testcase Posted February 5, 2015 Share Posted February 5, 2015 Freeaaaaaakin mice. This is the first time I've read of mice in your place. I live in the city. I deal with those buggers from time to time. Poison seems the best thing I've ever had. I still have it in the corners of my basement years later. I mean I'd never touch it or go near it but it really made all the difference. Link to comment
BigKK Posted February 5, 2015 Share Posted February 5, 2015 my awesome animated gif didn't work image removed There is also Bumble... which is a spin-off from Tinder, made by a woman Link to comment
testcase Posted February 5, 2015 Share Posted February 5, 2015 Haha I did see that. I love the gif. Works perfectly in the context. Link to comment
annie24 Posted February 6, 2015 Author Share Posted February 6, 2015 hahaha, ok that GIF makes sense now!!! (the last version wasn't working) I love the Simpsons. I play the "tapped out" game on my iPhone. tomorrow, going to happy hour and then my friend Brenda - she's back in town for the weekend. She, Carol and I are going to Brenda's favorite japanese restaurant tomorrow night. I'm debating between Beef Sukiyaki or just getting sushi. probably the beef sukiyaki. Link to comment
Fudgie Posted February 6, 2015 Share Posted February 6, 2015 I vote for beef sukiyaki. I used to get that a lot at the hibachi restaurants. Link to comment
annie24 Posted February 7, 2015 Author Share Posted February 7, 2015 I had the beef sukiyaki and it was delicious. and it's such a big serving, i have lunch for tomorrow too. so, i had kind of a crappy day today, just a lot of fires to put out at work. I went to our happy hour. That guy i mentioned a few pages back - the one who i thought was cute but wasn't sure of his situation because he was looking for a roommate. I'll call him Ryan. i saw him tonight and just asked him straight up after he told me his dog was moving cross country. i asked what was going on. he told me his wife cheated on him (she's 4 months pregnant!!!) and they are getting a divorce. his wife is moving (along with the dog and the new bf) back to his wife's hometown. allegedly, it is Ryan's baby as she says that the affair started after she was pregnant. Ryan supported his wife though her schooling, and now she has graduated and is moving with her classmate/new boyfriend. Ugh. Ryan is still going to get a paternity test. I feel so awful for him. I don't really know him, but he seems like a really good guy. but the whole situation is messed up. being pregnant, taking a lover, moving away. Ryan said after she confessed the affair, she said she wanted to work things out, so he said ok, but then she was spending her weekends with the bf. ugh. what a (*&*#&$ ugh. anyway, Ryan was asking me about the animal shelter where i volunteer, he's looking for new things to do, etc. he said his wife was his main social life and now he's trying to find other things to do. i bought a whole bunch of tickets to a big name comedy show next month, me, Ryan, and 4 other people will go. Maybe more people will buy tix too, but i think it would be nice. Ryan is cute, i like him, but he's too damaged right now. maybe he wants a fwb, heheh... lol he told me he signed up on a dating site right away but quickly realized he wasn't ready. which is good to realize. nothing to report from Okcupid or bagel meets coffee. That guy i was talking to never wrote me back after i gave him my #. oh well. Link to comment
hers Posted February 7, 2015 Share Posted February 7, 2015 Thank you for helping me today despite all of the stuff you were going through. You're wonderful. Link to comment
annie24 Posted February 7, 2015 Author Share Posted February 7, 2015 HUGS. take care sweetie. Link to comment
hers Posted February 7, 2015 Share Posted February 7, 2015 Thanks. It's a little better but not out of the woods yet. Link to comment
annie24 Posted February 7, 2015 Author Share Posted February 7, 2015 well, give it time..... Link to comment
griff Posted February 8, 2015 Share Posted February 8, 2015 Cute Ryan huh.... See Annie, cute nice guys like you and are attracted. Bet he would buy the coffee or wine too. I think you're gonna find its still feast or famine in the dating world. Before you know it the cute guys will be coming out of the woodwork. You'll probably have to put out some man poison along with the mice extermination.... Hmmmmmm... FWB??? Might just be what the doctor ordered?!? Caution: While its advised to involve the biggest "sex" organ (brain)----remember to always keep that other big organ (heart) out of ANY fwb. Tends to muck up the fun... lol Link to comment
Fudgie Posted February 8, 2015 Share Posted February 8, 2015 If you are looking for a relationship, I would not settle for a fwb. I'd rather be single than be in a fwb. If you're attracted to him and having sex with him, it's too easy to have feelings develop. Link to comment
annie24 Posted February 8, 2015 Author Share Posted February 8, 2015 I wasn't asking for opinions. Thanks. Link to comment
faraday Posted February 8, 2015 Share Posted February 8, 2015 That sucks so much about his ex wife...it's good that he recognized that maybe he's not in the head space to try OLD yet. Hopefully the baby is the new bfs, so Ryan can move on with a clean slate. It's really messed up to find out you're pregnant and then start an affair...so maybe she's just hoping it's his? Idk. He sounds pretty awesome though. Hopefully his heart heals quickly and he's able to move on soon. I googled bagel meets coffee...it's not really here. Is it more visual based like tinder? Have you ever tried eH, Annie? Sent from my iPad using Tapatalk Link to comment
