This is my Story...feedback appreciated

[A James Z]

Both my ex and myself are 21 and in college. This was both our first major relationship. We were together for 1 year and 4 months, and broke up over a week ago. We were basically living together before the end, when she told me that she wanted to start living at her place with her roommates, for which she was paying rent. I was totally cool with it, but just before she began to gather her things from my room she told me she wanted to go on a break. I took it hard because up until then I thought everything was fine. We had our fights, and there was some tension between us, but then she began to tell me that she felt we were settling for each other and that we were totally different people, for example I am more introverted than she is.

At first we were going to casually date and see less of each other. The next weekend she came over and we had a great time that night, but then she started talking about being friends. I got upset and acted moody that day, and told her I wanted her to leave because I had to study and I was upset. I called her that night and she said she wanted to break up because emotions were running too high to casually date and figure out what she wants at the same time. She said she wants to be friends for now, and that she is just not sure if she loves me anymore. It was never that I treated her bad, but she is going to grad school in less than a year and does not want to be in a serious relationship her last year of college.

We stay in contact, I keep conversations short and light, but mostly I am the one who calls. I have a lunch date set up for this week, but I have not seen her since the break up. Has anyone else been in this type of situation that could give me some advice?

 

I appreciate it.

[rusty_boi]

hey

 

ok i dont know if this will help but ill try well if you want her back you have to be more outgoing this i can help you with, i used ti be likie you and now im really outgoing you have to try be more spontanious just not think twice about what your doing just go with the flow eg someone says wanna go motorbike riding instead of thinking about it just go with your instinct and say yes (be like stiffler of american pie not that extreme though), it is hard at 1st but the more you do it the easier try practice 1st though. back to you getting her back try tell her your willing to change and how you started going gym and show her how spontanious you are and ask her to give it a try one more time.

 

theres nothing else you can really do to get her back i mean you dont wanna put her somewhere she doesnt wanna be because she wont be happy and if shes not happy then the relationship will die but hopefully it wont happen and what i said helps

[A James Z]

Thank you for your responce.