meister Posted January 10, 2009 Share Posted January 10, 2009 I am curious if any women here take the initiative and hit on random men and conversely if any men here have been hit on by random women? I was just thinking that it would be really nice if this ever happened! I think it is a rarity, rather we have to do all of the work.](*,) And I know in my case it is ALL the work. Especially us guys who are average to below average looking. So is this really rare or are me and some of my friends just SOL? The only way I've ever heard that so and so likes me is through the grape vine, never, never hit on by random women. Yes I would imagine if you are really handsome then you might get hit on but still you see lots of attractive women with average guys; however, they don't like to hit on these average guys it seems. I would imagine it is just society expectations of women, but nonetheless it sucks. Link to comment
dragon lady Posted January 10, 2009 Share Posted January 10, 2009 When I'm drunk I get incredibly flirty. This is to the point that I flirt with anyone and everyone even if I'm not the slightest bit interested. However, when I'm sober I don't do this at all. I'm never the initiator. Link to comment
skittlesfae Posted January 10, 2009 Share Posted January 10, 2009 I get real flirty with every guy, even if I am only slightly interested or a whole lot interested... Even when I am with someone, sometimes... [although that is rare, and I fess up to my SO every time...] I usually don't try to do it, it just happens. Sometimes I just come accross as flirting when I am not, though, and in hindsight I realize how it seemed... Anyways.. Some girls are just shy and afraid that the guy will look at her as foolish or be put off by her flirting. Link to comment
rosephase Posted January 10, 2009 Share Posted January 10, 2009 I hit on people I like. Which means when I hit on men it isn't random. It's when I know that I like them and I have hung out with them long enough to know them a little bit. Link to comment
top bloke Posted January 10, 2009 Share Posted January 10, 2009 I experienced a random drive by hiton by a woman a few years back. I have a commercial car with sighn writing. I was cruising with my music feeling good and some woman rang me to make an enquiry about my services..After a minute I established that I do not technically do what works she requested and as I hung up she says to me..'I am behind you and I think you are cute." I repled "'my wife with thinks I am cute too". She was a bit rocked that she hit on a married man. The conversation ended and then she pulled up next to me and wound down her window as I stoped at red lights!! She was youngish ,attractive and had a huge smile on her face.She then said to me that I took her breath away!! She was shaken by my looks!!! Holy ghost!! Was this happeneing to me? I nearly choked!! I then said to her that I am happly married with kids and drove off. I still cant believe it happened to me after all these years ..lol Link to comment
meister Posted January 10, 2009 Author Share Posted January 10, 2009 haha, "random drive by hiton", very nice dude! Link to comment
COtuner Posted January 10, 2009 Share Posted January 10, 2009 If I'm in the mood or having a good day, I can get a little flirty with guys, but I haven't actively hit on one in several years. Like many guys, I'm not so good with rejection at this point in my life. Link to comment
solacean Posted January 10, 2009 Share Posted January 10, 2009 I experienced a random drive by hiton by a woman a few years back. There were a couple of times I ALMOST had random drive-by things like that happen. All of them happened back when I got my first sports car (this was a long time ago, when I was in my late 20's). A car with a young woman I'd never seen before (and once, a whole car full of such young women) would pull up close behind me ... sometimes there was even honking involved. Then either on the highway or at the next stop light they would roll up next to my driver's side with their window open, leaning out and obviously looking to say something. Unfortunately, in each and every case, as soon as they saw my face for the first time, they immediately looked away and drove off as soon as they could without saying a word. As they drove off, I imagine those women were all thinking something along the lines of "it should be against the law for a hot car to be driven by a not-hot guy." Link to comment
top bloke Posted January 10, 2009 Share Posted January 10, 2009 My commercial car looked like a lemon..This girl must have liked my face or something..I dont even think I am very good looking but Ive been told I am handsome in the past..but beng married I happy if my wife likes me. I am also flattered when a woman of substance sees me for what I am and respects me. It is the biggest compliment actually. My looks will fade..my soul and heart are what counts . Link to comment
Shudder Posted January 10, 2009 Share Posted January 10, 2009 When I'm drunk I get incredibly flirty. This is to the point that I flirt with anyone and everyone even if I'm not the slightest bit interested. However, when I'm sober I don't do this at all. I'm never the initiator. evil! although i like then attention, it can get misleading..i know a girl exactly like that.. fun times Link to comment
COtuner Posted January 11, 2009 Share Posted January 11, 2009 LOL Or worse, when they drive up and see it's another woman driving it, in my case. Had a hilarious one when I took mine out for a spin while wearing a baseball cap with my hair pinned up inside it and no visible makeup (sunglasses). I had some women in an SUV following me around until I stopped for gas before getting on the interstate. They were primping and the whole bit - I climb out of my car in my shorts and t shirt and man, I have never seen a woman actually deflate before. I guess she thought she'd found a sugar daddy Link to comment
