greywolf Posted January 12, 2009 Share Posted January 12, 2009 it's pathetic... after everything he's put me through, if he wanted to get back together, I would in a freaking instant. I think he just wants to do his own thing without having to do the 'work' of being in a relationship. But he still wants you around for all the other stuff that he gets from a relationship. Not fair... Link to comment
jengh Posted January 12, 2009 Author Share Posted January 12, 2009 I think he just wants to do his own thing without having to do the 'work' of being in a relationship. But he still wants you around for all the other stuff that he gets from a relationship. Not fair... Yeah, that's exactly what it is. He wants all the benefits of a relationship but not the actual commitment. Link to comment
midnightrambler Posted January 12, 2009 Share Posted January 12, 2009 Yeah, that's exactly what it is. He wants all the benefits of a relationship but not the actual commitment. if he can find that out there who would blame him? Link to comment
jengh Posted January 12, 2009 Author Share Posted January 12, 2009 if he can find that out there who would blame him? Exactly. Which is why I refuse to give it to him. Well, I'm trying to refuse Link to comment
DN Posted January 12, 2009 Share Posted January 12, 2009 What do you want from him? If you could map out the next ten years - what would happen if you could wave a magic wand and make it so. Link to comment
midnightrambler Posted January 12, 2009 Share Posted January 12, 2009 Exactly. Which is why I refuse to give it to him. Well, I'm trying to refuse keep fighting the good fight Link to comment
jengh Posted January 12, 2009 Author Share Posted January 12, 2009 What do you want from him? If you could map out the next ten years - what would happen if you could wave a magic wand and make it so. I want to be with him. I can picture myself with him ten years down the road. I've thought about what our life together could be like. We compliment each other so well. I truly think he could be the one. I was engaged at one point and I'm more sure about J than the other ex. If I had it my way, I want him to be ready. I want him to want me to move there. There's no doubt in my mind that he doesn't love me. We didn't break up because the love wasn't there. Link to comment
DN Posted January 12, 2009 Share Posted January 12, 2009 Then I think you should tell him that again - or repeat it if you already have. And tell him that unless and until he is on the same page as you it is in your best interests that he doesn't contact you. Tell him you appreciate the thought about birthday cards and so on but you would prefer him not to do that. Link to comment
lady00 Posted January 12, 2009 Share Posted January 12, 2009 I don't think being in contact for the time being is a good idea. Maybe sometime down the line he will have his act together and if you are still single, well he knows how to reach you. Link to comment
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