What's going through her mind.(co-worker) I think I am reading into this way too much

[stabbedintheback]

So here is the story:

 

I was in a relationship with my ex for 19 months. (ended in November). Tehc company I work for has two facilities in our town; which I worked at one and then moved to the other in January 2008. I was placed on a program with this certain girl who I had met once before. Again, I was in a relationship at the time as was she. THe next 6 or so months went on and we clicked. In July I was having thoughts about my relationship as I could tell she was with hers. During this time, there was some flirting going on.

 

When we had issues in our relationships we always ended up discussing them with each other; basically I was her shoulder and she was mine. We had gone out to lunch a couple of times (strictly work). I believe we both may have thought there was something there, but knew we were in relationships and could not cheat. (never have, never will) plus, we always threw out the "dipping the pen in the comapny ink". Both of us had always been told that. I have also read that in today's society with people working crazy hours, etc...people to find SO's at work.

 

Fast forward to recent days, her and her boyfriend are not longer together. From all the talking we had done I sensed she had checked out of her relationship around July but just recently broke up. We are very much similar and talk is never a problem. I catch her looking at me and of course she catches me back.....

 

Here is the part where I think I may be reading into it. Friday we were talking and she asked if I wanted to go out with here and her friends on Saturday. I said sure, and she said she would call me. Well, I never heard form her. I will see her tomorrow and she will probably mention something about it. I almost called her but I don't want to be pushy; I was just hoping everything is ok.

 

 

Again, she is coming off of a relationship and I definitely don't want to rush things (if there is anything)

 

I am confused as I am clearly starting to like her. My question/s:

 

1.) Should I bring up Saturday night or just let it be?

2.) Should I drop hints about my feelings for her?

 

Again, there has been flirting between the two of us and I am not sure where we stand. I want to be her friend, but I don't want to fall into the friend-zone. (wow that sounds selfish)

 

ANy thoughts or advice would be greatly appreciated.

[MyheartorHis]

Well if you are interested and you want to see if she feels for you then you do need to drop hints. I wouldn't mention Saturday night, because maybe something came up that she doesn't want to talk about (it has happened to me, then I feel awkward around the guy). If she does say anything about liking you, good! If she doesn't... then she's probably not ready yet. Either way you guys need to take things slow.

[stabbedintheback]

Thanks Myheart.

 

I will first start off by saying I agree 100% with the taking it slow. In the past we have joked around about dating (I think we were both feeling each other out) I will leave Saturday night alone, maybe she will say something about it. I know I mentioned I work with her but I feel I should clarify that we work on the same programs, so we see each other everyday.

 

Should I ask her to get a drink this weekend? We have been talking about getting a drink for awhile now.

[MyheartorHis]

Thanks Myheart.

 

I will first start off by saying I agree 100% with the taking it slow. In the past we have joked around about dating (I think we were both feeling each other out) I will leave Saturday night alone, maybe she will say something about it. I know I mentioned I work with her but I feel I should clarify that we work on the same programs, so we see each other everyday.

 

Should I ask her to get a drink this weekend? We have been talking about getting a drink for awhile now.

 

I think that's a great idea! The more casual you make it at first, the more comfortable it will be. Casual meaning, nothing extremely special like dinner and a movie. I'd drop hints, like touching her hand for a second when you talk to her. Also, commenting on how she's dressed is a good thing. It might make her shy for a minute, but she'll love it. Women always love when a guy notices certain things about their apperance. It's like you actually pay attention. Haha Good luck!

[stabbedintheback]

I will see how tomorrow goes and what it brings. I wish I knew what she is thinking. LOL. Do you think she would have asked me to go out with her and her friends if she wasn't interested?

 

Should I put my feelings out there on the table or not worry about it right now. Again, I want to take it slow, just want her to know I am interested.

[MyheartorHis]

Let her know you are, but do it in little forms. Don't make things serious... like taking her aside and spilling your guts. Like I said, girls can take a hint when a guy is flirting and touching them when they talk. I love it when a guy lets me know he is interested like that. I know that's a huge way to push me way if I'm not ready for anything right now. If she asked you to go out with her and her friends, that's good. Maybe she didn't end up calling because of some drama (or anything else)... you never know. She wanted to be seen with you in front of her friends, think of it that way. PM me if you need any other advice! Hope I helped a little! I wish you the best of luck!

[stabbedintheback]

Well, she was under the weather today and did not make it into work. Since she had gone through some tough times recently, I decided to call and leave a message jsut making she was ok. I will disappear for awhile now.

[stabbedintheback]

Well, we were supposed to go out last night for a drink but something came up. Anyways tonight, I was getting ready to leave work but then ran into her in the hallway. She needed some help with something......I ended up helping her with what she needed and then was going to leave. As we were walking, she said, let's go get a drink and food. I agreed (of course. LOL)

 

Conversation was good, night went well. Decided not to push the envelope. We said good night and that was it. During dinner we talked about everything. At one point, we talked about movies, etc.... I asked her if she had seen a certain one and she said no. I have this movie; as we were saying good night I said let me know about watching that movie. SHe said ok.

 

My question, is tomorrow to early to ask her to watch it?

 

One other thing, she grabbed the check quicker than I could. I insisted but she said no. I told her I have next time and she said ok. Sounds like a good thing?????

 

What does everybody think?