what do you think?

[babii doll]

i've been wanting to move to a different city this year for a new change in location and to be closer to the bf (we currently live an hour apart from eachother)

 

but in order to do this i will need to enter back into a room share situation to get by for awhile until i get settled and find a job in the area.

 

i posted an ad a few weeks ago looking for a roommate that has a place and got a few responses back, one from a single mom of two kids with 3 cats (i hate cats so im still undecided on that one) whose renting out a room a bit over my range limit in regards to rent.

 

and one from an older male/divorcee who has a room he's looking to rent out for a reasonable price.

 

i told my bf about the responses i got and he immediately responded that he didnt like the idea of me living with another guy, even though it seems like this person has good intentions and is offering a cheaper room.

 

i just recently visited the older males place to check out the room and to discuss rent/bills shared, the house is really nice, spacey and would work for me temporarily, but i've been hesitant to sign on due to my boyfriends reaction about me living with another guy.

 

i mean i know he cant control what i do, but i do value his opinion.

 

but on the flip side of the coin i'm not sure what path to take, we've discussed moving in together after he gets out of police academy towards the end of this year and our finances are in order.

 

thus why this is only a temporary situation, is he right in feeling this way? i mean its a platonic situation, sometimes i hate that his words have so much effect on me, i was set on taking this room now im not so sure.

[Scorpion Fury]

because the idea just makes him uneasy. have you asked him why? i guess it's really a personal preference, some people are ok with it and others aren't. are these really your only two options?

[babii doll]

because the idea just makes him uneasy. have you asked him why? i guess it's really a personal preference, some people are ok with it and others aren't. are these really your only two options?

 

these are the only responses i got so far, probably because of what im asking for rent is unheard of in that part of the city im looking at moving to.

 

i asked him why and he didnt really say much other than he didnt want me moving in with a straight guy, i asked him if it wouldve made a difference if the guy was gay and he said "maybe"

 

not sure what to make out of it, kinda came off a little insecure like he thinks something will happen, even though i've never given him a reason to worry in the past or to not trust me.

[CAgirl]

Maybe if you had your boyfriend meet this guy and make sure that your bf knows he can trust you.

[alli]

Would you feel uncomfortable if your bf was considering moving in with another woman?

 

I think you should keep looking. I honestly wouldn't really like either of those choices.

[babii doll]

Would you feel uncomfortable if your bf was considering moving in with another woman?

 

I think you should keep looking. I honestly wouldn't really like either of those choices.

 

honestly if i knew his options were limited and it would only be a temporary live in situation i wouldnt mind it. i dont like the first choice of living with the chic with 3 cats, i dont mind the kids.

 

i have one myself but that would be a hectic situation i would think.

 

the older male i dont mind so much since its a big space and we wouldnt be in eachothers hair, affordable rent doesnt hurt either.

 

i dont see what the big deal is but it seems to bother the bf.

[jengh]

When I was in my last relationship, I lived with three guys. It wasn't a big deal, he trusted me and knew it was completely platonic.

 

Just try talking to him about it, show him the house, introduce him to the guy.

[alli]

honestly if i knew his options were limited and it would only be a temporary live in situation i wouldnt mind it. i dont like the first choice of living with the chic with 3 cats, i dont mind the kids.

 

i have one myself but that would be a hectic situation i would think.

 

the older male i dont mind so much since its a big space and we wouldnt be in eachothers hair, affordable rent doesnt hurt either.

 

i dont see what the big deal is but it seems to bother the bf.

 

I see. I live in an area that has plenty of places to choose from, but if the options are that limited where you are moving to I think your bf should be a little flexible about this. Does he understand that your choices are limited & it is only temporary?