GoldFox3840 Posted January 12, 2009 Share Posted January 12, 2009 OK, I'm the dumpee, it's been over a month NC, and she finds out I've got a new job starting this week. She sends me a text saying congratulations, hope it works out for me. I'm still teetering on going complete NC, and just not replying, but part of me says I don't want to be rude. What do people think about staying NC as far as not reaching out to them, but still replying to their friendly texts? Link to comment
xXPusHedAsiDeXx Posted January 12, 2009 Share Posted January 12, 2009 If you feel comfortable enough to reply to the text, then do so but keep it short. If not, then don't. Link to comment
midnightrambler Posted January 12, 2009 Share Posted January 12, 2009 "Thanks".....then accept no other text Link to comment
Scorpion Fury Posted January 12, 2009 Share Posted January 12, 2009 ^^^yeah what he said Link to comment
davejsy Posted January 12, 2009 Share Posted January 12, 2009 yeh don't give them any excuse to start a friendly chat with you. Link to comment
GoldFox3840 Posted January 12, 2009 Author Share Posted January 12, 2009 Thanks for all your help guys. I've been leaning more towards replying to her, because I don't want to come off as a jerk, or being so weak from the breakup that I can't even respond to her. On the other hand, I don't want to seem like an eager puppy begging for scraps. Also I didn't know if replying would be counteractive to letting her miss me (I know, I know, NC is for me). Maybe I'll send a quick message "Thanks. I'm excited!" No rush, though. I will think it through a bit more before I do anything. Link to comment
zrehman Posted January 12, 2009 Share Posted January 12, 2009 Don't say "Thanks, I'm excited!" ... I would send her a text back with no emotion. I agree with the other post of saying, "Thanks" that's it. And also after you send that ... do not reply to her any other texts. Link to comment
drewciouS281 Posted January 12, 2009 Share Posted January 12, 2009 a quick thank you will do just fine. then leave it be! Link to comment
tomtommyboy Posted January 12, 2009 Share Posted January 12, 2009 Whatever you reply, leave it a day or so. Then you definitely won't look like the "eager puppy!" And the wording is important. Nothing obviously cold, and nothing that invites further communication would be ideal. Link to comment
lostlostlost Posted January 12, 2009 Share Posted January 12, 2009 If you hold out hope of reconciling, do not reply. You'll just wait for the next text to come in then for days. I got a text from my ex over Christmas and did not reply. It gave me a bit of power back. Juvenile, sure. But it worked. Link to comment
GoldFox3840 Posted January 12, 2009 Author Share Posted January 12, 2009 Thanks, guys. I went ahead and sent the text. It was only a few hours later, I guess I should have waited longer. But, all I said was "thanks". If that's too short, too bad. I let her know how I feel after the breakup, I don't need to keep reconfirming it. Link to comment
SpeedingCars Posted January 12, 2009 Share Posted January 12, 2009 Yeahh, a few hours is better because it'd be obvious you were waiting to reply if you had sent it a few days later. Good job, continue with NC! You can do it. Oh, and... congratulations on your new job! Link to comment
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