annie24 Posted March 28, 2009 Author Share Posted March 28, 2009 oh, i didn't see her today, so i couldn't get her impressions of him. but, i think she liked him. i introduced him to people as my 'friend.' i sure hope i hear from him too! i know he has work related stuff going on this weekend, but i hope.... Link to comment
Daligal83 Posted March 28, 2009 Share Posted March 28, 2009 Well it sounds like things are going very well And you seem so happy!! Could that be why the cat in your picture has a heart in it? lol Link to comment
BellaDonna Posted March 28, 2009 Share Posted March 28, 2009 I hope you 2 meet up this weekend. Link to comment
annie24 Posted March 28, 2009 Author Share Posted March 28, 2009 yeah, and here is where my feelings get confused. part of me wants to say, 'well, i really want to see him, and if he doesn't call me, then he is just not that into me.' but then, i know that he has a lot going on with school stuff. and then that brings me back to the reality of "OH YEAH - he is GRADUATING!!!" he has a million loose ends to be tied up in his lab. i can imagine if i were graduating in 2 months, that i would have a lot of things that needed to be done, protocols to be written out, inventories to be taken, things to write out for future graduate students on how to do things, etc...... all that random stuff. not to mention making housing plans on where to live in my future country, reading up for my future job, etc..... i can't imagine what he is going through right now, but he seems to be handling it relatively well (or at least hiding it!) i would be in a panic. i asked him if he has made his plane ticket to europe, he said no, he hasn't even made a graduation date yet. I like to hope that he'll wind up sticking around for longer. but then again, i know in this economy, if he has a job offer, he should probably take it and not dally around. even if there is a girl here who really likes him. Link to comment
Daligal83 Posted March 28, 2009 Share Posted March 28, 2009 annie there's no point in thinking that far ahead right now. Whether or not he leaves is out of your control completely. Don't let it ruin enjoying the time that you have together right now. Just keep in mind that it may not be long term. Link to comment
annie24 Posted March 28, 2009 Author Share Posted March 28, 2009 yeah.... am working on that....... sigh. Link to comment
Daligal83 Posted March 28, 2009 Share Posted March 28, 2009 I know it's really hard. My mind goes into overdrive when I don't know where I stand. Keeping busy really really helps because it distracts you and it reminds you that if things don't work out, you'll still be OK. Link to comment
annie24 Posted March 29, 2009 Author Share Posted March 29, 2009 ok, he's getting on my nerves a bit now. he emailed me on saturday night telling me about the things he had going on, etc.... and then asked if i wanted to get together on sunday (today) or some time next week. i wrote back saying i was busy saturday afternoon but could get together at night, or on thursday or friday of next week. well, it's now sunday late afternoon and i haven't heard back. so i decided to send a text about 10 minutes ago asking if we were meeting tonight or not. i haven't heard from him yet. ok, 10 minutes is not a lot of time! but i think it's a bit rude, i'm just curious as to what is up. seriously, if he's going to be weird and distant, then forget it. Link to comment
Daligal83 Posted March 29, 2009 Share Posted March 29, 2009 I'm confused...it's Friday late afternoon? Isn't today Sunday? lol. I wish it were Friday! It doesn't sound like anything was set up for sure. You told him when you were available for next week and he just hasn't gotten back to you yet. Give him a day or two because Thursday and Friday are still far off. Link to comment
annie24 Posted March 29, 2009 Author Share Posted March 29, 2009 ok, he just texted back. said he was off to church right now, but we could meet later. i texted back 'later as in tonight, or later next week?' hm. texting is so prone to miscommunication. dali - what i told him was that i could meet sunday night or thursday or friday. i'm busy mon-wed this week. Link to comment
Daligal83 Posted March 29, 2009 Share Posted March 29, 2009 I know, I was just confused because you said "well it's now friday late afternoon." If it was Friday I could understand being upset because he set nothing up for the times you were free. But it's still Sunday and he may have been really busy and unable to get back to you before that text. Don't get upset yet. It sounds like he's still trying to make plans with you. Link to comment
annie24 Posted March 29, 2009 Author Share Posted March 29, 2009 ah, sorry, i meant sunday. oops, i'm a goober. ok, well, waiting to hear back now. Link to comment
Daligal83 Posted March 29, 2009 Share Posted March 29, 2009 He's probably in church now so don't be surprised if he takes awhile to call or text you. Be positive annie! Link to comment
annie24 Posted March 29, 2009 Author Share Posted March 29, 2009 yeah, that's ok. sigh. my anxiety books just came in the mail this week, i am working on the exercises. Link to comment
Daligal83 Posted March 29, 2009 Share Posted March 29, 2009 Have you worked out today? I know that helps me when my mind starts racing about something and I get upset. Link to comment
annie24 Posted March 29, 2009 Author Share Posted March 29, 2009 i was just about to. actually, i had a dance critique today and it didn't go so well. i did spend a lot of time dancing today, but it just added to my anxiety today. Link to comment
Daligal83 Posted March 30, 2009 Share Posted March 30, 2009 I'm sorry annie Do something fun for yourself. If exercise doesn't work, go read a good book or give yourself a manicure. Read a cheesy pop culture magazine. Just something distracting. It sounds pathetic but something I tend to do when I get down is just remind myself of what I'm happy about with my life right now. Make a list of at least five things that are positive in your life, it helps! Link to comment
BellaDonna Posted March 30, 2009 Share Posted March 30, 2009 Hey Annie. Sorry you had a bad day. One thing that seems consistent is that he contacts you when he says he is going to- so he seems pretty courteous in that regard- he seems to be a man of his word- so I'm sure you will have some plans set up soon. I would imagine that since you don't know exactly when he plans to leave, but that the clock is ticking, each weekend that goes by probably feels like "a missed opportunity". It's probably adding to the anxious feelings you are having. Uncertainty and anticipation are definitely triggers for anxiety. (I know that all too well myself lol) Link to comment
annie24 Posted March 30, 2009 Author Share Posted March 30, 2009 yeah, he wound up coming over. i told him since i had a bad day, i wasn't in the mood to do something high energy. we rented a movie and watched it, and afterwards made out/talked/etc... afterwards. it was nice. i feel better now. he was very sweet when he noticed that i had a bad day, and he rubbed my shoulders when i asked him to, lol. you are right bella - it does feel like a clock is ticking down - but i guess we shall see..... Link to comment
Daligal83 Posted March 30, 2009 Share Posted March 30, 2009 awww he seems so nice i hope you feel better now! Link to comment
annie24 Posted March 31, 2009 Author Share Posted March 31, 2009 he is a sweetie. and he sent me an email this morning too, emailing me some tax information and just telling me to have a nice day. i like him. why is the first non-sketchy man i have dated in years moving away? Link to comment
annie24 Posted April 2, 2009 Author Share Posted April 2, 2009 hm. haven't heard from him in 3 days now. i'm sure he's just busy, but perhaps he is also losing interest? sigh. it's confusing. i feel a bit anxious, but i know i just have to let things play out. Link to comment
annie24 Posted April 2, 2009 Author Share Posted April 2, 2009 i replied back to his email he sent me on monday morning (i wrote him back the same day). i didn't say very much or ask any questions. just thanked him for his message and sent something funny. that's all. Link to comment
Daligal83 Posted April 2, 2009 Share Posted April 2, 2009 He's probably just busy. He does have a lot going on. Maybe send him a little email saying you hope his weekend is going well? Link to comment
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