bittersweet confusion

[sasha]

Aloha. Unfortunately I have a touch of a problemo on my hands and I was wondering if anyone out there could help me out. . . My boyfriend and I have been dating for a year and a half. Six months ago he moved away to go to post secondary. At first, a long distance relationship seemed like no big deal, but now it is just starting to become a problem. We are not connecting as much as we used to. I am still deeply, deeply in love with him, but I don't know how to get back that connection that we once shared. Any ideas would be massively appreciated. Thanks. Keep on smiling, sunshine.

[SwingFox]

Hi sasha,

 

Thank you so much for coming to eNotalone.com with your question. I hope that I can be of help ... or at least a little.

 

The questions you might want to wonder about are:

 

1) What do I miss in my current situation?

2) What do I look for in a relation?

3) What do I look for in life?

4) What can I do to make myself feel more secure?

 

Question 1 is answered by talking to your b/f. Ask him to give you what you need, if at all possible. Sweet words could be enough.

 

Question 4 is answered by asking yourself how long you will still be in this separation. I do believe in long distance relations, as long as there is an ending to it... in sight. Of course I also would like to be together.

 

I hope this gave you a good start. Should you need more... let us know!

 

Good luck!!

 

~ SwingFox ~