgasm Nazi, "CUM NOW WOMAN!! DO IT DO IT I SAY!!!!"

 

No Im not an insensitive * * * * * telling my GF about my ex why the hell would anyone do something that stupid. And the whole tarp thing is an exageration (ever heard of comedy Geez).

 

Hell I come in here asking for some advise on how to better please my woman and all I get is a buncha people assuming the worst thing they can think of and projecting on to me. Sorry I asked for some information, I guess I will keep my posts on this forum to the giving of advise and not the asking for.

 

Thanks!

[greywolf]

You asked for advice and we gave it. You are not always going to get the advice that you want. People take their time to read your posts and reply. I don't see any post where someone said something out of line. Perhaps a thank you is in order instead of whining?

[jstaman]

And I really hope you haven't done anything silly like TELL your current that your ex was this way and you loved it.

 

I hate to say it but I bet you already did tell her that your ex did this.....

I would just suggest to you NEVER make any comparisons.... especially with your sex life.... its just so not fair to your current love.

 

Either way, if my husband had had an extremely sexual girlfriend before me and told me all that stuff I would feel so much pressure........ and I married him as a VIRGIN .... He has told me everything about his love life before me, but I'm lucky in the fact that he's never had someone that I perceived to be "better" than me at that........

 

Don't see any advise here

 

Dude, careful with the comparisons. Not all women can squirt, not even if you put a hose up there. Your gf may not be able to, and people here who say you are pressuring her are right. She climaxes the way she climaxes, just as you do. If you want someone to squirt and look at you all lovestruck after doing it, either put an ad out for that type of person or go back to your ex.

 

And I really hope you haven't done anything silly like TELL your current that your ex was this way and you loved it.

 

Or here.

 

hmmmm how would you feel if your gf had an ex that had intense orgasms from anal penetration? Are you going to let go and let it happen?

 

Especially not here.

 

You're not intentionally putting pressure on her but it does come accross that way. Like someone is expecting you to do something when you never have been able to.

I know (or I think I do know what it's like for your gf) since I'm like her. I've had orgasms but without squirting. Never had it gush out and squirt onto his face, maybe a bit of trickeling? When it comes to G-spot stimulation, let's just say it doesn't do as much fror me as clitoral.

And my bf will keep telling me "let go.. just let go". And it makes the sensation kind of go away. (Not always, but alot of times it does).

 

You need to maybe just let her do her thing without "watching" for the big splash. Just let her enjoy what she is able to achieve at this point. Before or after sex, when you're not in the act tell her (if you haven't already) that if she let's her self go she may achieve a squirtng orgasm, and it would be a great turnon if SOMEDAY she achieved it. This way it doesn't make her feel like she needs to do it as soon as possible already. Hope it makes sense.

 

Btw how long have you been dating? Maybe over time she'll get more comfy to let her self go more and more.

 

Yeah a little here, Thank you.

 

Ha ha. Maybe cover her in monkey grease and build some sort of jig to strap her into aswell

 

I don't know much about how girls work, but mental pressure to perform may be a hinderence to her being able to do this. Or she just may not be able to do this.

 

Maybe just be grateful you have a good sex life with someone you care for and who cares for you, and she can orgasm when you have sex. And then who knows what might happen...

 

Boy was this helpful! (sarcasm is great huh)

 

You asked for advice and we gave it. You are not always going to get the advice that you want. People take their time to read your posts and reply. I don't see any post where someone said something out of line. Perhaps a thank you is in order instead of whining?

 

Yeah this whole thread is full of good advise....To those who did offer up some valid advise Thank you very much and I do truly appreciate it. I come to this forum because all my life I have been the one my friends come to when they needed to talk or needed advise and I really like helping people.

 

I will continue to offer my advise, and try and help people, I have been around and done a lot in my life, experienced a lot of things from a lot of perspectives and I enjoy helping others who may not have been in those situations.

 

Thanks again!

[top bloke]

My suggestion is more communication. Share your fantasies with her so she will feel comfortable sharing more of her's with you. Talk more about sex in more detail before, after, and during. Once she's completely comfortable, everything will fall into place.

