marriage without a honeymoon

[gracerules2008]

How would you feel about a marriage without a honeymoon trip? Would that be a deal-breaker for you if your SO didn't want a honeymoon?

 

This is just another reason why I am putting marriage on the back-burner until I'm old. I thought about this earlier tonight. If I got married now then I would have to plan for a honeymoon trip. I don't want to deal with the hassle and headache of planning for it.

 

Besides I know myself too well. When I take vacations I spend 95% of the time worrying about all the work I'll be doing when I get back home & back to work on Monday.

 

So it's not even worth it to take a honeymoon trip. I'll just spend most of the time during the honeymoon trip worrying about the new projects that need to be done on our new home and other serious business marriage tasks.

 

I'd rather just skip the honeymoon trip and instead just get right down to serious business with doing household projects and fixing whatever needs to be fixed around the house, saving up money to pay for my wife's night school courses, etc.

[Nkaleidoscopic]

Personally it would not be a dealbreaker.

 

If you love someone enough to marry them, they should be able to compromise a bit, right? Maybe you could put it off or do a short more local honeymoon, and have a big one later.

 

I probably will not have a honeymoon right after the wedding. I like traveling though so I'm sure we will have ample opportunities to do it later.

 

Everyone is different and its important to keep an open mind.

 

Also, putting it off won't exactly solve this problem. Sometimes women that get married when they're older expect much much more. When you get married younger I think it's easier to give up certain formalities or put it off.

 

- just my 2 cents. -

[wmped]

A good honeymoon doesn't necessarily mean lots of $. I think most people understand the tight times in which we find ourselves lately and are open to ideas.

 

For instance there are tons of place in the US to got for a honeymoon that are absolutely gorgeous destinations. Take for example just about ever major N.P. I personally would love to take my new bride into the Yosemite back country for a backpacking trip into the wild. Plus being out in nature has it's other advantages (namely privacy!).

 

Basically my man, don't fret such a small thing as a honeymoon when you're not even getting married! You've got a life ahead to plan and that should be work enough.

[Nkaleidoscopic]

A good honeymoon doesn't necessarily mean lots of $. I think most people understand the tight times in which we find ourselves lately and are open to ideas.

 

For instance there are tons of place in the US to got for a honeymoon that are absolutely gorgeous destinations. Take for example just about ever major N.P. I personally would love to take my new bride into the Yosemite back country for a backpacking trip into the wild. Plus being out in nature has it's other advantages (namely privacy!).

 

Basically my man, don't fret such a small thing as a honeymoon when you're not even getting married! You've got a life ahead to plan and that should be work enough.

Oh man, you just gave me an amazing idea. I love Cali's NPs.

[Beautiful Nightmare]

Honeymoons don't have to be about some extravagant vacation. They're mostly just a way for a newlywed couple to enjoy alone time together and just relax. Stop worrying about things and forget about the world for awhile. Paradise can be on the couch in the living room if you're with the right person.

 

Besides, if you find a gal willing to wait until you're both around 70, I doubt she'd care about the honeymoon. She'd just be happy that she finally has a ring on her finger!

 

So, no. Not a deal-breaker. But I wont lie - palm trees and the blazing sun sure are nice.

[wmped]

Oh man, you just gave me an amazing idea. I love Cali's NPs.

 

You're quite welcome! They are awesome are they not?

[Jeremiah Johnson]

Don't waste any money on a ring, either. That just helps make the diamond industry rich. With the money you save on a ring and a honeymoon together, you and your new bride could be rolling in video rentals and decent wine for years to come.

[Circe]

My situation!! .. sort of.

 

We aren't going on a honeymoon until 9 months after the wedding. My suggestion.. future husband agreed..

 

.. its not so much a financial issue as it is a timing issue. It would be really hard for us to take the time off right now - but at the end of the year it will be easy. Plus - right now the organising of our wedding is not particularly stressful for us. And we like it that way! But I think adding the planning of a honeymoon right now would make it more difficult and I feel like the honeymoon won't get the thought and planning we want to put into it and will be able to if its later in the year.

 

If there was no honeymoon at all - it would absolutely not be a dealbreaker.

[unabashed]

Our honeymoon was a long weekend trip to a bed and breakfast in Washington DC. It was a relatively short drive. It gave us time to be together and mark the occasion without taking a lot time off from work or spending a lot of money. Aside from room reservations, nothing was planned ahead of time. Not having a honeymoon wouldn't have been a dealbreaker, but it was nice to have that time together after the wedding.

[Applewhite]

Not a dealbreaker at all for me. But man I gotta add you kinda remind me of Ebenezer Scrooge

[rocio]

We never had a honeymoon. Went straight home to the kid and the in-laws. Wouldn't have it any other way. I'd rather work hard now to be able to afford nice vacations later... without stressing about how I'm going to pay off my credit card when I get back home.

[Hope75]

Not having a honeymoon would not have been a deal breaker for me. Getting married to my husband was far more important than a vacation. Having said that, we spent 2 weeks in Hawaii after the wedding and it was fabulous- a nice break after all the wedding planning and not having had a vacation for a few years prior to that. And, we saved for it in advance so we did not put it on a credit card or go into debt for it- that was a pre-req for us!

