He transferred :(

[ulgirl]

I made a great friend at my university last semester, the guy in my previous posts with Asperger's Syndrome. Today hit me like a ton of bricks because he texted me to tell me thanks for everything but he is moving, and that I should call him if I'm ever in the area. I'm not handling this very well, it was all so sudden, I already hadn't seen him in a month over break, and I didn't see him before he left today.

 

I know I should be making more friends at this point (but with social anxiety I'm not very good at it), but I'm still so upset that he left so suddenly and doesn't seem to be intending to keep in touch with his friends here.

 

Any advice for feeling better?

[Caldus]

As someone who has experienced tons of social anxiety myself throughout life, I know how you are feeling. The rare chance where you happen to make a good friend with someone, he just up and leaves. All I can say is that it will take time for you to get over this and then to move on and bring yourself to talk to someone else. You say he has Asperger's Syndrome. Well, if you ever meet someone else there who has that syndrome, then it would at least make a good conversation starter. You could say that you knew a guy who had Asperger's Syndrome real well and from there you could be more comfortable talking to someone else. I'm not suggesting that this has to be the solution, but just throwing that out there. As someone trying to fight SA on a daily basis, try to find ways to connect yourself better with people around you. You may feel in your head that it's too dangerous or risky to just start talking to random people like that (with the possibility of you being picked on or whatever), but just try to find ways to connect to people in your campus more. You don't have to talk to a lot of people. Even one other person once in a while would be great progress. Maybe take a course that teaches the various syndromes out there and it may be a gateway for you to become more comfortable talking to someone in there.

 

Well, good luck and again, I know what you are thinking in general as far as your SA condition is concerned. It's difficult stuff but you have got to fight it. It will not go away by itself.