shygirl1212 Posted January 11, 2009 Share Posted January 11, 2009 start hating yourself or parts of yourself? lose the confidence you once had in yourself? look at yourself in the mirror and think "no one will ever love me again" realize you lost your self-esteem? become afraid that you will live and die alone? feel so alone? these are ALL things that I've been feeling for a few months now and I'm just so incredibly scared I feel lost I feel ugly I feel low I feel stupid I feel stupid for feeling all these things I feel stupid for even posting this but it's the only place I can Link to comment
ladybug726 Posted January 11, 2009 Share Posted January 11, 2009 Yeah, my self esteem is pretty low right now. But I know I'll fall in love again. I hope anyway. Guess I'm not so sure... You're not alone, all of us here are suffering over our stupid exes. Remember your feelings are just that... feelings. They aren't reality. Link to comment
now what71 Posted January 11, 2009 Share Posted January 11, 2009 Yes, after the first 2 or 3 months. And now, 6 months later, the feelings still creep back occasionally. But I'm trying. Link to comment
Singlestill Posted January 11, 2009 Share Posted January 11, 2009 start hating yourself or parts of yourself? lose the confidence you once had in yourself? look at yourself in the mirror and think "no one will ever love me again" realize you lost your self-esteem? become afraid that you will live and die alone? feel so alone? these are ALL things that I've been feeling for a few months now and I'm just so incredibly scared I feel lost I feel ugly I feel low I feel stupid I feel stupid for feeling all these things I feel stupid for even posting this but it's the only place I can Yes to all of the above. I feel at times like I am doomed to be alone for the rest of my life, even though I have people flirting with me. I feel stupid, even though I am about to graduate from College with a good degree. I feel ugly though I know I am not. Most of all I feel low. I cry, a lot and I am a guy. I dont think we are any of these things shy, it is just the shock of losing something that was a big part of our lives. Each day we will feel a little better about ourselves. I have been through breakup before and I met this last girl, who I thought was the one but obviously wasn't. The one is still out there, wondering where we have been all this time and we will get there soon. Hang in there. Link to comment
TBE_1989 Posted January 11, 2009 Share Posted January 11, 2009 Absolutely. But, they will pass. And, in the meantime, be kind to yourself, go NC, meet new people, and use this website. Eventually those thoughts will disappear. Link to comment
coldplay. Posted January 11, 2009 Share Posted January 11, 2009 ya im pretty sure alot of us are in the same boat including myself... Just really low. Link to comment
beejcee Posted January 11, 2009 Share Posted January 11, 2009 oh, yes, i have felt all of those things as well. i think a breakup puts you in a state where everything feels and looks wrong for awhile. the day i left my husband of ten years due to his infidelity, the sky was the most gorgeous blue and i remember feeling so mad that it was a beautiful day when i felt in such darkness. stuff you never thought about becomes suddenly incredibly painful. i couldn't listen to music. the amount of crying i was doing actually scared me. i avoided the grocery store because i would actually get furious with the happy couples i saw shopping. i thought i would never be able to laugh again. when you are this sad, everything seems wrong. i'm so sorry you have to go through this..... take good care of yourself right now. Link to comment
tina-rocks Posted January 11, 2009 Share Posted January 11, 2009 Hi! I understand how you are feeling and wish I could take away your pain. I think the feelings we have when we lose the person we loved so much are every conceivable emotion known. We have to tell ourselves that we did everything we could to make them happy but alas it was not enough in the end. The fault is theirs and theirs alone. The burden must also be theirs. Please try to be brave and remember you are not alone. ((hugs)) sent your way along with some strength.. Tina x x Link to comment
jerk chicken Posted January 11, 2009 Share Posted January 11, 2009 yes i am feeling all those, hopefully it will get better, i dont think we really are those things, its a big confidence knock for someone to love u one day and ignore u thenext Link to comment
shygirl1212 Posted January 11, 2009 Author Share Posted January 11, 2009 Thank you everyone for your support, for sharing your thoughts, and for truly letting me know that I'm not alone. While I am sad that others are feeling the way I do, I sort of feel "normal" knowing that I'm not alone in feeling the way I do. Link to comment
zeldrick Posted January 11, 2009 Share Posted January 11, 2009 Hi shy, You're not alone. And I'm also one of you who felt everything you pointed out. It sucks, but I kept telling myself...that since I did attract my ex before, it just shows that I might just have another chance at love again. So, you will be in love again...with a better partner. Once you are up and ready for the world, you're on your way to show how attractive you'll be. Link to comment
Singlestill Posted January 11, 2009 Share Posted January 11, 2009 Thank you everyone for your support, for sharing your thoughts, and for truly letting me know that I'm not alone. While I am sad that others are feeling the way I do, I sort of feel "normal" knowing that I'm not alone in feeling the way I do. You are quite normal! Link to comment
lostinthoughts Posted January 11, 2009 Share Posted January 11, 2009 I just read your post. I posted on the same day a thread "agony of divorce". I am having the same feelings as you have. It is really really hard. I guess we need to trust people when they say it will get better. I guess it is sooner for some than for others. Link to comment
ryan2000 Posted January 11, 2009 Share Posted January 11, 2009 start hating yourself or parts of yourself? - YUP lose the confidence you once had in yourself? - What Confidence? look at yourself in the mirror and think "no one will ever love me again" - I no longer look in the mirror! realize you lost your self-esteem? - Tick this box off too! become afraid that you will live and die alone? - Nope, just without her. feel so alone? - Nahhh - got plenty of friends, just not my soul mate! these are ALL things that I've been feeling for a few months now and I'm just so incredibly scared I feel lost - mmmm hmmmmm I feel ugly - yup I feel low - ditto I feel stupid - gotcha I feel stupid for feeling all these things - hahahahahaha - yeah! I feel stupid for even posting this but it's the only place I can. - nope. I don't feel stupid for posting anything here......... i'm not affraid of being an idiot, mainly cause i just don't care what people think of me. I am low, i have hit rock-bottom............ but you get to know who your true friends are in times like these. If poeple CAN'T understand why i'm an emmotional wreck, then they never understood the person i was. But i wont ever feel bad,.......EVER.........for being the person that i am! Link to comment
thedude27 Posted January 11, 2009 Share Posted January 11, 2009 If you attracted your ex, odds are you'll be able to find someone else Link to comment
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