HopeArises Posted January 11, 2009 Share Posted January 11, 2009 Well, yesterday went better than expected. Last night went so well, that she ended up spending the night at my place in my arms and only left this morning. She left this morning telling me that last night brought her very close to me and yeah, this is the path to getting back together. We decided to take it slow and yeah, she's a bit scared, but it's looking good. VERY good. Link to comment
SighSob Posted January 11, 2009 Share Posted January 11, 2009 Nice job, mate...! Guess I'll try LC too as soon as I feel ready... Link to comment
wiley Posted January 11, 2009 Share Posted January 11, 2009 What does LC mean exactly? I know it means 'Low Contact' but what does this entail? Link to comment
ljp Posted January 11, 2009 Share Posted January 11, 2009 I'm really happy for you Hope. I hope it continues to go well! Link to comment
blue_dahlia Posted January 11, 2009 Share Posted January 11, 2009 How are you feeling? The reconciliation will be confusing at times to her so just be prepared if she pulls back sometimes. Just go with the flow and don't resist it. It's natural. The best thing you can do when this happens to accept it and trust that she will be back. This shows respect and a secure you I will continue to follow your story. Link to comment
buckdawg Posted January 11, 2009 Share Posted January 11, 2009 How are you feeling? The reconciliation will be confusing at times to her so just be prepared if she pulls back sometimes. Just go with the flow and don't resist it. It's natural. The best thing you can do when this happens to accept it and trust that she will be back. This shows respect and a secure you I will continue to follow your story. thank you very much for this post. I'm going through a similar situation with my wife and she's in a pulling back phase right now. Honestly it's tearing me up inside and this is exactly what i needed to hear. Link to comment
blue_dahlia Posted January 11, 2009 Share Posted January 11, 2009 On another note, it would be interesting for you to document your journey. I did this in a thread called "A daily account of my emotions" in the relationship forum. Any and all members could comment, etc. However, the site has a Journal section. The journal can be Private (others can't view it, it's just for you) or Solo (others can see it, but can't post comments). I just think it's a good idea to document everything that you're feeling. It's a great release plus you can see patterns of behavior, growth, setbacks, the overall journey. It's a fantastic release for your thoughts and emotions as well. Just a consideration, Dahlia Link to comment
wiley Posted January 11, 2009 Share Posted January 11, 2009 What does LC mean exactly? I know it means 'Low Contact' but what does this entail? Link to comment
buckdawg Posted January 11, 2009 Share Posted January 11, 2009 What does LC mean exactly? I know it means 'Low Contact' but what does this entail? sometimes no contact isn't feasible. if you're co-workers, have kids, etc. limited contact is keeping conversations bare bones. only discussing the necessary things and leaving it at that. Link to comment
Adge Posted January 11, 2009 Share Posted January 11, 2009 Nice work buddy! I guess if the love is still there, it can work! Link to comment
blue_dahlia Posted January 11, 2009 Share Posted January 11, 2009 Also, such as Hope's case, it’s keeping limited contact with his ex. Not contacting or talking on a regular basis or as often as one would during a relationship. Infusing space into the situation, which helps to alleviate pressure the ex may be feeling. LC may demonstrate respect and security from the dumper as well. Link to comment
stabbedintheback Posted January 11, 2009 Share Posted January 11, 2009 Sounds like everything is falling into place! Link to comment
HopeArises Posted January 12, 2009 Author Share Posted January 12, 2009 Thanks everyone! Yeah, we're moving slow. She did sleep over and left this morning, feeling very close to me. She called me tonight after having spent the day with her sister. I fear that her sister had some major influence on her, because she was a lot more short and curt with me tonight. Dahlia, you were right on the money with that one . All in all, it went EXTREMELY well last night and she said it herself, we can't just be friends and having spent the entire night in each others arms, we know it's more than that. Going to take it slowly. She's making me supper at her place this Tuesday night and then she leaves for her first of 5 business trips this Thursday.. I know she's into me now and is seriously considering getting back together with me, but is still being cautious and that's okay with me. I have to deal with my frustrations on my own time. Link to comment
HopeArises Posted January 12, 2009 Author Share Posted January 12, 2009 Sounds like everything is falling into place! Slowly but surely, yet it is. Link to comment
HopeArises Posted January 12, 2009 Author Share Posted January 12, 2009 How are you feeling? The reconciliation will be confusing at times to her so just be prepared if she pulls back sometimes. Just go with the flow and don't resist it. It's natural. The best thing you can do when this happens to accept it and trust that she will be back. This shows respect and a secure you I will continue to follow your story. Last night I felt great and even better waking up in her arms. Even though she slept over last night and said she's happy she did AND she called me tonight in a good mood, I KNOW that we are going to have to take it slow and see where it goes WITHOUT expectations on either side... She's not acting overly excited (at least she didn't on the phone tonight), but I'll be seeing her again on Tuesday night at her place for supper. I never thought I would have gotten THIS far with her, but it's still not FULLY there yet! Maybe Sparkie can advise! Link to comment
Maverick212 Posted January 12, 2009 Share Posted January 12, 2009 Hey man i just heard the news, i'm really happy for ya. glad things are really goin well for you now. hope everything works out for the best. C Link to comment
veneratio Posted January 12, 2009 Share Posted January 12, 2009 Awesome to hear, hope. I know I'm probably behind you because I wanted to be in your shoes, and it's refreshing to know that someone made it. Really happy for you, hope things continue to go well. Link to comment
Honey610 Posted May 6, 2009 Share Posted May 6, 2009 Good for you. It's definitely true, that patience is a virtue! Link to comment
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