what should i do now? I'm no good at all this dating stuff and i really need advice

[Tyggg6]

i will summarize in point form:

 

- me and her meet at a mutual friends christmas party

 

- i ask her if she would like to hang out again and she said "yes, definatly and i find you really interesting"

 

- i message her a week later (after christmas) to get her number and such

 

-she emails back and gives me her number and again says she wants to hang out.

 

- she hangs out with our mutual friend a couple times and brings me up both times and mentions how she would be into getting to know me,etc

 

- i facebook messaged her on the 28th to do something on a day that week. I didn't hear back from her...then she writes a nice birthday note on my 'wall' and sends me a message asking me to find some specific music she liked (so i assume she just had things to do the day i asked)

 

-so i text her 4 or 5 days later asking to hang out on a thursday..she texts right back and says she is out of town at her parents and then suggests the weekend to get together

 

- we agree to this past saturday

 

- saturday comes and i message her to see when she wants to meet up....she texts me back and says she is still out of town because a female friend from far away surprised her with a visit..then texts me 40 mins later and says "i am home tomorrow! and i'm so sorry,etc"

 

HERE IS WHERE I NEED HELP

 

- i texted her back and just said "well i'm around. let me know when you are and we'll make it happen".......

 

i feel like that was to vague on my part..especially considering she already told me when she gets back!

 

i really just want to end this text/email crap and call her in a couple days to see whats up.....i assume she is still interested because we have been trying to meet up for 2.5 weeks...

[DN]

send her this "let's meet at xxxxx at 7 pm (or whatever) and we go and do yyyyyyy. Let me know if the details are Ok or if we need to adjust the time or place to meet".

[Roberto34]

Again, why don't people just call?? Instead, they wait on these text messages all the time.

 

Just pick up the phone...hear a human voice, and get it figured out.

 

The whole texting thing leaves too many variables.

 

-Did she get it? Could always say she didn't get the text.

 

-You can HEAR her tone when you guys actually TALK. It'd let you gauge her true interest level.

[Tyggg6]

i know you guys are right. i hate technology..my last girlfriend was a text message person and i just fell into the habit.

 

i just didn't want to come accross as to pushy with meeting up....then again hanging back isn't going to get me anywhere..i'm gonna give her a shout in a couple days when my schedule settles down.

[heloladies21]

One thing girls are very sensitive to is detecting when a guy is really interested or not. One of the ways they do this is by seeing how hard they are pursued. You have been taking a ton of time with this and not showing enough interest in her. She has shown a tremendous perserverence and stamina with you, but unless you step up your efforts, I'm afraid she'll lose interest and assume that you are not interested.

[epsilon2x]

Again, why don't people just call?? Instead, they wait on these text messages all the time.

 

Just pick up the phone...hear a human voice, and get it figured out.

 

The whole texting thing leaves too many variables.

 

-Did she get it? Could always say she didn't get the text.

 

-You can HEAR her tone when you guys actually TALK. It'd let you gauge her true interest level.

 

I wish everybody had this logic. I've met a lot of girls recently that all they want to do is text. As soon as they ignore my call I reply back with something like "I hate texting, call me back when you're free".

[Tyggg6]

okay, THE WORST CASE SCENARIO happened!

 

I called her cell on monday and everytime i called it connected to a operator type recording saying "customer is currently unavailable" over and over....i tried this 4 times...so i texted saying that her phone is messed and won't let me call....i heard nothing back.

 

i was going to drop it, but then i figured it may not have gotten through. so i sent her an email saying her phone is messed and gave her a time to meet up....still nothing...

 

i'm so confused...this girl has said we should hang out like 5 times in the past few weeks. she is usually the one suggestion a hang out or giving an alternate date on her own accord if when i suggest doesn't work. Now she just doesn't return messages...i don't get it..and i've tried really hard to make this happen and it seems to be falling apart.

 

i don't want to seem desperate or something..i just really like her..it's only wednesday morning and she text me on saturday saying she would be home to do something the next day..then off the face of the earth..

 

i've done all i can i think..waiting game begins.