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Dr. Darcy prescribes blocking him. It's hurting your mental health.

 

Might I also suggest: ]

 

Thank you for the link on breathing skills. I've used breathing when I've been anxious other times (like plane turbulence). I should do this more often.

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Yea good luck to her, cos most of my first times are mediocre, and if the guy isn't a player who's slept with tons of women or so emotionally detached that they don't really care, they can get a bit nervous the first time when you're both figuring each other out in bed and it's not going to be the greatest. I often find it get better and better with each time, if it doesn't, then you know it's for sure not good.

 

I've had the opposite experience. The guys that were good, stayed good. The guys that were bad, stayed bad. Men don't change much, maybe we don't either, so you can most often tell the first time. That's been my experience, anyway.

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well, I really hope the next guy isn't so terrible that I'll need to cut things off immediately, despite having good qualities as a person.... I really wish I could do FWB and just not get attached or jealous but I guess I can't.....

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I've had the opposite experience. The guys that were good, stayed good. The guys that were bad, stayed bad. Men don't change much, maybe we don't either, so you can most often tell the first time. That's been my experience, anyway.

 

Me too. Good sex often does get even better, but I've never had bad sex get good...it usually gets worse.

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I've had the opposite experience. The guys that were good, stayed good. The guys that were bad, stayed bad. Men don't change much, maybe we don't either, so you can most often tell the first time. That's been my experience, anyway.

 

Why does it have to be good or bad though? There's no such thing as in between? I agree I've not had someone who's bad at it turn good, if it's bad and I didn't enjoy it at all, I wouldn't give it another chance. But most who've been a little nervous and/or out of sync with me the first time (still enjoyable but not great) improved substanially as we started finding each other's rhythms and figure out what works and what doesn't, also as we grew closer emotionally.

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For example, if I compare D and Logan, I felt like D was way more interested in pleasing me. Logan could be selfish a lot of the time - his favorite position was one that was often painful or uncomfortable for me. Logan was selfish in general. Don't get me wrong, I enjoyed being with Logan overall... but D wins hands down here. I guess it depends on how hard they are trying to please you and how much is laziness on their part and just wanting to please themselves.

 

C and I had a texting conversation today. He told me he likes me a lot and wanted to know what I thought of him. I just told him I liked him too but didn't want to jump into bed right away because I don't want to get emotionally attached too soon because we should get to know each other first. He seemed to agree (or at least understand), lol. We have a second date on Friday. I have a second date with M on Wednesday, but not as excited about him. But, it's only the second date, so really anything can happen - i might reverse my feelings about M and C.

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Err, not exactly. But he was kind of being flirty. He asked me if I had a FWB, I said no and just said it doesn't work for me. And that I'd rather have sex in the context of a relationship. He agreed, or at least is going along with what I say. Then he asked what I thought I'd him, and I said I liked him, but it was still early on and we should get to know each other.

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Ok, I think C's out of the running now..... He just sent me a penis photo and asked me for a sexy pic in return. So he completely did not get the "I'm not looking for a casual hookup" conversation. Or he just heard the words "casual hookup."

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Ok, I think C's out of the running now..... He just sent me a penis photo and asked me for a sexy pic in return. So he completely did not get the "I'm not looking for a casual hookup" conversation. Or he just heard the words "casual hookup."

 

Yikes at least he showed himself (no pun intended! But I'm laughing more than I should) early so you didn't waste more time.

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it's a shame too. we had a perfectly nice 2 hour date, nice conversation, no sex talk, no ex talk, he was a total gentleman, gave me a hug goodbye. We haven't even kissed yet, then here's a penis photo! I wrote "I think we're looking for different things. I'm not looking for a casual hookup." he responded, "if you think so." and that's that. I don't even know what "if you think so" means. He said in our emails that he's looking for a serious relationship but yeah....

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These guys are so weird. I don't understand what makes people that have self respect send nude photos to women/men they barely know.

 

I am certainly not a prude, but if a man is cool with sending penis photos after meeting someone once or twice that is a huge red flag.

 

In my opinion, how a man treats YOU should be the biggest indicator not how many women he slept with. Just as women do not like being judged by the number of their past sexual partners I think same respect should be given to men. I am a firm believer that a book should not be judged by its cover.

 

In the case of C, clearly you're not on the same page.

 

Is it common for men and women on dating sites to talk about cuddling, kissing and sex? I always figured dating sites were just a tool people used to introduce themselves and go on regular dates without discussing anything physical early on.

It might be just me, but when I used to date cuddling, kissing and sex were never even a topic. It wasn't discussed unless it happened naturally.

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I have no idea petite, but I think some men just need to hire a prostitute instead of trying to get it for free online. Like one guy who contacted me recently, lives in another state but comes to my area weekly for work. We chatted a bit. He asked me out for dinner and then back to his hotel room (mind you, this is a first meet!) I said yes to dinner, no to the hotel room. Then he's like, "too bad, it would be fun." yeah, there was no date.

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Carol says I'm being too picky - that he sounds like a guy who likes me but is just being an idiot. I don't know though.... blah. She always said I was being too hard on Logan, until she met him and quickly decided she didn't like him at all. She definitely likes to give people the benefit of the doubt.

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It depends what your idea of fun is - as I wrote on another thread I would have replied "did you mean to send this to your mother?"

 

When I had just met someone through online, sex talk like that-or photos, etc- total dealbreaker.

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I'm thinking of, in the future, just replying with other penis photos back to theirs. Swap and trade, just like baseball cards!

 

Hahaha that's awesome!

 

I wouldn't listen to Carol on this. Totally poor behaviour on the guys part and not worth pursuing.

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I hardly think Carol can talk or judge whether you're being too picky given her past dating situation with that guy.

 

Even if you were picky, so what? You have a right to be picky about certain things.

 

It isn't like you're deciding whether to date him based on a few grey hairs. It is because the guy sent you a picture of his penis after meeting you once.

 

If he is horny, that's his problem. Put on some damn porn like many other guys and deal with it yourself lol.

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I know, i love carol, hate the guys she dates.

 

Well, tomorrow I'm getting a late dinner with M. We'll see how that goes. We're going to an Italian place near his work. They have really great roasted seasonal vegetables.

 

And you know what? The photo was 3 years old!! (it was his wang and his whole body, minus his face). Yes, I saved it to my iPhone so that I can forward it to the next guy who sends me a penis pic.

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