semi nude/ body issues

[babii doll]

wondering if its just me and my insecurity issues, or are there other women out there who haven't completely exposed themselves in front of their SO's.

 

ive been with my bf for a year now and he has yet to see me completely nude, my stomach looks like a road map (permanent post pregnancy body) not to mention my thighs and chest, but im ok with him seeing that, ok as i can be i guess..

 

my stomach is another issue because i have extra weight there as well, that is my main problem area.

 

i pretty much always wear a slip to cover my stomach, sometimes a strapless top that covers my waist, when we have sex i dim the lights down 90% of the time.

 

he prefers the lights to be on, but he doesn't complain(of course he wouldnt)

 

he asks me to take a shower with him sometimes but i cant bring myself to show that part of me to him.

 

i hate the way my abs look, i usually wear a girdle before i go out, i never go out without it.. and i mean NEVER.. it makes my clothes look alot better, without it i notice the lovehandles i have and the kangaroo pouch.

 

it seems like no matter how many sit ups i do i cant get rid of the fat, i mean i know the stretch marks arent going anywhere but if my abs were toned i would feel a bit better i think.

[Mythical_Suicide]

It really could be me posting this..

 

I am convinced my fiance loves me for me I just can't bring myself to be comfortable exposing myself to him.

 

I have that permanent pregnant pooch/extra weight in the stomach that doesn't seem to be going anywhere and it sucks.

[nurse1986]

Do you feel comfortable out in public?

[babii doll]

Do you feel comfortable out in public?

 

as long as i have my trusty girdle on im good lol..

 

we had a 1 week vacation in mexico last year and i bought a bikini thinking i would be brave enough to wear it, i ended up wearing a cover up to hide the bikini my whole trip there, exposing my stomach in public to me would be horrid.

 

stretchmarks and fat dont belong in a bikini, atleast not on a public beach, a private setting maybe.

[Balbina]

Hi, I'm sorry to hear about your tummy issues - I can relate! I used to have a lot of issues with it and it's still my problem area that I'm self conscious about - however, I don't have much of a reason to anymore.

 

I'll tell you this: it doesn't matter how many sit ups or crunches you do. That will build your abdominal muscles, yes, but it doesn't matter how strong your abs are if you can't see them because they're covered by a layer of fat. The only way to get toned and to get a nice flat stomach is through cardio exercise. You NEED to burn the fat to lose weight - there is no such thing as target training and you will never see the results with just ab workouts. Diet also plays a huge roll - its not about starving yourself (you should eat 5-6 times a day, idealistically) but about eating the right food at the right time.

 

If you want some tips or a sample of my fitness regime, let me know. It takes some will power to kick your butt into shape, but it CAN be done and you will start feeling sexy SOON! With the proper diet and exercise, you can shed 5-10 pounds in less than two weeks (usually that excess weight we carry is water retention, which exercises eliminates)

 

As for the stretch marks - vitamin e, shea and cocoa butter and numerous scar creams are effective for a lot of people, but the appearance is greatly improved when you're toned.

Good luck!!

[babii doll]

If you want some tips or a sample of my fitness regime, let me know. It takes some will power to kick your butt into shape, but it CAN be done and you will start feeling sexy SOON! With the proper diet and exercise, you can shed 5-10 pounds in less than two weeks (usually that excess weight we carry is water retention, which exercises eliminates)

 

As for the stretch marks - vitamin e, shea and cocoa butter and numerous scar creams are effective for a lot of people, but the appearance is greatly improved when you're toned.

Good luck!!

 

if you could? i'd really appreciate, nothing i seem to be doing has been working so far. i used alot of cocoa butter during my pregnancy didnt seem to help much at all =/

 

i'm so desperate lately that i've though about lipo/tummy tuck, but i want to use that as last resort and try a few more things first if all else fails then ill reconsider.

[shikashika]

Well other women have replied saying the same thing, so it's not just you.

 

However, I do ahve trouble understanding that if you've had sex with your boyfriend, you have trouble getting fully naked with him or walking around the house naked when you are with him

 

I have no boobs, and when I lie flat on my back they pretty well disappearr, so we all have our issues with our bodies. In my exerience, the more confident you are your man will find your sexier.

