TheBallKid11 Posted January 10, 2009 Share Posted January 10, 2009 You can ready my first post in the thread "broke up on new years what went wrong" Well I took her off facebook and IM and havent spoke to her in four days since those texts.. I get a private message from the guy shes with (who ive never met or spoken to before) saying hahaha gess who I just f u **ked.. Like i havent talked to her or provoked her or said anything to her and I'm pretty sure shes doing this on this guys name to get a rise out of me or piss me off. What do I do, and why would someone be so low to do this? Link to comment
CAgirl Posted January 10, 2009 Share Posted January 10, 2009 Just ignore it and be the bigger person. She obviously has nothing better to do with her time and you shouldn't let it get under your skin. Plus that is also very immature. Link to comment
coolgirl Posted January 10, 2009 Share Posted January 10, 2009 Because they've got no life and just want to play sick and twisted games to screw with your mind and my best bet is to be the bigger person and leave it alone. Link to comment
TheBallKid11 Posted January 10, 2009 Author Share Posted January 10, 2009 its just so wrong, together for 7 months, treat her so well and then breaks it off because she meets some random guy one day and then tries to crush me when I did nothing but treat her like gold.. I dont understand why she wants to try and hurt me so bad.. thanks for the advice though! Link to comment
jengh Posted January 10, 2009 Share Posted January 10, 2009 Oh my god, the nerve of some people!!!!!! That is ridiculous! Ignore it. Don't give them the satisfaction of a response. I'm sooo sorry. The best you could do right now is absolutely nothing at all. What immaturity. Ugh. Link to comment
TheBallKid11 Posted January 10, 2009 Author Share Posted January 10, 2009 thanks Cairo!! you've helped me so much thru this.. After 4 days and not getting what she expected out of those text messages I expected some sort of drunken text or message today, but nothing like this.. I'm in shock.. like wow Link to comment
jengh Posted January 10, 2009 Share Posted January 10, 2009 You're welcome, glad I can help. Honestly, I'm not all that surprised she did this. From what you've said about her, she just sounds very immature and is very lacking in the class department. This, more than anything, should tell you how much better off you are without her!!! Link to comment
HeartGoesOn Posted January 10, 2009 Share Posted January 10, 2009 The smartest thing you can do, is simply ignore it. Don't stoop to their level, be the grown-up here. Link to comment
TheBallKid11 Posted January 10, 2009 Author Share Posted January 10, 2009 After seeing this, now I realize how much better off I am... I just dont get why try so bad to hurt someone you said you "loved" and that treated you so well.. just so twisted to me.. Link to comment
Pandaman211 Posted January 10, 2009 Share Posted January 10, 2009 Copy and paste the message, send it to her in a email saying you got it from this guy, and say "Nuff said. Please leave me alone now". B/c under the chance its not her, and its him, you should let her know indirectly how much of a crappy life shes entered compared to one that includes you and not him, and then take the high road and walk away, and NEVER look back. That way you retain your dignity, aren't a pushover, and will overall feel so much better. Trust me. Link to comment
TheBallKid11 Posted January 10, 2009 Author Share Posted January 10, 2009 thats not a bad idea, you think I should def do that?? I think she wants me to respond though Link to comment
Pandaman211 Posted January 10, 2009 Share Posted January 10, 2009 Because he is trash. Thats why he would be that low. Link to comment
tin_tin Posted January 10, 2009 Share Posted January 10, 2009 Mate, some people can be so evil. Just do nothing, dont rise to the bait. Link to comment
jengh Posted January 10, 2009 Share Posted January 10, 2009 Personally, I wouldn't respond with ANYTHING. She wants you to. The message wouldn't have been sent if she wasn't expecting to get some sort of rise out of you. Link to comment
TheBallKid11 Posted January 10, 2009 Author Share Posted January 10, 2009 so you think not acknowledging it all is better than acknowledging it and showing her it doesnt bother me? Link to comment
ryan2000 Posted January 10, 2009 Share Posted January 10, 2009 My god my blood would BOIL if i got a message like that! If my ex was seeing somebody who said that to me....... i'd instantly loose all respect for her. Good luck with your new guy, He seems like a 'Catch' - hahaha! Whatever. But if i ever bumped into him, i'd have no hesitation to throw the first punch! Link to comment
TheBallKid11 Posted January 10, 2009 Author Share Posted January 10, 2009 I'm pretty sure Panda its her... if you go to my other thread: broke up on New years what happened take a look at the texts she sent me and i think that would lead you to believe it was her... its about 3 or 4 threads down Link to comment
ryan2000 Posted January 10, 2009 Share Posted January 10, 2009 Copy and paste the message, send it to her in a email saying you got it from this guy, and say "Nuff said. Please leave me alone now". B/c under the chance its not her, and its him, you should let her know indirectly how much of a crappy life shes entered compared to one that includes you and not him, and then take the high road and walk away, and NEVER look back. That way you retain your dignity, aren't a pushover, and will overall feel so much better. Trust me. Actually yeah - the above is the best thing you can do! (Although i'd still punch the ********) Link to comment
