Close to breaking NC. Haven't yet though. Hopefully won't

[Singlestill]

My ex hasn't been on messenger, where we spent majority of our time chatting, since our split but she came back on today. I actually opened messenger to chat with her but didn't put anything and closed it. I am actually ok right now but I want to talk with her so bad! I know I will start off ok, I really do want to know she is ok and happy, but I also know I would devolve into "I miss you, Do we have a chance, what happened etc . . . "

 

It is crazy how her being "right there" and not checking on me hurts but is empowering. I feel like if she could just forget me that fast . . .

 

Need encouragement. I am strong, and can do this, and will do this, but still need encouragement.

[bartender69]

i broke NC this past sunday after months and months. I gotta say its the worst thing i ever did. I didnt eat a thing all day monday and couldnt sleep. and i was doing well too. Dont do it. all that work you put into yourself will go to waste. Just be patient. things WILL get better, whether its with that person or with someone else. Have a lil faith.

[huskiesfan]

Don't do it. Matter of fact, block her on messenger if you can. Why waste all the effort that you've put forth so far for something that probably won't turn out the way you want it to? Just keep going, and good things will come your way. I know, it is little help when your ex is within easy reach, but you will hurt yourself if you break NC. Do you want to add more hurt? O' course not! Be strong and show her what she is missing out on!

[Singlestill]

I blocked her, but not before I saw her status update that she is dating her teacher from High School she ran into over Christmas. She dumped me New Years. It hurts, a lot, but in a way this is empowering as well. I kept picturing her as "the one" but if I can be replaced just like that . . . obviously puts things in a different light.

[SighSob]

Block & Delete...it's so easy. I did it with my ex.

[big sigh]

Yeah, that's not fun. Same stuff happened to me, we broke up and a couple weeks later she was dating someone she met a couple weeks before we broke up. It's shocking when it happens, and it set me back. It made me feel like I didn't matter at all. I remember the week before we broke up I was talking to some friends about marrying her.

I broke NC for the first time in a month a couple days ago, through email, because I felt like I had stuff I needed to get off my chest, and I had to try one last time to save what we had. Honestly though, it doesn't matter, she didn't respond and isn't going to respond, I did it for myself because I would have felt like I hadn't let her know how I felt otherwise. NC is probably the best way to go, it seems everyone on here knows what they are talking about, and that's what I've been trying to do and feel like I can fully do now. My guess that if NC is broken, over the phone or IMing would be the two worst ways to go about it, because at least for me, I wouldn't be able to control my feelings and would lash out at the person, whether it be with anger or sadness. But this stuff is all so hard, and that's just my opinion.

One thing that has helped me before I broke NC was writing a letter that I didn't send. I got out my feelings and didn't hurt anyone or get someone yelling at me to leave them alone in return. Anyway, good luck with everything, I hope things get easier. Keep posting.

[Singlestill]

I remember the week before we broke up I was talking to some friends about marrying her.

 

One thing that has helped me before I broke NC was writing a letter that I didn't send. I got out my feelings and didn't hurt anyone or get someone yelling at me to leave them alone in return. Anyway, good luck with everything, I hope things get easier. Keep posting.

 

I know the marrying thought. I thought about it too about the same time frame as you did. I wasn't ready for that as we were having an LDR, but I came to the realization that it would be possible with this girl in the future just before the end of it.

 

I actually wrote out a fiction piece using my emotions from this breakup and today found out it got me accepted into a writing class with a NYT bestselling author! I beat out a lot of people to get in there, so I am taking the fact that this pain allowed me to write a story with an amazing emotional component as something positive to hang onto. I wouldn't have shot for the class as hard, or written this story without it. Out of the darkness there came a faint light.

[big sigh]

I actually wrote out a fiction piece using my emotions from this breakup and today found out it got me accepted into a writing class with a NYT bestselling author! I beat out a lot of people to get in there, so I am taking the fact that this pain allowed me to write a story with an amazing emotional component as something positive to hang onto. I wouldn't have shot for the class as hard, or written this story without it. Out of the darkness there came a faint light.

 

That's awesome! Everything happens for a reason. Fiction classes are fun, I have a minor in creative writing. The problem is I don't finish stories unless I have to write them for class, haha. But yeah, it seems things happen when they are supposed to, and everything is connected in some way. Positive things happen when you need them to.