HereAndNow Posted January 12, 2009 Share Posted January 12, 2009 I had a dinner date with this guy. We've already met for coffee and frankly I was smitten by him and was really looking forward to the dinner date. From the beginning of the dinner, though, I felt something was off. He didn't seem to be present and wasn't making much eye contact with me. He also mentioned he had a date with a hot woman the other weekend. It didn't feel great to hear about it and I thought it was inappropriate for him to talk about it on his first date with me. Why would he ask me out and talk about a hot date with another woman? I've never met a guy like that and just want to understand where he's coming from. Link to comment
littlestar Posted January 12, 2009 Share Posted January 12, 2009 He is a loser and i would drop him like a hot potato. He is trying to make you jealous so you go for him more and like him more. Link to comment
coolgirl Posted January 12, 2009 Share Posted January 12, 2009 If i were in your postion then i would seriously dump the guy right then and there. I know i would hate it. Link to comment
Batya33 Posted January 12, 2009 Share Posted January 12, 2009 Ohhh I had several experiences just like that - baffled me too. I just chalked it up to that sometimes people feel a strong spark the first meeting/date and then something changes - sometimes it has to do with meeting someone else, sometimes not. When that has happened to me, I've still behaved in a pleasant, sociable way even though I realized from the beginning of the date that it wasn't happening. I didn't let it get to me much when it happened to me because I never had high expectations after only one date or a few dates - anything can happen. sorry you were disappointed! and I agree that it was rude of him to comment on the other woman, whether she exists or not. Link to comment
perplunk Posted January 12, 2009 Share Posted January 12, 2009 Hrm... Maybe there was no hot date... Perhaps that was supposed to make you realize how desirable he is? Really... I don't know anyone who in their right mind would say that. Sounds childish. Link to comment
shygirl1212 Posted January 12, 2009 Share Posted January 12, 2009 It seems VERY odd and not right that he would be talking about having a hot date with another woman when he is already out on a date!! Is he perhaps not sure if you are "into" him and he is putting on a front? Does he only want friendship perhaps? Link to comment
Clarity Posted January 12, 2009 Share Posted January 12, 2009 A guy who was interested in you would not mention a date with another woman (unless he was telling a funny story or something). He's not interested. He possibly lost interest when he met you. Sorry, but forget about him and move on. Link to comment
littlestar Posted January 12, 2009 Share Posted January 12, 2009 Hrm... Maybe there was no hot date... Perhaps that was supposed to make you realize how desirable he is? Really... I don't know anyone who in their right mind would say that. Sounds childish. I agree with this ^^^^ My ex did this to me but in a different way. He told me he had so many "hot" female friends i would be so jealous if i ever met them and would never believe he could be just friends with chicks that hot. It actually put me off and made me sick. I never saw any of these "hot chicks" so i often wonder how "Real" they were. My ex was shallow and thought he could make me want him more by saying something stupid like that, it had the opposite effect. Link to comment
littlestar Posted January 12, 2009 Share Posted January 12, 2009 A guy who was interested in you would not mention a date with another woman (unless he was telling a funny story or something). He's not interested. He possibly lost interest when he met you. Sorry, but forget about him and move on. I had a first date with a guy who proceeded to tell me about this chick he had sex with a few days before out date, and he was even telling me how much bigger build she was than i. That was our first and last date. I flicked him FAST. He persisted calling a few times though! lol Link to comment
timetogrow Posted January 12, 2009 Share Posted January 12, 2009 Why would he ask me out and talk about a hot date with another woman? I've never met a guy like that and just want to understand where he's coming from. It's most likely that he wanted to brag about how he is popular among girls to draw your attention. Link to comment
shygirl1212 Posted January 12, 2009 Share Posted January 12, 2009 I had a first date with a guy who proceeded to tell me about this chick he had sex with a few days before out date, and he was even telling me how much bigger build she was than i. That was our first and last date. I flicked him FAST. He persisted calling a few times though! lol Wow...unbelievable...you think you've heard them all and then...the nerve of this guy! Good for you for showing him the door! Link to comment
HereAndNow Posted January 12, 2009 Author Share Posted January 12, 2009 A guy who was interested in you would not mention a date with another woman (unless he was telling a funny story or something). Well, he was actually kind of telling me a funny story... Still, the rest of his demeanors during the dinner tells me he wasn't into me. I'm confused because he pursued me pretty aggressively to get this date with me. Link to comment
Clarity Posted January 12, 2009 Share Posted January 12, 2009 Well, he was actually kind of telling me a funny story... Still, the rest of his demeanors during the dinner tells me he wasn't into me. I'm confused because he pursued me pretty aggressively to get this date with me. Maybe he saw or heard something 'in person' that changed his mind. It happens to all of us. I've been on both ends of that scenario, neither is comfortable. Different people deal with it in different ways and maybe this guy decided to go to awkward and rude route of telling about his other dates (real or fantasy, we'll never know!). Don't waste much thought over it - move on! Link to comment
CluelessGuy321 Posted January 12, 2009 Share Posted January 12, 2009 He's been reading too many books on playing "the game". Probably not implementing it right. If not, then he's totally oblivious. Link to comment
D_Lish Posted January 12, 2009 Share Posted January 12, 2009 I think he mentioned the hot woman, for either two reasons: 1. To make himself appear more desirable. 2. To let you know that he may not be available to you, for another date. He either had an interest in you or he didn't..... But a guy who talked this way in my company, wouldn't get another date with me. I don't like to be made to feel, that I have to compete for a guys attention.. Link to comment
HereAndNow Posted January 12, 2009 Author Share Posted January 12, 2009 I did not think I would hear back from this guy again, but to my surprise, he called and wants to see me again. Is he interested? Just bored? I am torn. I must be really attracted to him since part of me wants to give him one more chance. Is there any harm in going just one more date with him and then make up my mind about whether I ever want to see him again? Link to comment
servedcold Posted January 12, 2009 Share Posted January 12, 2009 If you really liked him other than his seeming coolness and the conversational faux pas, give him another chance to make sure. People can have bad days and become preoccupied. They can also get carried away in a story that involves elements not ideal for early dates. Link to comment
brian123 Posted January 12, 2009 Share Posted January 12, 2009 I think it was partly him bragging, partly him trying to give you signals that he isn't that in to you. Next him and move on. Link to comment
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