I am having trouble reading her

[relm]

I have been seeing this girl and am enjoying getting to know her. Our last date seemed pretty dull (just not very touchy and she pulled away from the kiss after a second). I was interpreting her coldness as disinterest, but she keeps agreeing to go out with me. I was thinking maybe I am just more the sensitive/emotional type than she is (she seems more practically focused rather than passionately focused). Do you think if we eventually hooked up, we would drive each other nuts because I like nurturing, supportive and encouraging partners, but she likes logic and reason and has little patience for feelings and affection? I know it isn’t a matter of her wanting me to slow down because I am pretty much the slowest guy (took me four dates to even kiss her good night) so if anything perhaps I bore her, but she keeps agreeing to go out so that can’t be it. Since we are still getting to know each other, I might be wrong in how I read her, but so far, this sure fits.

[Scorpion Fury]

who pays for these dates and are they expensive dinners and things like that?

[drewciouS281]

how many dates have you guys gone on total. by the 4th or 5th she should atleast by then let you kiss her.

[ghost69]

grow a pair and try for more. you are questioning her and you aren't making much effort. you even explained that by the 4th date you barely had enough courage to go for a kiss. sounds like you are dragging your feet.

[relm]

But if she pulls away from a kiss, why does it sound like I am dragging my feet? We've been on 5 dates and yes I pay everything. Sucker huh?

[Scorpion Fury]

But if she pulls away from a kiss, why does it sound like I am dragging my feet? We've been on 5 dates and yes I pay everything. Sucker huh?

 

maybe she's not really that into you. does she contact you, or is it always you that calls? suggest something free or cheap, see if she's still interested

[relm]

maybe she's not really that into you. does she contact you, or is it always you that calls? suggest something free or cheap, see if she's still interested

 

Our last date was cheap - video and home made pizza. Not too expensive except for the booz. She still agreed to go out again but I'm just confused if she's interested or not or what to do next or if we'll just drive each other nuts.

[alcide]

there are ladies who are just shy, it took me a year to sleep with a guy once, and other dates never until i just drop out.

[lilmzlisa]

I think that this girl is a little shy and doesnt really know what to expect out of this relationship, maybe she is like me and a little more reserved for reasons being that she doesnt want to get hurt or be rejected by you, just keep trying, once she realises that you do actually have good intentions and wont hurt her, i think you will find that your relationship blossoms.

[relm]

I think that this girl is a little shy and doesnt really know what to expect out of this relationship, maybe she is like me and a little more reserved for reasons being that she doesnt want to get hurt or be rejected by you, just keep trying, once she realises that you do actually have good intentions and wont hurt her, i think you will find that your relationship blossoms.

 

Thanks for the helpful advice. Tonight we'll have a double date which I think will be fun so I'll keep at it and try to see this more as a fun time (so I'll be more relaxed) and what happens will happen.