nyckid33 Posted January 10, 2009 Share Posted January 10, 2009 So I got this girls number yesterday, and am wondering if i hould text her or call her? which one would you prefer? Link to comment
shikashika Posted January 10, 2009 Share Posted January 10, 2009 Text her... it will be exciting for her to get a text. First she sees the little enevelop( or whatever it is) and thinks, "Who is that?" It will give her more suspense as to you calling... which will create more excitement. Calling is too 1980's Link to comment
blue_dahlia Posted January 10, 2009 Share Posted January 10, 2009 Call her! This is your first interaction. If you had conversed a few times, texting is not a big deal. However, I would view a text for first contact as cowardly and impersonal. Besides, you can gage her reaction/interest much better much with a phone call. Link to comment
volpe Posted January 10, 2009 Share Posted January 10, 2009 CALL. No texts. Texting is for chickens. Also... if she doesn't text you back then you will be forced to wonder if she got the text or not. And what if she doesn't like texting or to have to pay for it? Plus, anyone can read it. Just call her, then you will know she 1) will get your phone message and 2) if she doesn't call you back within a reasonable amount of time that she isn't really interested. Texting causes too much stress! Link to comment
babii doll Posted January 10, 2009 Share Posted January 10, 2009 Call her! This is your first interaction. If you had conversed a few times, texting is not a big deal. However, I would view a text for first contact as cowardly and impersonal. agree with this, if you just got her number, a call is in order. dont text right now. Link to comment
skittlesfae Posted January 10, 2009 Share Posted January 10, 2009 agreed... Call. And before you go text route at all, make sure it's free for her, or it'll be a REAL hassle, and she'll get pissed. Anyway, it's not like the call has to be extremely long or anything, yknow? Just think of stomething to say, and let the conversation flow. Text can come later, if need be. Quick, hey what are you up to or something. But innitiate the more personal call first. She'll be glad you had the 'guts' I suppose to do it. Link to comment
Supa_gurl Posted January 10, 2009 Share Posted January 10, 2009 I honestly say it depends on your age. The younger generation 16-30ish I would text because that is today's acceptable communication. If you or she is in th older generation 30ish-above, she may be ol fashioned and expect a call. *myself? I get a little smile when I get a unexpected text. Link to comment
dragon lady Posted January 10, 2009 Share Posted January 10, 2009 Definitely call. Texting is poor etiquette in my opinion. Link to comment
shikashika Posted January 10, 2009 Share Posted January 10, 2009 I honestly say it depends on your age. The younger generation 16-30ish I would text because that is today's acceptable communication. If you or she is in th older generation 30ish-above, she may be ol fashioned and expect a call. *myself? I get a little smile when I get a unexpected text. see, I'm about the same age as you...31... that's why I say text... Maybe for the younger generation they text all the time and have been doing so since they were in junior high so it's not as *exciting* as it is for me. Still I think texting is a way... A phone call is too pushy. I would rather arrange everything by text. Phoning puts too much pressure on her to talk right then. With texting she can respond when she wants and you can keep it short and sweet. Link to comment
skittlesfae Posted January 10, 2009 Share Posted January 10, 2009 Another possibility is you could text asking if you can call... ALthough, don't take my advice maybe because me + texting are like idk.. polar opposites. [not because I dislike it, but because I haven't had a phone to text in so long... Except after I'd alreayd been in a longterm relationship for a year. Sooo yeah] Link to comment
agent1607307371 Posted January 10, 2009 Share Posted January 10, 2009 Call her. Texting is something that doesn't require anything from you. But calling, that says you want to talk to her. Link to comment
hmdreamer7 Posted January 10, 2009 Share Posted January 10, 2009 I say call her, and I agree with blue_dahlia's comments - also, people text (or type) messages in different styles, and if she isn't familiar with your style of texting, she could possibly misunderstand what you're saying. I see calling as a more confident, direct way of contacting someone for the first time. Link to comment
nyckid33 Posted January 10, 2009 Author Share Posted January 10, 2009 ok so I will end up calling, now the other question is when do i make the call? Link to comment
forevertrying Posted January 10, 2009 Share Posted January 10, 2009 Yes, I think that if you call, it shows that you are quite interested and not afraid to call. Nothing wrong with texting though. I would leave it a couple of days so you don't look desperate. Link to comment
shikashika Posted January 10, 2009 Share Posted January 10, 2009 see I wouldn't leave it a couple of days... that to me would just be game playing. If you want to call 5 min after your first contact then do it! all this waiting 3 days or calling vs texting... this dating business is a real mess. And you can see from all the lovely ladies here, we all want something different in a different time frame.... aren't we confusing? Link to comment
kerry123 Posted January 10, 2009 Share Posted January 10, 2009 I would say somewhere between 24 to 48 hours after getting the number, defo no sooner than 24 and no longer than 48 hours. good luck Link to comment
nyckid33 Posted January 10, 2009 Author Share Posted January 10, 2009 and keep in mind that se is 19 and i am 17 Link to comment
shikashika Posted January 10, 2009 Share Posted January 10, 2009 I still say text her right away... if you want to contact her now... do it, why wait? I don't see what the purpose is. Link to comment
COtuner Posted January 10, 2009 Share Posted January 10, 2009 So I got this girls number yesterday, and am wondering if i hould text her or call her? which one would you prefer? Call. I hate texting for important stuff. One thing when you're already dating to say "I'm running late", but not early contact. Link to comment
COtuner Posted January 10, 2009 Share Posted January 10, 2009 ok so I will end up calling, now the other question is when do i make the call? ASAP would seem appropriate. Not sure what reasonable hours are at your age anymore. For me it would have been after dinner-ish as the best time. Link to comment
k8s Posted January 10, 2009 Share Posted January 10, 2009 text .. a few hours later not immediately ... gives that wonder if he will contact me surprise element... and bang-yes he will. Calling to me instigates that I dont have a life and wont be out having fun with my friends etc - then text "can I call you later"? something like that. I get more excited by a text than a call when I am in the middle of something. if she doesnt answer cos she is busy then you miss the surprise element say if they were at the gym or something?? Link to comment
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