 

This is the best post so far...Totally agree. Sparkie..your woman is yours man...she is yours..To make a woman abandon to an intense back arching,skin splitting muscle spasming orgasm she has to be relaxed. As ready toheal mentioned firstly she has to accept that in her mind that she really real totally wants you and feels absolutely relaxed with you. It all starts with little talk even for a day or two..just buttter her up with some sexy talk...if she is not responding your not going to get much farther.You have to talk to het as she may be hidig somethig or have some emotional hang up.If you get past this stage then you cook that lady of yours a nice meal.You get some nice candles and place them on the table around the house and in the bedroom. Have a shower put on your best clothes and do your hair.Tell her you are celebrating the wonderful woman that she is and how she complemements you..how she makes you feel and youd like to just to kiss every inch of her skin..

Eat slowly and enjoy the meal..have some red wine handy but dont drink too much..look at ehr in the eye..flirt with this sexy beast hunk of woman who you have..appreciate her in all her glory...she is yours after all. Sex her with your eyes..she is just a picture perfect woman....you know she is.

After dinner gently lead her to a soft comfortable place.Crack out the olive oil and give her an all over massage that she will never ever forget. Start from her neck...shoulders,arms ,fingers..back,spine flowing southwards..massage her hips..buttocks then back of her tired thighs..get that tension out man..watch her unwind as you work your magic...go to the backs of her knees.calves .ankles..heels and toes ..fromm there on in do what we guys were born to do what our women long to feel from us but just remember take your time and do not rush..If this doesnt work and she doesnt cum like a sexy female animal of a woman she is then get into some counciling. You have some issues.

I know that this is a public forum and if mods or members find my post to graphic then please edit it. I never intend to possy foot around when I post .I like to give the answers because people need the insight..

 

Good luck Sparkie and you Spark your lady up brother..just wear should pads so she doesnt rip your shoulders off with her nails.

 

If you try this and it doesnt work I can honestly say she is the first woamn to not respond to this type of passion. Btw I am holding alot of my secrets back as it is my stuff..hehe

[JeckyllNHyde]

Wow man, you guys make me sound like some Orgasm Nazi, "CUM NOW WOMAN!! DO IT DO IT I SAY!!!!"

 

No Im not an insensitive * * * * * telling my GF about my ex why the hell would anyone do something that stupid. And the whole tarp thing is an exageration (ever heard of comedy Geez).

 

Hell I come in here asking for some advise on how to better please my woman and all I get is a buncha people assuming the worst thing they can think of and projecting on to me. Sorry I asked for some information, I guess I will keep my posts on this forum to the giving of advise and not the asking for.

 

Thanks!

 

Sorry if I also came off as if I was saying your the orgasm Nasi. Wasn't my intention.

I was just giving an honest opinion and speaking from my experience and how I feel when my bf (who also isn't an orgasm Nasi lol) tells me it. Just trying to give insight man..

My whole point of posting was sincerely to show you what it MAY feel like for your gf when you try to get her to orgasm and how maybe you can achieve it by taking other approaches.

[jstaman]

Hehe... Sounds good. thanks for the tips. I may have to fire up the pans and make a nice Italian dinner one night (I love to cook) some wine, music maybe a lil cognac afterwards...Hell I'm getting turned on thinking bout it. Thanks again.

 

And yeah...You can never tell ALL your secrets....There has to be a limit.

[top bloke]

Hehe... Sounds good. thanks for the tips. I may have to fire up the pans and make a nice Italian dinner one night (I love to cook) some wine, music maybe a lil cognac afterwards...Hell I'm getting turned on thinking bout it. Thanks again.

 

And yeah...You can never tell ALL your secrets....There has to be a limit.

 

You are right on the money champ!! At 40 my looks are slowly going but the charisma in person to make Jack Nicholson take notes!!! Our little secrets keep our relationships vibrant and alive even after being with my owner for 16 years!!

Dont get too turned either...I am married lol...you take that mamma where she belongs..champion!!

 

We are on the right wave length and you have the idea...if you can cook then you will probably knock her socks off in bed..give it a try and if it doesnt work then she needs counciling or maybe a doctor to check her out..