Daligal83 Posted January 11, 2009 Share Posted January 11, 2009 I've done it when I was in college and completely wasted. But I really don't have the confidence to do it. I'm not convinced a guy likes me until he makes the move haha. I'll do the eye contact thing to be like, it's OK to come talk to me...but it never happens and I just assume he's not interested. Link to comment
yeawutever Posted January 11, 2009 Share Posted January 11, 2009 Yes it's tiring of waiting for them to strike a conversation, make the move, boring rather we can talk to them ourselves and go for it, give me a booze and that shall do it even more noticeable. Link to comment
laisla Posted January 11, 2009 Share Posted January 11, 2009 i've blown kisses but that's about it, for random guys. Link to comment
corvidae Posted January 11, 2009 Share Posted January 11, 2009 It almost never happens. I am curious if any women here take the initiative and hit on random men and conversely if any men here have been hit on by random women? Link to comment
MovingOnUp Posted January 11, 2009 Share Posted January 11, 2009 I've 'hit on' guys before though it doesn't work as well now as it did when I was in my teens I'm assuming men like the idea of women coming on to them but in my experience it never leads to more than a flirty conversation. I don't think the men I have hit on have really appreciated/liked having a chatty/confident/flirty woman approaching them. I must be doing it wrong!!! Link to comment
yeawutever Posted January 11, 2009 Share Posted January 11, 2009 I don't think the men I have hit on have really appreciated/liked having a chatty/confident/flirty woman approaching them. I must be doing it wrong!!! Depends on the guy and their taste. Some like the shy, reserve ones that wait for the guy to make the move, others find that boring. Link to comment
MovingOnUp Posted January 11, 2009 Share Posted January 11, 2009 You're right yeawutever, but unfortunately the ones that like people like me don't wear neon signs! My point was that there are women out there that will hit on guys - I cant be the only one. Oh and we face the same rejection and still go for it. Link to comment
yeawutever Posted January 11, 2009 Share Posted January 11, 2009 My point was that there are women out there that will hit on guys - I cant be the only one. Oh and we face the same rejection and still go for it. Nope, chances are I would end up doing the same if I was single, lol. I don't like waiting no more. So no I don't go to what my father teaches me ''Oh wait for the guy, he will come knocking on your door'', ok when month, next year, lol. Link to comment
solacean Posted January 11, 2009 Share Posted January 11, 2009 LOL Or worse, when they drive up and see it's another woman driving it, in my case. Had a hilarious one when I took mine out for a spin while wearing a baseball cap with my hair pinned up inside it and no visible makeup (sunglasses). I had some women in an SUV following me around until I stopped for gas before getting on the interstate. They were primping and the whole bit - I climb out of my car in my shorts and t shirt and man, I have never seen a woman actually deflate before. I guess she thought she'd found a sugar daddy Haha! That's a great alternative version of my tale. And "deflate" is EXACTLY the right word to describe the effect. Link to comment
bulletproof Posted January 11, 2009 Share Posted January 11, 2009 I've flirted with guys. I don't know if I would call it "hitting on" anyone. I don't really think that's the way to go for either gender. I like to try to get to know someone in a genuine way. If you are frustrated that you're not being approached, why not work on approaching? Doesn't matter if you think it's "unfair" or not. You have to work within the societal structure and also with what you've been given. Link to comment
corvidae Posted January 12, 2009 Share Posted January 12, 2009 Without seeming to become over dramatic, tell that to e.g. the Suffrajets. "I know it's not fair women can't vote, but that's just the way society is." Society changes, everyday it changes, but it won't change if you just sit back and make wishes. You have to spread the word. Communicate how you feel and maybe you'll find others that feel the same, then it's not just you. Doesn't matter if you think it's "unfair" or not. You have to work within the societal structure and also with what you've been given. Link to comment
Cognitive_Canine Posted January 12, 2009 Share Posted January 12, 2009 I lure them over but I never do the approaching. Link to comment
agatha Posted January 12, 2009 Share Posted January 12, 2009 I lure them over but I never do the approaching. I like the 'luring' approach better, gets them thinking they actually did something. and yes, I go to parties and clubs and eventually hit on some interesting guy when I feel like. something like.. he's holding a beer, and I come to him with two drinks on my hands and say something like.. 'I can't believe you are drinking that! here, take one.' if it's his fav. beer, he'll get all worked up, and there's a possible conversation following. if not, well.. I gave him a drink, if he's polite, there will be some talk after X D. Link to comment
paperneck Posted January 13, 2009 Share Posted January 13, 2009 i get hit on by random women usually a few times a week. Mostly at gas stations, convenience stores, and sometimes at the liquor store. Link to comment
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