Mariahee Posted January 14, 2009 Share Posted January 14, 2009 Ok, so, the saturday after this one, me and my boyfriend of 1 month r going to the movies together on our first date. I kno its weird that we didn't start seeing each other outside of school earlier, but it didn't bother me before because i'd have class with him and saw him more than i do now. Anyways I'm bringing my friend James with me, so it wont be as awkward (im still uncomfortable being all by myself with my bf) My question is...have your first dates been awkward too? Just wondering Link to comment
Mythical_Suicide Posted January 14, 2009 Share Posted January 14, 2009 You're bringing a guy friend to your first date with your bf? I think that would be alot more awkward than just you two doing something together. Link to comment
Mariahee Posted January 14, 2009 Author Share Posted January 14, 2009 You're bringing a guy friend to your first date with your bf? I think that would be alot more awkward than just you two doing something together. Not rly they're both cool w/ it Link to comment
Mariahee Posted January 14, 2009 Author Share Posted January 14, 2009 how old are you? almost 17 Link to comment
stranded247 Posted January 14, 2009 Share Posted January 14, 2009 Not rly they're both cool w/ it haha they're probably just saying that to please you, secretly I bet they're both very anxious about it. How old are you? Seriously three is a crowd, I think you're boyfriend would be much happier just seeing you. Link to comment
Mythical_Suicide Posted January 14, 2009 Share Posted January 14, 2009 For future references, please do not shorten words. If they're both cool with it, then I guess do it. But I just seeing that making things more awkward. If it was a double date i'd understand but your guy friend just being the third wheel? As for first dates, you two have been "dating" for some time now so the first date shouldn't be too awkward. It isn't like you two have just met. Link to comment
stranded247 Posted January 14, 2009 Share Posted January 14, 2009 almost 17 Whhhaattt?! c'mon now, forget this third wheelin' plan, it would be ok if you were 13 or 14 but almost 17 missy, if you like this guy you gotta get over the fears and if you can't then maybe you should consider that are just not mentally ready for relationships and that there is nothing wrong with it. Link to comment
Mariahee Posted January 14, 2009 Author Share Posted January 14, 2009 For future references, please do not shorten words. If they're both cool with it, then I guess do it. But I just seeing that making things more awkward. If it was a double date i'd understand but your guy friend just being the third wheel? As for first dates, you two have been "dating" for some time now so the first date shouldn't be too awkward. It isn't like you two have just met. Well, i never went on a date before, period (forgot to put that in) and my boyfriend is a freshman who never had a girlfriend before. Link to comment
Mariahee Posted January 14, 2009 Author Share Posted January 14, 2009 Whhhaattt?! c'mon now, forget this third wheelin' plan, it would be ok if you were 13 or 14 but almost 17 missy, if you like this guy you gotta get over the fears and if you can't then maybe you should consider that are just not mentally ready for relationships and that there is nothing wrong with it. I'm a late bloomer, i never went on a date before Link to comment
bmwm3 Posted January 14, 2009 Share Posted January 14, 2009 If you need to bring someone, then maybe bring one of your gf not another guy.... Link to comment
Mariahee Posted January 14, 2009 Author Share Posted January 14, 2009 Whhhaattt?! c'mon now, forget this third wheelin' plan, it would be ok if you were 13 or 14 but almost 17 missy, if you like this guy you gotta get over the fears and if you can't then maybe you should consider that are just not mentally ready for relationships and that there is nothing wrong with it. If you need to bring someone, then maybe bring one of your gf not another guy.... i don't have any girl friends, only guy friends Link to comment
Mythical_Suicide Posted January 14, 2009 Share Posted January 14, 2009 Well, i never went on a date before, period (forgot to put that in) and my boyfriend is a freshman who never had a girlfriend before. Good time for you both to do it together. Seriously, the 3rd wheel is a bad idea in my opinion. Link to comment
stranded247 Posted January 14, 2009 Share Posted January 14, 2009 Well don't worry its not half as scary as you think it is. I mean its not like this is a blind date where you've never met the guy. Seriously you see him all the time in school so obviously you guys have stuff to talk about and watching a movie is the EASIEST date plan ever, barely any communication is required so you don't need to worry about running outta things to say and if you do just pretend you're engrossed in the adverts. Seriously why not give it a shot just seeing him alone? The poor guy isn't asking for much, its not like he's gonna rape you in the cinema lol. Also taking a friend might give him the impressing you're not that into him, especially when the friend is male. Link to comment
Mariahee Posted January 14, 2009 Author Share Posted January 14, 2009 Well don't worry its not half as scary as you think it is. I mean its not like this is a blind date where you've never met the guy. Seriously you see him all the time in school so obviously you guys have stuff to talk about and watching a movie is the EASIEST date plan ever, barely any communication is required so you don't need to worry about running outta things to say and if you do just pretend you're engrossed in the adverts. Seriously why not give it a shot just seeing him alone? The poor guy isn't asking for much, its not like he's gonna rape you in the cinema lol. Also taking a friend might give him the impressing you're not that into him, especially when the friend is male. sorry, i confused you, he isn't the going out to date type, i invited him to go, and he's not the jealous/needy type, so he's cool with my friend coming, maybe they'll become friends too Link to comment
stranded247 Posted January 14, 2009 Share Posted January 14, 2009 sorry, i confused you, he isn't the going out to date type, i invited him to go, and he's not the jealous/needy type, so he's cool with my friend coming, maybe they'll become friends too ok if you say so, but I think I and the majority of posters on this thread believe bringing a friend along will make things more awkward than less.. Link to comment
annie24 Posted January 14, 2009 Share Posted January 14, 2009 i wouldn't bring along a 3rd wheel on a first date. Link to comment
Scorpion Fury Posted January 14, 2009 Share Posted January 14, 2009 I gotta agree with MS, if nothing else bring a girl friend also and make it a double date Link to comment
Cloudyday Posted January 15, 2009 Share Posted January 15, 2009 Yea a third wheel on a date, much less a first date, is pretty awkward. Especially since it's another guy you want to bring. Since youre 17, why not try starting with something super casual that won't put any pressure on the two of you. Something like getting together at a coffee shop and doing some homework, well you probably really won't be doing much homework but it's like an excuse to be together and get a conversation going. Another thing you could do is go out in a group setting, but if he doesn't really like to go out, then not sure he'd go for that. Link to comment
epsilon2x Posted January 15, 2009 Share Posted January 15, 2009 Your friend James wants you for one. Trust me, no guy at that age wants to come on a date with you to be with another dude. Second thing, if I went on a date with a girl and she brought another guy I'm definitely not going out with her again. At least you mentioned it to him, I'm surprised he agreed. I don't know the guy but I would bet everything in the bank that he's really not ok with that. You probably just caught him off guard. But then again you are only 15. Link to comment
Mythical_Suicide Posted January 15, 2009 Share Posted January 15, 2009 Your friend James wants you for one. Trust me, no guy at that age wants to come on a date with you to be with another dude. But then again you are only 15. First of all, the remark about the guy isn't true at all. While it may be possible you don't know whether this guy wants her or not so is absurd to say that just because he is going along on a date he wants her. Besides, if he wanted her why the hell is he going with her to a date with another guy. Secondly, she is 17 not 15. Link to comment
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