if a guy still miss his ex (or not over her) after a year, will you think he is such a loser?

[wtm78]

if a guy still miss his ex (or not over her) after a year, will you think he is such a loser?

 

and why?

[jengh]

No, I don't think so...it depends on if he obsesses about her, how long they were together.. it's not completely cut and dry.

[Pocket Rocket]

Same as ILMBC, but I'll wonder what he's done to try and heal.

[sternship]

man im in the same boat......ive lived in 2 different countries to try to get over my ex and still not met anyone like her.....it was a year and a half ago now but i still have hope that i will meet someone soon.....i don't know man but i wouldn't worry - it;s all about luck/time

[lostandhurt]

First of all what is over her? Everyone has their own definition.

 

If it was real to you so deep down inside it will take time. During that time if no attempt is made to heal then you have wasted valuable time to learn about yourself and who you want to be for your life. It will also give you time to see that she wasn't your life, just a part of it and now that she is gone YOUR life will be different, not better or worse, just different. Living in the past and not accepting what is here and now is often the culprit.

 

 

 

lost

[jessmichelle]

I have to say that doesn't make a person lame at all. Heartbreak effects everyone differently in how severely they are effected and how long of a grieving period they'll experience. Good luck, and I'm sorry.

[Sn0man]

That's a hard question to answer. I've had two very great loves in my life and even though one was 15 years ago and the other was 8 years ago I still miss them both. I'm completely over them, have been for years and years, but I still think about them from time to time. As another poster here said it's not cut and dry.

[lostandhurt]

An attempt to heal is taking that first baby step towards acceptance that it is over and will never be again. For me anyways. It may be different for you. Letting go of the past (memories, pictures, gifts from her and the like) has to start. As you sit and start thinking about this or that that involved her just ask yourself this: "what good will come from this?" Looking back only brings more hurt. Sure you may have a few moments of warm feelings until you realize it is all a fantasy and then you crash back down. I often tell people to make it easy on themselves. By that I mean put away the pictures, don't drive by the places you used to go, throw out the cologne she bought you and on and on. These things are guide posts to the past. Your future is before you not behind you. This is your life and taking just a few of these baby steps will lead you down a path of healing. The path is not clear and there are area's that you can't see very far but learning about yourself and taking control back from the past will clear you way.

 

 

 

lost

[waveseer]

The only reason she felt the need to move away is because she still has feelings for you and she doesn't trust herself not to show them.

[julioiglesia]

only a loser if he is a bitter unforgiving type and the creepy stalking type that drives his ex and new bf crazy.

 

You gotta be the graceful loser who brushes away things and forgives but ok to think about the ex if the past relationsihp was worthwhile and made the person who you are today.

[worlds tallest midget]

im gunna say no i was with a girl for almost 2 yrs and we broke up and its been about 14-15 months n im still not over her so clearly no

[dreamguy]

The only reason she felt the need to move away is because she still has feelings for you and she doesn't trust herself not to show them.

 

Smart answer. Probably true too.