Is it possible to get back together after he broke it off for the second time?

[anticipation]

Hiya,

 

I'm 25 and he is 27. We had been a couple for a year and three months. Then unexpectedly he broke it off. I was in a complete mess. However, after three months he got back together with me. We spent Xmas in his house. We did argue but we also had wonderful moments. We went to a few parties that were organised by his friends...And at each of them I showed I was jealous because he did not give me any attention. And there were always other girls around him..He said he really liked me and he did have feelings for me but he could not imagine his life with a person who would pressurise him so much, humiliate him by crying at the parties from jealousy and acting like a crazy girlfriend.

 

I know he might have been right and I declared that I would change 'cause it destroyed my life as well..He said he didn't believe and broke it off again!!! I know deep down he did not want to do it 100% but he did and now I don't think he would change his mind 'cause it would make him look crazy getting back together again. Everyone tells him that it was just not working and he should move on. The problem is that he has never had such strong feelings to any other girls as he has had to me...And I know for a fact I could change my attitude because I have already started to work on it. And I have a hope, really strong one because I already imagined him as my future husband.

 

Has anyone had a similar situation? Is it possible to get back together after the second break-up to re-create a wonderful realtionship? How would I approach him? I will be grateful for any reply. Thank you

[addictedblue]

Why did you 'act like a crazy girlfriend?' Do you always get really jealous, or just with him? It seems like you have an unhealthy attachment to him and need some time on your own.

[agent1607307371]

he could not imagine his life with a person who would pressurise him so much, humiliate him by crying at the parties from jealousy and acting like a crazy girlfriend.

Is it possible to get back together after the second break-up to re-create a wonderful realtionship?

 

Those two statements don't really go together though, do they?

Wonderful relationships are not ones where one member is humiliated by the manipulative behaviour of the other.

 

The drama of being in a relationship like that can heighten everything, so feeling is more intense, but that doesn't make it a good relationship. It makes it a volatile relationship.

 

Continue working on yourself though, it'll be good for you and a help in future relationships.

[ut_longhorn]

Hiya,

 

We went to a few parties that were organised by his friends...And at each of them I showed I was jealous because he did not give me any attention. And there were always other girls around him..He said he really liked me and he did have feelings for me but he could not imagine his life with a person who would pressurise him so much, humiliate him by crying at the parties from jealousy and acting like a crazy girlfriend.

 

 

 

I can see why he's unsure and broke up with you. These types of behaviors are signs that both men and women stay away from. They are a form of manipulation. Take some time to reflect on why you were acting the way you were and continue to improve yourself before thinking about restarting this relationship. Once you have a better understanding of yourself and why the relationship failed, you will come out more confident.

 

Jealousy, acting out, and pressure are great ways to quickly lose a boyfriend. The old cliche that says trust is the most important thing in a relationship rings true here. Good luck.