Having to be around a friend after a falling out, blahh

[brighteyes1186]

Well, long story short, there was a bit of drama between me and an ex-friend back in the beginning of summer. It was tough for me, because I'm generally non-confrontational, but my family members felt I was being wronged (and I was) and encouraged me to toughen up and call it off. It was intense and dramatic and ended up involving family.

 

Anyway, a different friend is having a party soon, where we'll both be in attendance, and I'm a bit nervous. I'm obviously not going to purposely ignore or be mean, but I just need some reassurance that this isn't going to be the big disaster that I'm imagining. Anyone have any experience or advice?

[equinox]

Before christmas, I had an interview for a job with a technology company. While waiting to be called in, I was sitting in the staff canteen when the manager walking in with someone else for the job in toe; an ex friend whom I had a HUGE and extremely hateful falling out with. I had to sit with her for 30mins, it was so awkward

 

SO I get how you feel. The best thing is to try to avoid them but dont' go out of your way. Remember, you were wronged so you have nothing to feel guilty about.

[davef]

Two points:

1. I don't know if that was a freudian slip or not be you called him an ex-friend. I am not sure what an ex-friend is but it seems like it is a cross between JF and a lover. In other words, the relationship was NOT that important to you.

 

2. The only disaster that could come of this is if you end up in bed with him.

[brighteyes1186]

Two points:

1. I don't know if that was a freudian slip or not be you called him an ex-friend. I am not sure what an ex-friend is but it seems like it is a cross between JF and a lover. In other words, the relationship was NOT that important to you.

 

2. The only disaster that could come of this is if you end up in bed with him.

Hahaha, DaveF -- this was a platonic, same-sex friendship. (In hindsight, it wasn't much of a friendship, but I digress). On that note, no one has to worry about #2 happening.

[davef]

You could laugh all you want but you never said it was a same sex thing and if it was a former friend you should probably say former friend. Nobody says ex-friend. Anyway, with the new information that you provided, maybe you should sleep with her, that might be interesting.