advice needed.

[danniidramat]

i was going out with a guy for 9 months, i dumped him because i thought he was too good for me + didn't deserve him, i also thought my feelings were gone for him. 3 days later i thought i liked his mate, (they weren't that close) and went out with him for a week. The guy i was going out with before text me to ask if i wanted to still be friends and said i hope you're happy with that ****, i obviously wasn't happy with him calling my boyfriend at the time this. A week later, i realise i like the guy i used to go out with, actually more than like LOVE. and i can't get him off my mind. I got back to school to find out he had had a car crash + wasn't interested in me anymore. He had told me he loved me + we were closer than anything. He was like my best friend. He's now being saying behind my back that i'm a b***h and that i treated him like s**t. And that he treated me like a princess. He now doesn't want to be friends anymore + can't even look me in the eyes, i don't understand why? He was in love with me so why can't we be friends? I know i was harsh by going out with one of his mates days later, but i've realised i've made the biggest mistake ever, anyone know how i can sort it?

[savignon]

If your feelings changed so quickly for him then you can see how it easy it is for people to change their minds....thereforee, I'm not surprised he's not into you anymore. To say you were "so close/best friends" may feel like quite an exaggeration to him after what you did. Guys do not think very highly of exes who date their friends (and less of those who do it in less than a week) Consider it a lesson learned the hard way and move on. I believe in "manifesting your destiny" in respect to your own regard for yourself....you didn't think you were good enough for him, and then behaved accordingly and now he agrees with you. Think about what you want in your next relationship and treat that person, and yourself, better.

[gundr1kr]

If your feelings changed so quickly for him then you can see how it easy it is for people to change their minds....thereforee, I'm not surprised he's not into you anymore. To say you were "so close/best friends" may feel like quite an exaggeration to him after what you did. Guys do not think very highly of exes who date their friends (and less of those who do it in less than a week) Consider it a lesson learned the hard way and move on. I believe in "manifesting your destiny" in respect to your own regard for yourself....you didn't think you were good enough for him, and then behaved accordingly and now he agrees with you. Think about what you want in your next relationship and treat that person, and yourself, better.

 

I couldnt have said it better myself. Nice work.

[rbr85]

According to you, you said he was too good for you and you don't deserve him. It really has little to do with how you look at him, but rather how you look at yourself. Low self-esteem, intimacy issues?

 

You broke it off cause he's "too good for you", and then started to date his friend days later. Then only after he was gone did you appreciate what you had.... or were you feeling needy?

 

I would think a few things if a girl I was dating did this.

 

1. She's BSing me about her true intentions.

2. She's obviously not that into me because otherwise she wouldn't be with my friend days later.

3. Why would I want to be friends with someone who can't even be honest about their true intentions (which are covert and self serving in nature), and who thought so highly of me to start dating my friend days later?

 

I wouldn't bother really, and I'd have similar emotions of anger/betrayal but I would not express it in the childish way he has. You're human, you make mistakes. Take this opportunity not to cry over spilt milk, and learn from your mistakes. Know what you want in a relationship, and effectively communicate your needs. If you "don't deserve someone" then the relationship, isn't really a relationship at all. Let it go, and do things to make yourself happy. Just be straightforward about your wants and needs, rather than externalizing things to someone else.