jengh Posted January 10, 2009 Share Posted January 10, 2009 so you think not acknowledging it all is better than acknowledging it and showing her it doesnt bother me? Correct. By acknowledging it, you will inadvertently show that it DOES bother you. Link to comment
TheBallKid11 Posted January 10, 2009 Author Share Posted January 10, 2009 My god my blood would BOIL if i got a message like that! If my ex was seeing somebody who said that to me....... i'd instantly loose all respect for her. Good luck with your new guy, He seems like a 'Catch' - hahaha! Whatever. But if i ever bumped into him, i'd have no hesitation to throw the first punch! Oh yeah my blood is boiling and im Irate right now... I live about an hour and a half from them because im not at school and I contemplated taking a ride up there.. but im not gonna stoop to that level.. I saw that and have been pacing around ever since Link to comment
TheBallKid11 Posted January 10, 2009 Author Share Posted January 10, 2009 Ryan and Panda... you guys think I would lose my dignity and be a push over by not responding?? I think it just shows that I'm above her little games and no matter what I do it cant bother me.. I guess read the texts she sent me in my other thread and if you still think the same way let me know Link to comment
Pandaman211 Posted January 10, 2009 Share Posted January 10, 2009 JSL, let me ask you this, do you even know if it really was her? Idk, that seems like guy talk to me...Unless your ex was like that, or the way she was implied she would stoop that low. I mean, I 100% understand what people are saying about ignoring it and take the high road out. But you can kill two birds with one stone. If its her, it shows her that you're not putting up with this, and she might get a 10 word email from you, but its not the reaction she wants. You know why? Because you aren't displaying that you're hurt. In fact, you're doing the contrary by telling her to screw off. If its him, she gets to see what kind of guy he really is, instead of trying to mask reality and neglect to accept it. Oh, you're not helping her at all. But she is a woman, she will eventually reflect how much of a * * * * * * * she is for leaving you. This chicks not worth your time man. I think you should, b/c this is about you. And if you ignore it, its going to eventually bother you because you didn't say anything about it. And this is very different than other situations where an ex wants to get a reaction out of you. This is as immature as you can go. So retain your dignity, obviously take the high road out by not giving her the time of day, but have your VERY short say. Obviously, she is your ex, you care about her enough to not want her to be with this guy, right? You don't want her to be with a guy that does that * * * * behind her back. I'm truly sorry that you have to deal with this BS. Either way you look at it, shes not worth it. You want a girl thats gonna be with a guy thats gonna message you even though he doesnt know you telling you he slept with your ex? Or do you want to be with a girl that would stoop that low and get on the guys facebook and send you that message? Nope x 2. Link to comment
TheBallKid11 Posted January 10, 2009 Author Share Posted January 10, 2009 I agree, but thats why I asked you to read my other threads and the texts we had in my original post.. I think she might stoop that low.. but you still think I should email her? What should I say? Link to comment
Pandaman211 Posted January 10, 2009 Share Posted January 10, 2009 When I say pushover, not in her eyes, but in YOUR eyes. Its about you feeling better. I feel like with a few words, like Nuff Said. Good luck and please leave me alone, or just nuff said, doesn't give you the opportunity to be vulnerable. I just think you would feel better, I know if I were you I'd be SUPER pissed, but if he just sent it today, I don't think you should be in a rush to send it back, so maybe wait a couple days to take in all the advice, sleep on it, and decide if my approach or the other posters approach is better. It all depends on you. I would do it, and ryan would, but ILove, HeartGoes, etc. believe otherwise. There is no right answer. Its just a matter of opinion, and applying it to your specific situation. I strongly believe you're not stooping to her level, especially since you're not really reacting in a negative way...you're letting her know, if it was him, that hes a POS. If it was her, then you're letting her know you read it, don't think much of it, and instead of reacting saying why would you do that to me, you're doing the opposite by telling her to leave you alone.. I encourage you, if it was today, to sleep on it and see how you feel in a day or two. Reason being, when you're mad, you're looking for an excuse to say something, even if its as short as I said. So take it easy for a bit, and see how you feel after. That way, you know what truly would be beneficial. Be prepared if you do end up sending that short email that basically is just copying and pasting the message, that she may try and contact you b/c she might try and fake it and say i can't believe he did that, or that she may say "omg are you serious?" or "you're a lying POS". But in this situation, when you do decide and if you choose this path(which I think is relatively similar to what the other path is), you DONT answer the phone. You delete the email she responds to. Dont read it. Link to comment
Pandaman211 Posted January 10, 2009 Share Posted January 10, 2009 You do what you have to do for yourself, and find a happy medium between that and whats best for the situation. That is my point. Link to comment
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