WithLove Posted February 8, 2015 Share Posted February 8, 2015 Sounds like another good guy got screwed over again. I hate that there are more and more women out there sullying our reputation. Believe it or not, there are still tons of us out here wanting an honest-to-goodness relationship. He sounds like a nice guy, and I'm sure he appreciated your kindness. I'm sure he appreciates friendship even more. Take him out and show him off, girlie. It'll be good for you both! Link to comment
annie24 Posted February 8, 2015 Author Share Posted February 8, 2015 Yeah, Ryan does seem to be a good guy who really got screwed over. He's taking it well, at least he's saying he's doing better now than he was 2 years ago. I don't even know if FWB would happen. I may not even be his type. I really wonder if this new boyfriend will stick around if it is Ryan's baby. Who wants to do 2 AM feedings and changing horrible diapers for a baby that's not even yours? wonder if the wife will want to try again 6 months from now when the new guy is gone. Or maybe it's the new guy's baby. oh well.... but yeah, i don't even know if he would be interested in me in that way. I'm meeting with Susan's coworker in 2 weeks. apparently, she didn't even show him a photo of me. I dunno, I think she should show him a photo because if he's not remotely interested, he can just walk away. Susan says it's just drinks for the 3 of us. I did try eharmony twice. once in grad school, and i even had a relationship or two. i did eharmony when i moved out here too, but i was pretty unhappy with my matches. I didn't actually even meet any guys in person. we never made it past the phone stage. Link to comment
petite Posted February 8, 2015 Share Posted February 8, 2015 I don't want to be negative Nancy, but I think (I know you're not asking, just food for thought) you shouldn't get involved with Ryan. Even FWB would be too much. He's way too damaged right now and his drama is still fresh. You don't need any of that. It's better to wait and meet someone unattached with no baby and drama on the way, even for FWB. Especially if you're the type that would be likely to fall for him, or get emotionally invested even a little. If the kid is his, the worst is yet to come. People like that are huge emotional liabilities until they sort themselves out. And no, I don't mean single parents and I'm not generalizing. I mean because obviously too much is going on and with a kid on the way there will be a ton of things he will need to concentrate on, and probably major issues with the ex regarding the baby. It's not worth getting involved now. It would be different if there was no baby on the way or if the child was a bit older and they already had everything sorted. Link to comment
annie24 Posted February 8, 2015 Author Share Posted February 8, 2015 it's my journal. can't i just share thoughts/fantasies without even acting on them??? Link to comment
petite Posted February 8, 2015 Share Posted February 8, 2015 Of course you can. I'm sorry I wasn't trying to invalidate your feelings/thoughts by any means. I just thought it was kind of a discussion and of course what you do is your choice. I just don't want you getting hurt, that was my whole point. Link to comment
petite Posted February 8, 2015 Share Posted February 8, 2015 I tried to edit but couldn't I didn't see your response to Fudgie until now, otherwise I wouldn't have said anything Link to comment
Fudgie Posted February 8, 2015 Share Posted February 8, 2015 I'm sorry, annie. I think sometimes, being on an advice site, we get too into "give advice mode" and that happened to me just now. Link to comment
griff Posted February 8, 2015 Share Posted February 8, 2015 Sorry Annie. I didn’t intend starting anything negative. I meant no disrespect to you or Ryan. I enjoy and am interested in your thoughts, fantasies, and adventures. That’s why I read your Journal. Because I am interested in your thoughts and you are an interesting person…. You have a knack for making life fun. Link to comment
testcase Posted February 8, 2015 Share Posted February 8, 2015 Ya I dunno why a lot of people around here look down on friends with benefits. I think it can be an extremely awesome thing to have while you're single looking for a relationship. Everyone likes friends? Everyone likes benefits? It seems like a match made in heaven! Link to comment
Fudgie Posted February 8, 2015 Share Posted February 8, 2015 Ya I dunno why a lot of people around here look down on friends with benefits. I think it can be an extremely awesome thing to have while you're single looking for a relationship. Everyone likes friends? Everyone likes benefits? It seems like a match made in heaven! I think it works well only for those who are able to have sex and completely separate it from feelings. Completely. Most people can't and that's why I don't think it's a good idea for most. Because people have sex, get attached, and spend their time with a fwb, perhaps wishing for a proper relationship with them, instead of going out and finding someone who actually wants/is able to have a proper relationship. There are many threads here from people who fall for their fwbs or settle for a fwb setup with someone who doesn't want a relationship, and it never ends well. Link to comment
testcase Posted February 8, 2015 Share Posted February 8, 2015 True. I mean obviously I can see how that happens and I understand it. It just seems every relationship is taking a chance. Whether it's friendship, or more. So why stay away from something completely just for fear that it might turn out bad? I mean it seems that's an approach that shouldn't be taken often in life in general. Link to comment
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