 

If your boyfriend is having sex with you, he is obviously attracted to you and would probably love it if you took it all off.

 

If you are uncomfortable with your body, do soemthing about it...nobody said it would be easy or that you could do it without sweat, guts and sometimes tears, but this will tell you how important it is to you.

 

If it's that important to feel comfortable naked, then it's important enough to get up that extra hour early and start running those hills... or give up your favourite snack.

 

but like i said already, if your partner is already having sex with you, he is attracted to you. I'm sure he won't object if you take it all off!

[babii doll]

Well other women have replied saying the same thing, so it's not just you.

 

However, I do ahve trouble understanding that if you've had sex with your boyfriend, you have trouble getting fully naked with him or walking around the house naked when you are with him

 

I have no boobs, and when I lie flat on my back they pretty well disappearr, so we all have our issues with our bodies. In my exerience, the more confident you are your man will find your sexier.

 

If your boyfriend is having sex with you, he is obviously attracted to you and would probably love it if you took it all off.

 

maybe im just fearful of his reaction, but its also just not being happy with my image, having to wear a girdle to look slimmer sucks.

 

and yes i've never been completely nude around him in or out of bed.

 

usually i'll walk around in a tshirt or a slip when he's around.

[shikashika]

maybe im just fearful of his reaction, but its also just not being happy with my image, having to wear a girdle to look slimmer sucks.

 

and yes i've never been completely nude around him in or out of bed.

 

usually i'll walk around in a tshirt or a slip when he's around.

 

 

but if you're having sex with him, he is seeing you and FEELING you naked!

 

Has he ever said anything to you when you want to keep clothed up during sex? or that you want to turn the light off?

[alli]

I used to really think liposuction would be great, but really it has a lot of downsides. Major surgery, screw ups that make your stomach look lopsided, fat cells migrating wherever the heck they want over time.

 

I try to eat mostly healthy foods. I also do cardio at a minimum of 3 times a week, 45 minutes each. I used to run at least an hour a day, 5 days a week so I've cut down a lot! I hate treadmills so in the winter I resort to the eliptical. Cardio is important, then a little muscle training to get your body a little more toned overall. To me, the biggest factor in my weight is my diet. Exercise helps, but I would never get anywhere if I ate fast food everyday. Joining a gym is my most influential factor as to whether or not I will keep working out. I won't work out if I don't have a place to do it.

 

Nobody looks perfect except models & that luck .01% of the general population. But just getting in shape will make you feel so much better about your body!

[babii doll]

but if you're having sex with him, he is seeing you and FEELING you naked!

 

Has he ever said anything to you when you want to keep clothed up during sex? or that you want to turn the light off?

 

he sees most of me, not all of me, which is what i meant about not being completely nude when im with him. i dont think he's ever mentioned my need to cover my waist during sex to me, think he might know its a sensitive issue for me, because he knows i wear body shapers when i go out.

 

as for the lights, he has brought up that he prefers them on, but doesnt make an issue out of it if i want to dim them.

[calidreamin0]

you know whats interesting, i have many stretch marks all over my body... from fast growth spurts when I was younger... and I have never had any man say anything about them?

 

I think confidence is everything in these situations, if guys think your concerned about it, then it will be an issue. If you show confidence, they will think you are even MORE attractive. I think because I have always shown confidence in the intimate moments, that they have never said anything about the stretch marks or asked where they have come from...

 

..most of all, your boyfriend does NOT care, but not showing him all of yourself may make him think that you are just not comfortable enough in front of him. So show yourself!

[Rose21]

I don't think my boyfriend and I have ever had sex in the dark. It's always been some kind of light there. I'm very sensitive with my body, but I don't have a problem stripping down nude or walking around the house naked. Just with him or by myself.

 

Your with your boyfriend, he loves you for YOU. When you have sex, he sees you and feels it and he ENJOYS it. Don't kid yourself. You should give him a strip tease, just let loose and show him all of you, I'm sure he'd be happy

 

Your boyfriend wouldn't be with you if he found you as unattractive.

 

You should feel comfortable with him!

 

Show it off girl, I know you've got it.