Trust issues

[living it]

I have been dating my bf for about 6 months and we have been living together for 4 months. Everything has been just super except for one little issue, he has a hard time trusting me. I have never done anything to make him doubt me, I've never cheated on one of my bf before and I would never. We share something so special, Why would I ruin it with something so stupid. I love him so much and I wouldn't do anything to hurt him.

 

He and I have both been hurt in the past and I think that is why he has trust issues. Another thing is that, in his past, he has done it all, from cheating to lying you name it he's done it. I think that because he knows what people are capable of, he just fears the worst. It just seems that no matter what I tell him, he won't trust me.

 

What can I do or say to him that will help our situation? I don't want to loose him because of a trust issue. PLEASE HELP!!!!

[Athena]

All that you can do is encourage trust by behaving in a manner which invokes it. We determine the trustworthyness of others by observing their behavior with us and with other people.

 

The other thing is time. You guys have not know each other very long? There is nothing that can take the place of time in building trust with other people.

 

It's quite possible that no matter how trustworthy you are and how long you will know one another, that he will never trust you - there are people out there like that. However, I think it's simply too early to tell because you haven't know each other long enough to expect a whole lot of trust at this point.

 

-A

[Nifty_Swifty1]

I have my own theory on why people have unsubstantiated fear of there significant other cheating on them. People fear in other people only what has been proven and what is in them. If one or the other can rationalize cheating, then they fear there counterpart is. I guess that's why I have never continued to date anyone that was ever seriously jealous because it shows me that if they were in a similar situation they would at least think about it and where the mind goes the body will soon follow. I guess that isn't going to help any, but that's what I think, so that's what I say.

[woopsydaisy]

Hi...just read your situation and i know axactly how you feel...i was in the same situation as you are.It does weigh heavily on you when someone carnt trust you and you have done nothing wrong.I started asking myself what else can i do apart from just been myself and not doing nothing wrong.I think everyone has insecurities about their partner leaving them after all if you love them you dont want them to leave, i also think trust and jealousy issues are due to self worth...but i know certain people have more insecurities due to their past, and their past is NOT your fault.The mistake i made i didnt reasure my girlfriend enougth, and maybe if i did we would still be together.So all i can say is reasure him as much as possible and exspress how its effecting you..but reasure that you want to solve the trust issue TOGETHER.