scared

[in_the_mirror]

alright me and my boyfriend broke up about two weeks ago cuz he kinda a scared me. i thought he was gonna hit me cuz he also threatened to. so after talking about it we broke up on good terms with the possibility of getting back together. well he couldn't deal with it and got angry with me for needed time to think about times so we broke up for good. he wants to know if we can get back together and when i say im not sure he goes nuts on me and starts yelling and calling me a whore saying i never loved him and i just used him. which is so not true. and basically he was making fun of me and my friends and then they started talking back and sticking up for me. well he keeps apologizing and i keep forgiving him for it and then he asks again and i told him i want to just be friends and it starts all over. well just last nite he kept calling and finally i told my ma to answer and he began fighting with her and she got very upset with me and we talked about it and said if i am threatened or feel unsafe at school again that we are gonna do something about it. now my ex is a nice guy he really is but he just has some self esteem and other problems (we think he is bipolar) but i feel bad for him and i don't want people to start hateing him like they are beginning to because of the scenes at school cuz that will just make things worse. i can't just talk to him cuz every time i try the yelling on his part starts. should i just ignore him at all costs until he calms down. i really don't know at all what i should do. i know for a fact i dont' want to be with him at all cuzz he was to possesive of me but i want to help him. but i am still kind of scared of him.

[Mar]

I think you should let him know in no uncertain terms that his attitude is threatening and you'd really rather not have contact with him until he can treat you with some respect. Calling you names and verbally harassing you and your family are NOT signs of someone feeling regret over the loss of a mate and an attempt at reconciliation.

 

If he contacts you again, I would suggest letting him know that you'd rather be left alone and that he should move on with his life. This doesn't sound like a very healthy/mature individual, and it doesn't appear he's had a whole lot of positive influence in your life. Better to cut your losses now before it can escalate further. I wish you the best of luck!

 

Mar