Had Dinner/drinks With Exboyfriend

[lexy814]

Well, after two years of not seeing one another we finally got together and caught up. We had a couple of drinks then ate dinner. It was a lot of fun. We were talking for about 4 hours or so...When we said goodbye he gave me a hug and said that he would call me for a happy hour sometime or that I should call him. I told him I didn't have his number anymore and he said he would send it to me.

 

It's the weirdest thing, I was sad when we parted like i wanted to go with him. Not to sleep with him or anything, just felt like we get along so great, and have such good chemistry, why can't we be together? The next day, I was overwhelmed with everything, just needed to absorb it. I wonder how he felt?! He hasn't emailed or anything, and I'm wondering if I should send him a message saying I had a good time. Or should I wait until he contacts me?

[riley123]

Who ended things? You or him?

 

I see no problem with sending him a message. Just keep it brief.

[JeckyllNHyde]

i'd ait for him to contact. i think maybe it's just the nostalgia of feeling connected with someone from your past? i get this way when i meet old friends too.. not just old bf's. of course the chemistry and nostalgia is much stronger with an ex bf.. specially if you have a really nice time.

 

let him contact though. that way you'll know for sure if he genuinly felt the same way as you. i mean if he doesnt hold up to his promise about sending you his number then the answer will be a bit more obvious.

why did u both split in the first place?

 

 

just remember to go slow and not have high expectations yet.. it always feels much better however things end up.

[lexy814]

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why did u both split in the first place?

 

 

just remember to go slow and not have high expectations yet.. it always feels much better however things end up.

 

We split because we were both having issues about certain aspects of the relationship~ I got impatient and just ended it with him. I've been through a lot these few years and have thought of him and our relationship and missed him. So i initiated contact. He asked me out a few days ago and being with him just showed me that he's the type of person i would want to end up with, someone who could handle all my quirks ( and i have many!) and just someone i can laugh and talk with about everything, and have great physical chemistry with. I guess that's why i feel sad. But I think it's best to wait and see if he contacts me like he said he would, because he may not feel the same. No matter what happens, it is best to take things slow you all are right.

[riley123]

Sometimes you have to take charge of your own happiness. Don't wait for things to just fall into your lap.

[lexy814]

Sometimes you have to take charge of your own happiness. Don't wait for things to just fall into your lap.

 

You're right, I just don't want to be over anxious. I feel like maybe I should just let things sink in a bit for both of us. It's been three days.