nyckid33 Posted January 10, 2009 Share Posted January 10, 2009 O k so I started talking to a girl who was attractive, we talked for a little and then i got her number. Its only been about an hour or two since, so when should I text her? Link to comment
alli Posted January 10, 2009 Share Posted January 10, 2009 You should wait until the next day.. maybe 2. And you should call her. Texting is the wimpy way out!! Link to comment
midnightrambler Posted January 10, 2009 Share Posted January 10, 2009 You should wait until the next day.. maybe 2. And you should call her. Texting is the wimpy way out!! thank you.... Link to comment
tin_tin Posted January 10, 2009 Share Posted January 10, 2009 Call or text her a day or two later. Too soon and you look a bit desperate. Link to comment
clyn Posted January 10, 2009 Share Posted January 10, 2009 Yeah. Call her in about 2 days. Link to comment
waltwhit Posted January 10, 2009 Share Posted January 10, 2009 but what were the circumstances around getting the number. Did you ask her and she gave it to you? Did she just give it to you? How long have you known her? Did you just meet her? 2 days is usually pretty standard, but girls are well aware of the two-day rule and it seems kind of obvious if you wait two days. I would say, depending on the above circumstances, just call her tomorrow so it's still fresh in her mind, and be confident and humorous, up-beat etc. Yah it may sound desperate to call right away, but if you're confident and you don't SOUND desperate that will go a long way. My bet is, she will think, "what a relief. Finally a guy that doesn't have to start off with games. he is sure of himself and sure about wanting to hang out with me. That's HOT!" Good Luck Link to comment
Crazyaboutdogs Posted January 10, 2009 Share Posted January 10, 2009 You should wait until the next day.. maybe 2. And you should call her. Texting is the wimpy way out!! Glad you said that..I was beginning to wonder if calling someone is just too passé for the twenty-something age group. Link to comment
servedcold Posted January 10, 2009 Share Posted January 10, 2009 but what were the circumstances around getting the number. Did you ask her and she gave it to you? Did she just give it to you? How long have you known her? Did you just meet her? 2 days is usually pretty standard, but girls are well aware of the two-day rule and it seems kind of obvious if you wait two days. I would say, depending on the above circumstances, just call her tomorrow so it's still fresh in her mind, and be confident and humorous, up-beat etc. Yah it may sound desperate to call right away, but if you're confident and you don't SOUND desperate that will go a long way. My bet is, she will think, "what a relief. Finally a guy that doesn't have to start off with games. he is sure of himself and sure about wanting to hang out with me. That's HOT!" Good Luck This is good advice, the "two day" rule is designed for guys who normally jump the gun and start calling incessantly the minute they meet a new girl. If you are confident, and have a rich life going, make your own rules as far as "how soon" is the right time. That said, the early phone conversations should be short unless you are a jedi phone master. If so, they should still be short. I have made the mistake over and over of getting into long phone calls with women early on, it dulls attraction on both ends almost every time, even though it may feel otherwise. And I -am- a jedi phone master. Save the long talks for in person and far you will go. Link to comment
sunday13 Posted January 10, 2009 Share Posted January 10, 2009 I gave one guy my number and a half hour later he text me, "It was nice to meet you, have a good rest of your night" to which I replied "thanks!" It was a cute gesture and I wasn't turned off. A guy has waited a few days to call... one guy waited over a week. To be honest, when he finally did call, he left a voicemail and I never called him back. Waiting too long will result in a lost interest. Basically, if you like her and you are confident, send a message whenever you feel like it. It is best to be natural. Link to comment
D_Lish Posted January 10, 2009 Share Posted January 10, 2009 I gave a guy my number and he called five minutes later. Did it bother me? No. Did it make me think he was desperate, clingy and needy.....errr No. I was flattered. A guy who left it two days, I'd assume he wasn't that interested and I'd shout... 'NEXT'.....!!!! These rules are so ridiculous.....you call as and when it suits you to call and if someone loses an interest because you call too soon, a little too much....then cut your losses and move on. They couldn't have been 'that' interested to begin with IMO. Link to comment
ghost69 Posted January 12, 2009 Share Posted January 12, 2009 i usually discuss with the girl when i get her number when i will call. and yes, i call, not text. Link to comment
Scorpion Fury Posted January 12, 2009 Share Posted January 12, 2009 Call whenever you want to. If I like a guy, I'm not gonna be all, "Well I like him, but he called me too soon. Next!" Link to comment
SpeedingCars Posted January 12, 2009 Share Posted January 12, 2009 I don't believe in the whole "omg if I text her today, she'll think I'm DESPERATE!" How in the world is that desperate? If you dig her, call her! It all depends on how you TALK to her... if you come off as clingy/needy, it doesn't matter how many days you wait to call her. You will be clingy/needy. Guys have gotten my number and texted me the same day to say "what's up". It didn't bother me at all. It only bothered me when they started to text/call incessantly. Link to comment
jcrisph Posted January 12, 2009 Share Posted January 12, 2009 I dont understand why people think texting someone is a bad thing. Most of the girls i know are text messaging their friends etc 24/7, so why would sending a quick message be a bad idea..i do prefer to call too but nowadays, majority of people use text message/email on their cell phones all the time. Link to comment
hockeyboy Posted January 12, 2009 Share Posted January 12, 2009 You should wait until the next day.. maybe 2. And you should call her. Texting is the wimpy way out!! while I agree on a personal level, I have a few friends that always text women they have just met and for whatever reason they get good responses from it. Often times they don't make phone calls and just makes plans to meet up. They don't text to chit chat, but rather to arrange a date...and in person they are good, fun, nice guys etc. I don't know if it's because you don't have to deal with being nervous from a phone call (from both sides) or just the convenience of it or what it is...but it seems to work for some people. Still, with all that said, I always call. Link to comment
servedcold Posted January 12, 2009 Share Posted January 12, 2009 I dont understand why people think texting someone is a bad thing. Most of the girls i know are text messaging their friends etc 24/7, so why would sending a quick message be a bad idea..i do prefer to call too but nowadays, majority of people use text message/email on their cell phones all the time. You answer your own question, texts tend to get lost in the shuffle of a barrage of other texts, and are also subject to being misinterpreted because of that. Clarity is especially important in the early contacts. Link to comment
Scorpion Fury Posted January 12, 2009 Share Posted January 12, 2009 I dont understand why people think texting someone is a bad thing. Most of the girls i know are text messaging their friends etc 24/7, so why would sending a quick message be a bad idea..i do prefer to call too but nowadays, majority of people use text message/email on their cell phones all the time. It's OK if it's something simple and quick, but I think it's annoying to have someone use that as their primary means of communication. I don't have time to text back and forth for hours, I get sick of it. Just effin call me Link to comment
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