he calls his baby's mom...A LOT!

[2900]

so i've playing P.I. lately..and i got access to the bf's online cell account. i've been monitoring his calls and text msgs. anyway, he cheated on me last year, with his babys mom. he promised me he would cut her out of his life, only have contact when its about the kids. anyway they've been calling each other everyday, throughout the day. and he called this morning, 7am right when he left my place. the convo's are short, just 1 or 2 minutes. i asked him yesterday, how often does he call her. he said, every 2 or 3 days. which is a lie. so...should i worry? he wouldn't lie unless there was something to hide, don't you think?

[avman]

Yes, if he's lying to you then something is up. There would be nothing to hide if he's only talking to her about the kids. I think you should have a direct talk with him and find out what the deal is.

 

Oh, and the mere fact that you decided to break into his online account should tell you the relationship is in serious trouble.

[Ac143]

Im with avman - if you have to play P.I you know something is up. Talk to him & get it out in the open.

[BeStrongBeHappy]

If the time is 1 or 2 minutes, he could just be leaving her messages. But there really isn't a reason to call someone multiple times a day, day after day, unless there is something going on there. Perhaps he is trying to win her back, or they are just seeing each other on the side for a FWB thing.

 

But i definitely would follow up on it... see if you can find out if he's actually seeing her in person and not just phoning.

[Mythical_Suicide]

I'd be suspicious since he has cheated on you before and if he is lying about it.. But just for 1 or 2 minutes maybe he is calling to say hi to his kids or something? I don't know, but i'd be really suspicious.

[Sweet Venus]

Ummmmm the FACT that he has ALREADY cheated with her is a RED FLAG.

Sorry.....I would be willing to bet he never stopped seeing her.JMO

[annie24]

very suspicious. and like avman said - just the fact that you are breaking into his account shows that something is wrong.

 

you know what? i'd just break up with him and let him be with the mother of his children. it will probably be better for everyone.

[Hope75]

very suspicious. and like avman said - just the fact that you are breaking into his account shows that something is wrong.

 

you know what? i'd just break up with him and let him be with the mother of his children. it will probably be better for everyone.

 

I agree with this.

[ghost69]

get rid of him. you should have dropped him the instant you found out he cheated the first time. schools don't give second chances for cheating.

[thejigsup]

In this day and age with AIDS and other nasties floating about, it makes absolute sense to either hire a PI or do the deed yourself. If he's cheating, you don't want your sense of "it's not right to snoop" to be your death sentence. That being said, his babies' mom is NEVER going away, so if you can't handle that fact, it's best you call it a day. If you do that, you no longer have to waste you time playing PI to a cheater.

[Kalika]

Your relationship doesn't seem to have a point. Your threads don't sound happy. Why bother continuing??