When you've been hurt & you're afraid...

[Truth317]

I had a long talk with my "friend" last night. I was telling her how confusing things are starting to get because I don't see why she's holding out on me.

 

Things between us are pretty exclusive. We're active, I've met her family, spent a night at her place, she's told all of her friends about me. We made it clear that we aren't going to see anybody else. We talk everyday. You want us to hangout and see each other a lot. That's what exclusive couples do. But yet she's saying she doesn't want to commit and give her all or her "full-self," just yet. Which is fine. But if that's the case than you can't have your cake and eat it too.

 

Mixed messages... things like, "I like you A LOT" one minute and the next, "I am just waiting for somebody to come along and..."

 

Things like, "I want to continue getting to know you and..." the next minute, "I still don't really know you like that..."

 

So we had this talk about establishing clarity amongst us. What exactly are we? Cause I know what I'd like for us to be... So she told me she would take some time and think about what it is she really wants to do over the next few days and get back with me. Good, cause I need to know that.

 

Just asking for a little support.. if you think this sounds right or wrong..

[Adge]

At least she is being honest I suppose. Nothing worse than being left in limbo though. I hope it works out in your favour!

[cruzer]

I say your brave for just being honest and talking to her about it all.

 

Most people come here for advice on what they can or should do, when they could just talk to their partner and work it out.

 

Anyways do u know she has been hurt and/or she is afraid?

[Truth317]

I say your brave for just being honest and talking to her about it all.

 

Most people come here for advice on what they can or should do, when they could just talk to their partner and work it out.

 

Anyways do u know she has been hurt and/or she is afraid?

 

She was in a 5 or 6 month, and things ended badly for her. She got cheated on after putting all her eggs in the basket. Only knew dude for a week before she started dating him...

 

Well I've been shot down, tied up and dragged along a dark desolate road myself. But I am still fighting and I am still going strong. We got too. It's no other way to survive out here. And I am just concerned, cause I don't like a lot of crap when it comes to getting serious.. Either we are or we're not, ain't no such thing as a halfway crook.

[cutiepie07]

That's a good attitude to have! I hope things work out for you!