5 Ways to Get Back at Your Ex

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Relationships are fragile bonds that need to be built up and maintained in order to keep them healthy and allow them to flourish. Unfortunately, break ups do happen, and they are nerve wracking, stressful and frustrating. If you are involved in a relationship that breaks up, you may be thinking that you want to get back at your ex but is this really the best step to take? One of the most influential ways that you can actually get back at your ex will not only put your ex in an interesting predicament, but it may also repair the relationship by showing your ex how important you are and were to them. So not only are these 5 tips to get back at your ex but they are also excellent methods for getting your ex back as well.

 

1 - Be strong. No one needs the needy, and this saying applies very well when it comes to broken up relationships. You need to stop begging, clinging or exhibiting the behavior of someone who is feeling desperate. Let your ex think that you have moved on just fine without them by acting strong and moving on. When you've moved on, your ex will realize that they have not.

 

2 - Minimize communication. Closing the doors of communication may appear counterintuitive when your primary focus is to rekindle things, but it is one of the most important steps when getting back at your ex or getting your ex back. Take a break from your ex, close off communication, and let him or her stew for a little while without any contact. This will allow your ex to clear his or her mind and realize how valuable your relationship was.

 

3 - Be flexible. Do not be forceful with your ex, demanding that they move out, or pick their things up by a certain date. Be flexible, be a listener and a sympathizer. Your ex will be surprised when they see this side of you, and it may inspire them to build the lines of communication that were lacking when the breakup came into play.

 

4 - Get the heck out! This is no time for you to be alone. Call your friends and get out of the house. Develop a social network and enjoy some entertainment in your life. This may not mean you need to date, or even pay attention to the opposite sex, but you do need to be getting out and enjoying your time with your friends. Not only will this be therapeutic for you, but it will also help convince your ex that they lost a gem.

 

5 - Simply be yourself. There was a really good reason for why you and your ex had a relationship to begin with, so go back to being yourself and let your ex remember why they loved you in the first place. This renewed self perception of your own self will surely rub off on your ex as well.

[You and Me]

Great post...I am trying to get my ex back and I am doing those exact 5 things. In a past breakup before this one I did the exact opposite and that didn't work out too well. But for the past week I have been doing those 5 things. Even though I don't really know if it is working in terms of getting her back, I feel like it is good for me.

[SighSob]

Nice post...it may not take your ex back but it's surely the right thing to do. You will feel better anyways if you stick to those 5 points...

[sternship]

great post - I think if you do all this and they don't want to come back then they can't have that many feelings for you anyway so it's best to move on either way. Good advice to starting a 'new' life without the ex! get out there!

[davejsy]

cool post. It's funny how doing what you need to do to get them back (if there is a chance), will also help you get over them also! Infact by the time they come back begging, you probably won't even want them back!!

[tomtommyboy]

All excellent suggestions to which I'd add...don't think of it as "getting back at them" any more than "getting them back". You may not be able to help those feelings early on, but certainly don't encourage or focus on them.