 

There's nothing wrong with taking a honeymoon, and nothing wrong with postponing or skipping it altogether, as long as both people are on the same page about it.

[metrogirl]

A couple that I worked with many years ago got married and didn't have a lot of money for a big honeymoon so they spent 3 days on Catalina Island. Didn't spend a lot of money and they stayed close to home.

[gracerules2008]

Well this is all a relief. I'll just have to talk it over with my girlfriend if the time ever comes that we get married. I'll add this honeymoon business on the list of things that will need to be discussed.

[Tethys]

Once again, and tell me if I am out of line but I just posted on your other thread -- stressing about a honeymoon is hardly a reason to not get married. And a honeymoon can be anything you want, not a giant stressful vacation. If the woman loves you, she won't care, as long as you decide something that makes you both happy.

 

I think you are worried about other things about marriage, and the honeymoon is the least of it.

[irishrimp]

Personally it would not be a dealbreaker.

 

If you love someone enough to marry them, they should be able to compromise a bit, right? Maybe you could put it off or do a short more local honeymoon, and have a big one later.

 

 

 

I definitely agree! I just got married and because of my husband's work he couldn't get that much leave immediately, so we took a 2 night honeymoon 2 hours away, and a cruise 2 weeks later when he could get more leave

[Mr. Mysterious]

Well, I can tell you that my wife is still waiting for her honeymoon.

This is because she wants at a minimum, a full 10 days in Maui.

 

She won't accept anything less, and I can't afford it.

This year makes our 5 year anniversary, and I haven't been able to save enough (mostly because I am the only one working).

 

Anyways, it's made me bitter that it's so important to her and it's made her bitter that I still can't afford it.

 

So there is my 2 cents.

[Jeremiah Johnson]

Well, I can tell you that my wife is still waiting for her honeymoon.

This is because she wants at a minimum, a full 10 days in Maui.

 

She won't accept anything less, and I can't afford it.

This year makes our 5 year anniversary, and I haven't been able to save enough (mostly because I am the only one working).

 

Anyways, it's made me bitter that it's so important to her and it's made her bitter that I still can't afford it.

 

So there is my 2 cents.

 

I think I'd lose all interest in trying in such a situation. Cause even if you busted your ass and saved and made it happen, there'd be so much fallout from the ongoing bitterness that the trip probably wouldn't amount to anything good. That just sucks, man. Sorry you're in that situation.

[amipushy]

Well, I can tell you that my wife is still waiting for her honeymoon.

This is because she wants at a minimum, a full 10 days in Maui.

 

She won't accept anything less, and I can't afford it.

This year makes our 5 year anniversary, and I haven't been able to save enough (mostly because I am the only one working).

 

Anyways, it's made me bitter that it's so important to her and it's made her bitter that I still can't afford it.

 

So there is my 2 cents.

 

Tell her that sitting on her stubborn *** won't get her there but if she gets a job and uses the money for the honeymoon, she could be sitting on it in Mauri by next year.

[Circe]

Well, I can tell you that my wife is still waiting for her honeymoon.

This is because she wants at a minimum, a full 10 days in Maui.

 

She won't accept anything less, and I can't afford it.

This year makes our 5 year anniversary, and I haven't been able to save enough (mostly because I am the only one working).

 

Anyways, it's made me bitter that it's so important to her and it's made her bitter that I still can't afford it.

 

So there is my 2 cents.

 

Wow - I'm really sorry

 

 

... I think you may have just scared gracerules off for life!

[grymoire]

Well, I can tell you that my wife is still waiting for her honeymoon.

This is because she wants at a minimum, a full 10 days in Maui.

 

She won't accept anything less, and I can't afford it.

This year makes our 5 year anniversary, and I haven't been able to save enough (mostly because I am the only one working).

 

Anyways, it's made me bitter that it's so important to her and it's made her bitter that I still can't afford it.

 

So there is my 2 cents.

 

wow...

 

that's all i can say

[Mythical_Suicide]

Well, I can tell you that my wife is still waiting for her honeymoon.

This is because she wants at a minimum, a full 10 days in Maui.

 

She won't accept anything less, and I can't afford it.

This year makes our 5 year anniversary, and I haven't been able to save enough (mostly because I am the only one working).

 

Anyways, it's made me bitter that it's so important to her and it's made her bitter that I still can't afford it.

 

So there is my 2 cents.

 

Wow.. Just wow.. I can't say what I really would like to say as it'd probably result in me being banned but women like that don't deserve to be married because all they want are the material things out of it.

Sorry I mean no offense whatsoever.

[Nkaleidoscopic]

Well, I can tell you that my wife is still waiting for her honeymoon.

This is because she wants at a minimum, a full 10 days in Maui.

 

She won't accept anything less, and I can't afford it.

This year makes our 5 year anniversary, and I haven't been able to save enough (mostly because I am the only one working).

 

Anyways, it's made me bitter that it's so important to her and it's made her bitter that I still can't afford it.

 

So there is my 2 cents.

 

Wow seems very odd. I imagine if you ever got to do it, it wouldn't be very enjoyable for you. I mean, I hope you can make the most of it, but it seems like a sad situation.