Why now?

[IV2008]

Don't know what the ex bf is trying to do now. He mailed me on New years and called- I didn't reply. Only got around to it a week later when I got back home. He messaged back to say that he'd been wanting to speak to me and asked if he could call. During the call he said several times how much he'd been thinking/ missing me during his holiday away and his mother had been asking about me. I honestly didn't know what to say to any of it. I simply asked after his mother and nothing more. Tonight he said he wanted to visit me next weekend. I told him there was absolutely no need for that. I don't understand it- what in the world is he playing at now? I don't want him to come here, it would be majorly embarrassing for me- all my friends here have already said numerous times how I should have nothing to do with him after everything he's done. He's probably just bored/ lonely. Do I just not take his call the next time? Speaking to him doesn't really affect me and I don't want to ignore someone I did love- even after all the crap he's pulled!

[catfeeder]

Yep, you've got the right answer. Ignore the call. Using old feelings as an excuse to cave leads you right back into being manipulated in other ways. Quit while you're ahead, and you'll make your steps toward a healthy mind and future so much easier.

 

In your corner.

[IV2008]

Thanks catfeeder- you're right!

[davejsy]

If you don't mind speaking to him then I'd just politely tell him there isn't any point you meeting up, otherwise I'd agree to ignore him.

[thistime]

uh yeah he's jerking you around honey. I'm not sure what he wants either, but it sounds to me like you have done a good job of getting over him and moving on...so keep moving. I wouldnt take any calls, or give any responses. if he isnt a total idiot...he will eventually understand that you want nothing to do with him. i think he

s just feeling lonley right now, and you were first on the list to contact...