Kindness & generosity

[liquer]

Having just ended a relationship with an extremely selfish person, the main thing I will be looking for in a new partner is that they are a kind, considerate, & a caring person.

 

I know most of you would feel the same way and I’ve found the majority here to be very warm and kind from some of the replies I’ve read to previous threads.

 

Would you consider yourself to be considerate or can you or have you behaved selfish towards your partner?

[Crazyaboutdogs]

I don't have a partner but I will say that I generally behave in a kind and considerate manner. Being human, however, I sometimes fall short and at times am not as kind and considerate as I should have been in a situation.

[Nkaleidoscopic]

I think I am mean sometimes, but not selfish. I try to put the other first, but sometimes when I get hurt, I retort it by saying something mean.

 

Outside of my relationship, I think I am generous.

 

But I am not perfect. My SO loves me regardless, just as I love him. He doesn't always do what I want or do what's right, but I love him, even though he's an imperfect human being.

[waveseer]

I have my moments. Overall I'd like to think I am kind, considerate, and caring. In the past I've been cruel to be kind out of what I thought was necessity at the time, but I'm hardly ever thoughtless just not always easy to understand.

[Scorpion Fury]

I am making a conscious effort to be nicer to people than I have been for most of my life.

[Nkaleidoscopic]

I am making a conscious effort to be nicer to people than I have been for most of my life.

Lol @ that post coupled with your avatar.

[villie]

I would say i was too considerate. I would have done anything to help them - hell i did! and got walked over/taken advantage.

 

I know better next time i guess... im far to nice and generous and people use that to their full advantage.

 

it is hard to find someone that will do something for someone just for the hell of it. doesn't have to be a big thing, but people tend to look at what they can get out of it....annoys me! lol.

[Odysseus]

Having just ended a relationship with an extremely selfish person, the main thing I will be looking for in a new partner is that they are a kind, considerate, & a caring person.

 

I know most of you would feel the same way and I’ve found the majority here to be very warm and kind from some of the replies I’ve read to previous threads.

 

Would you consider yourself to be considerate or can you or have you behaved selfish towards your partner?

 

Actually, I'm very much the kind considerate and emotionally attached kind of person, but it has it's drawbacks. I feel emotionally connected when I can talk through feelings with my partner, friends.

 

What I'm finding though, is that most of the time, this is not what people want. They want someone to listen to them, take their side and help them get what they want in life. Sad but true.

 

Do you want a partner who is kind and considerate because you need someone to validate your own feelings, or because you want to share feelings, emotions to create a tighter relationship...of understanding?