Ask A Close Friend Out

[LuvsDevinn]

 

Hello,

 

Heres my question, I have a close friend at my school that I talk to like every day. We talk about everything and she is a really good friend. I really, really like her, it's not just that i like her, i love her. And i want to ask her out because i love her. The only problem is that i dont know what she will say. We have the same group of friends, some of the same classes were are in the same grade. I am really kind and nice to her and i buy her little things every once and a while. I don't know what she will say when i ask her because, for example, for valentines day i got her some flowers and a really nice card, and she didn't say anything about it. I mean i don't do things like that so she will thank me or anything like that, i do it becuase i am her friend and i like her.

 

I really care about her, i got her a really nice christmas gift and in october of 2003 she had to undergo wisdom tooth surgery, so i got her a really nice card. At school last thursday we got flowers from an order, you could order flowers for someone and they would give them out. I got her some flowers and two of my friends who were in her class said hat she blushed and was really happy. Couls she be afraid to tell me how she feels about that.

 

All of the things that i have gotten for her or done for her to make her happy, she has never said a word about them. What could that mean. I really like her and it's driving me crazy, i am going to ask her out this week but what do you think she will say?

 

She has said to be before "oh i would go out with you" and i have no problems with her parents or anything like that. I think that when i ask her out, she is thinking that a big commitment will come with it and she may not be ready for that, she has never had a boyfriend before. (she is 15) But i don't want to pressure her, i want to go slow, start with a casual relationship and slowly build a deeper relationship in the future.

 

What do you think?

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[Beec]

If you really want to know how she feels you need to read her body language. Do some research on body language. What happens when you eyes meet?

 

Her body language should tell you all you need to know. But when you go to ask her don't just blurt it out. Walk up to her and smile with closed lips, take a deep breath. Say hi. Talk to her for a minute or two. Flirt jsut a bit. Is she reacting positively? Then just ask. If not, tell her something nice, like I really enjoy talking with you. Watch for a reaction, if she blushes, looks at you then looks down, you are doing good, ASK.

 

If she reacts negatively to you asking, she will either say yes, or no, or if she hesitates and doesn't look at you say these words: "I'm sorry, I did not mean to put you on the spot. I just thought we might have fun. I didn't mean tot ake you by surprise." You just gave her a big out, will she take it or bring you back in??? She may say "Oh no, I'd love to go" or say "You're right, I jsut see you as a friend and I am not ready," which ends up with you being rejected but you were graceful and preserved your dignity. She will be grateful for this and may change her mind. Let her know she can: "I understand. If you change you mind or want to go someplace as friends, just let me know." Then leave.

[Derek]

How about you say:

 

"You know that time you said you'd go out with me?

I'd like to take you up on that. What do you think?"