Lauren.xo Posted January 9, 2009 Share Posted January 9, 2009 Your ex doesn't ignore you? If he always answers back? My ex some days wants me.. Otherdays says he is over for good. Now he never msgs me first... But he always answers... He says he needs to forget our past to be with me.. So like a LONG break.. But I don't want to be strung along.. If he doesn't want to be with me, why doesn't he ignore me and stick to it? Even if I cry and beg.. Why doesn't he just cut me out and help me???? Link to comment
Loki71 Posted January 9, 2009 Share Posted January 9, 2009 maybe you should stop contacting him first. Tell him what you want and what you want from him. His reponse will let you know where you stand and what you need to do. Link to comment
justletgo07 Posted January 9, 2009 Share Posted January 9, 2009 I know how you're feeling. When my ex first broke up with me, she kinda led me on for a couple more weeks, making me think that we'd work things out. I ended up just getting rejected repeatedly, which made me a lot worse off than I was from the original break up. He's not going to cut you out and help you because right now he is focused on one thing: himself. He likely feels guilty about hurting you, and wants to keep you as a crutch until he moves on and finds someone new. This is pretty standard behavior for dumpers, and not something you should let get your hopes up. I know it doesn't seem fair, but you are going to have to be the strong one, and say enough is enough. If he wants you, he knows where to find you, but you're not going to wait for him. Link to comment
Lauren.xo Posted January 9, 2009 Author Share Posted January 9, 2009 This has been almost 2 months.. He will take me back, only to dump me again and say its "over for good"... Like I don't want to be his crutch.. But I text him everyday.. I wish he would just ignore me.. After a few days of ignoring I'm sure I'd stop... Why can't they just end it and not make flakey decisions and take you back.. Like this guy will tell me he is over me.. And ill cry and get emotional.. And then when I act a bit ok.. And I go to him.. He will be more willing and come back a bit.. Like seriously guys. I can't be with him and I can't be without him. I wish I was stronger. Link to comment
amipushy Posted January 9, 2009 Share Posted January 9, 2009 He can only do to you what you allow him to do. Tell him to leave you alone and change your number, there is only so much that any person can take and from your post, that time is quickly approaching. Link to comment
Loki71 Posted January 9, 2009 Share Posted January 9, 2009 there is only so much that any person can take and from your post, that time is quickly approaching. That is so true. I just reached my point with my ex yesterday and I am done jumping through hopps for her. Link to comment
Lauren.xo Posted January 9, 2009 Author Share Posted January 9, 2009 The problem is, its not even him msging me.. I ALWAYS msg him.. I never get the same answer each time... Its always different... Most the time he tells me "I don't want you, you will only get hurt talking to me.. When will you Learn"... But then he says stuff like a break, needs to forget stuff.. And even sometimes he has taken me back for a few days. Its just never consistent.. And I never no which part of what he says to read into! Link to comment
fixyou_ Posted January 9, 2009 Share Posted January 9, 2009 Are you still having sex with him? I made that big mistake for a long time. Why would a guy want to "let you go" if he can just get laid whenever he wants, knowing that you'll go along with it. Orrr if you're just simply talking/texting him, the situation still allows him to manipulate you for his own attention. Link to comment
Lauren.xo Posted January 9, 2009 Author Share Posted January 9, 2009 No were in a LDR so there is no sex... I know I need to be the strong one and stand up for myself.. But I really love this guy.. He used to treat me good... I just don't understand. If I don't want someone, I cut them out of my life. I ignore. Link to comment
drewciouS281 Posted January 9, 2009 Share Posted January 9, 2009 you dont need him to help you by him ignoring you. You need to help yourself by not contacting him, duh!!! Just stop contacting him. he doesnt know what he wants and probably wont figure it out for a while. Its a possibility when you guys stop talking he may re think things and want to give it a shot but you guys need to make sure a re peat doesnt happen. Link to comment
rbr85 Posted January 9, 2009 Share Posted January 9, 2009 You're letting him string you along. He's keeping you around because it's convenient, you provide an emotional buffer when he's feeling down, and he's keeping one door open with you while he explores other options. He clearly doesn't respect you, and you're turning yourself into a walking joke. Put your foot down, let this one go. Link to comment
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